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Jenn27
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i hate being a working mom
this post is just me looking for someones shoulder to cry on. i started back to work full time last wed and i hate it. i have panic attacks when i get to work and have this nagging feeling in my stomach all day. i miss my son so much it hurts. granted i work 5 mins from home and come home at lunch but by the time i get home at night its after 5 and the night flies by and he is in bed. i have been home for 11 months with him and am grateful for that but this is the hardest thing i have ever done....
thanks for listening
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btrflygrl
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Re: i hate being a working mom
 it must be SO hard, I can't even imagine. Hang in there.....it'll get better!
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| Posted 9/6/05 9:59 PM |
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Aliking
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| Posted 9/6/05 10:15 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Jenn I know the feeling! I went back to work today DH is took the week off today so the transistion will be easier but next week when she goes to daycare I will be dying (even though she will only be in there for 4 hours every day) I have so many emotions about it, I truly understand how you feel
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| Posted 9/6/05 10:15 PM |
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Jenn27
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by Jamie
Jenn I know the feeling! I went back to work today DH is took the week off today so the transistion will be easier but next week when she goes to daycare I will be dying (even though she will only be in there for 4 hours every day) I have so many emotions about it, I truly understand how you feel
thank you. its nice to know i am not alone. you hang in there also. it has to get better right?
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| Posted 9/6/05 10:19 PM |
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Kierasmom
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Re: i hate being a working mom
It's hard to do but hang in there. Eventually you do get a little use to it. And the nice thing about it is you really appreciate the time that you do get to spend with them because you now understand how precious it is.
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| Posted 9/6/05 10:21 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by Jenn27
Posted by Jamie
Jenn I know the feeling! I went back to work today DH is took the week off today so the transistion will be easier but next week when she goes to daycare I will be dying (even though she will only be in there for 4 hours every day) I have so many emotions about it, I truly understand how you feel
thank you. its nice to know i am not alone. you hang in there also. it has to get better right?
I hope so!!!
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| Posted 9/6/05 10:37 PM |
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iffer042373
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Re: i hate being a working mom
I know exactly how you feel I have been backto work for quite sometime and I hate it I work in manhattan and live i queens so it takes me an hour to get home. I do want to get a job closer to home but its hard to find. I know what its l ike to get home at nite and not having that much time to spend with your child cuz I get home cook dinner feed my daughter I spend a few hours with her then put her to bed. On the weekends it all about her I wish I had more time to spend with her
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| Posted 9/7/05 10:58 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: i hate being a working mom
I just posted about this too. I don't feel your pain yet but I soon will. 
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| Posted 9/7/05 11:07 AM |
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paulandles912
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Re: i hate being a working mom
I feel for you and am suffering right along with you! I went back to work FT when Andrew was 11 weeks old. And since I moved out to LI, my commute is 3 hours round trip, so I'm away from him even longer.
It is awful and sad, but my job keeps me very busy that my days go by pretty quickly. I have a zillion pictures of him all over my cubicle.
I've been trying to find a job close to home, but haven't had any luck yet.
I hope it gets easier for you!
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| Posted 9/7/05 11:45 AM |
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rose825
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Re: i hate being a working mom
It does get easier if that helps!! Now when I get home I feel like Ryan is so happy to see me it seems even more special.
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| Posted 9/7/05 7:54 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: i hate being a working mom
It's not so much the time away for the purpose of work that gets to me, but it's ANY time I spend away from her that is considered "free" i.e. non working hours. Even if I'm house cleaning, I'm wracked with guilt because I know that I should be spending that time with her, since I'm away from her so many hours. It really, really sux!
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| Posted 9/7/05 8:35 PM |
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Debbie
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Re: i hate being a working mom
I went back last Thursday. I was off for the summer. Last night I cried and cried to my dh. I am just soooo sad about leaving her too. She is a year now, I know she'll be fine. It is soooo me. I just miss her sooo much. My heart just aches.
