Did you/Do you want a big family?

And does the prospect of it not being easy depress you or do you just learn to handle it one day at a time?

When I was younger, I could have easily seen myself with at least 5 kids. I have always wanted a very large family, lots of kids. While Im only 30 and technically young, the recent events scare me, and I feel kinda hopeless before I even STARTED...does that make sense?

I would still love to have at least 3 kids..but if its like this...I dont know how to deal with it?


SO..how many kids do you wish in a perfect workd you could have?

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I always joked I wanted 6. DH said 1 per parent, so I could have more if I found more husbands.

But I always figured I would talk him into at least 3. The thought of not being able to do that scares me to death.

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We always wanted 3. But now...as it gets harder and harder to even conceive our first, I just dont know. Some days I cant even breathe through how much it hurts and others I accept that in the end, it will be Gods choice.

If it was meant that we only have one for some reason, then after much questioning in my mind I am sure, I will accept it. If it comes to be that one is not even in our future for some reason, I will not be able to accept it as easily. For now..I am having high hopes and praying for three.

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IN the perfect world I would have 3. Two girls and one boy.

In the real world...I'll take 1...2...3...all the same sex...I don't care

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I used to always want between 2 and 4, but now I don't even think about it and am just hoping to be blessed with 1.

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there is a debate in our household

boosh wants 3

i would be happy with 2

we compromised

if we are lucky enough to have 2 and they are 2 of the same sex, we'll go for #3

if we have one of each, we stop

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I thought 3 - then I got divorced - so I figured I still had time for 2 - now if I have 1 I will be happy.

Twins - to me - would be the best!!! I got used to the idea after the Dr. told me I had twins, and when I lost the first I realized that it would have been such a wonderful blessing!!

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DH only wants one, but I want 2, so Im praying for twins

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I too would be happy with just one healthy child..in a heartbeat. I just am having a difficult time thinking that a "large" family might not be in the cards for us. Maybe it will, but I thought it best to allow myself to think it may not be. But who knows..

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I used to want 4 or 5. As I grew older, I only wanted 2. Now I'll take a tribe, one, whatever.

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I honestly never thought about how many children I wanted until I met DH. Then I just wanted to have a baby with him...so if I can manage that I will be thrilled!