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| Posted 9/7/05 8:41 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by Debbie
I went back last Thursday. I was off for the summer. Last night I cried and cried to my dh. I am just soooo sad about leaving her too. She is a year now, I know she'll be fine. It is soooo me. I just miss her sooo much. My heart just aches.
Awwhhh, I'm so sorry Deb
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| Posted 9/7/05 8:50 PM |
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Debbie
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by ambersmom
Posted by Debbie
I went back last Thursday. I was off for the summer. Last night I cried and cried to my dh. I am just soooo sad about leaving her too. She is a year now, I know she'll be fine. It is soooo me. I just miss her sooo much. My heart just aches.
Awwhhh, I'm so sorry Deb
Thanks, The hardest thing I have ever done is go back to work. I understand how all the mommies are feeling. We are all hear for each other. I always feel so supported on this board. Venting always helps Jen. It is a tough transition!
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| Posted 9/7/05 8:55 PM |
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justthe4ofus
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Yesterday was my first day back and I was Okay with it. I wasn't bad. When I got home she seemed like she was soooooo mad at me for being gone. That made me feel so awful and filled with guilt. Today she was much happier to see me but still for some reason today was soooooooooooo much worse leaving her. I guess I know that she will be starting daycare next week at this time and my heart is breaking about it!
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| Posted 9/7/05 9:48 PM |
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Jenn27
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by ambersmom
It's not so much the time away for the purpose of work that gets to me, but it's ANY time I spend away from her that is considered "free" i.e. non working hours. Even if I'm house cleaning, I'm wracked with guilt because I know that I should be spending that time with her, since I'm away from her so many hours. It really, really sux!
this is how i feel! i feel like i cant do anything but be with him. and if i am cleaning or doing something else i have extreme guilt! I even feel like i am neglecting DH because he is not first at all anymore. its all about anthony! It suxs so bad that i want to scream!
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| Posted 9/8/05 11:46 PM |
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Jenn27
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by Jamie
Yesterday was my first day back and I was Okay with it. I wasn't bad. When I got home she seemed like she was soooooo mad at me for being gone. That made me feel so awful and filled with guilt. Today she was much happier to see me but still for some reason today was soooooooooooo much worse leaving her. I guess I know that she will be starting daycare next week at this time and my heart is breaking about it!
i cried all night last night because he seemed mad at me.
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iffer042373
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Re: i hate being a working mom
I have to say what makes my day after working and having an hour commute each way on the smelly subway is when I come home and walk through the door from work and my daughter comes running to me and hugs me and all
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Ambersmom
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by Jamie
Yesterday was my first day back and I was Okay with it. I wasn't bad. When I got home she seemed like she was soooooo mad at me for being gone. That made me feel so awful and filled with guilt. Today she was much happier to see me but still for some reason today was soooooooooooo much worse leaving her. I guess I know that she will be starting daycare next week at this time and my heart is breaking about it!
I'm so sorry Jamie. All I can say is it will get better with time
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| Posted 9/9/05 4:49 PM |
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Ambersmom
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Re: i hate being a working mom
Posted by Jenn27
Posted by ambersmom
It's not so much the time away for the purpose of work that gets to me, but it's ANY time I spend away from her that is considered "free" i.e. non working hours. Even if I'm house cleaning, I'm wracked with guilt because I know that I should be spending that time with her, since I'm away from her so many hours. It really, really sux!
this is how i feel! i feel like i cant do anything but be with him. and if i am cleaning or doing something else i have extreme guilt! I even feel like i am neglecting DH because he is not first at all anymore. its all about anthony! It suxs so bad that i want to scream!
My husband knows he is last on the food chain. After the baby, jobs, pets and house he MIGHT get some attention. He's not always thrilled with that scenario but that is life. The life we both created for ourselves so no sense complaining about it. Thankfully he's independant to a degree and finds things to occupy his time with when I'm not available.
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