DS is being soooo bad

So far 3 1/2 is worse than anythign terrible twos. My normally well behaved pleasant child has become a monster. Yelling, screaming, hitting, kicking, throwing things and not listening at all. Right now he is actually grounded. Yes I have grounded my 3 year old. He has been non stop crying for an hour now. I swear the punishment is worse on us.

My DH is sooo frustrated too.

I am trying to put him to bed earlier, enforcing time out when necessary (which he hates) and rewarding good behavior, but it aint working. A few days ago I told him if he didnt behave I was going to throw out his favorite movie and he told me to do it. So I did (at least he thinks so) and he let me. I have tried to reward him with "buying" it again but when I say if you do this you'll get it, he says no thanks. And this is his FAVORITE movie.

Please tell me this passes quickly.
I know there arent many BTDT moms out there. But I need some ideas here. I literally am losing my mind with how unbearable he is. Of course he is still great at the day care and with the sitter but with us .

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I haven't been there yet, so I can't share any words of wisdom. Just wanted to send some hugs your way!

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It might pass by the time he is 4. Sammy was a sweet loving 2 year old , at three he was terrible at times . He turned 4 may 29th and is getting better. The other day we tried to give him a time out though and his response was " No ! four year olds dont get timeouts"

Message edited 6/28/2006 11:25:41 PM.

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Posted by rose825

So far 3 1/2 is worse than anythign terrible twos. My normally well behaved pleasant child has become a monster. Yelling, screaming, hitting, kicking, throwing things and not listening at all. Right now he is actually grounded. Yes I have grounded my 3 year old. He has been non stop crying for an hour now. I swear the punishment is worse on us.

My DH is sooo frustrated too.

I am trying to put him to bed earlier, enforcing time out when necessary (which he hates) and rewarding good behavior, but it aint working. A few days ago I told him if he didnt behave I was going to throw out his favorite movie and he told me to do it. So I did (at least he thinks so) and he let me. I have tried to reward him with "buying" it again but when I say if you do this you'll get it, he says no thanks. And this is his FAVORITE movie.

Please tell me this passes quickly.
I know there arent many BTDT moms out there. But I need some ideas here. I literally am losing my mind with how unbearable he is. Of course he is still great at the day care and with the sitter but with us .

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I have a 3 1/2 year old son too and all I can say is I'm right there with you, sister. Right there!! I never had the TTs with him and now he is so fresh sometimes...OMG! All-in-all a really good kid but ay-yi-yi Someone recommended a book called "1-2-3 Magic" that I recently purchased. Its a slow read and my house has been crazy with a newborn but what I've read, I like. There are so many parenting books out there but this one seems to have some good ideas.

Hang in there - "they" say this passes and you generally get a sweet kid for a few years till they get bigger and give you other kinds of guff.

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Posted by rose825

So far 3 1/2 is worse than anythign terrible twos. My normally well behaved pleasant child has become a monster. Yelling, screaming, hitting, kicking, throwing things and not listening at all. Right now he is actually grounded. Yes I have grounded my 3 year old. He has been non stop crying for an hour now. I swear the punishment is worse on us.

My DH is sooo frustrated too.

I am trying to put him to bed earlier, enforcing time out when necessary (which he hates) and rewarding good behavior, but it aint working. A few days ago I told him if he didnt behave I was going to throw out his favorite movie and he told me to do it. So I did (at least he thinks so) and he let me. I have tried to reward him with "buying" it again but when I say if you do this you'll get it, he says no thanks. And this is his FAVORITE movie.

Please tell me this passes quickly.
I know there arent many BTDT moms out there. But I need some ideas here. I literally am losing my mind with how unbearable he is. Of course he is still great at the day care and with the sitter but with us .

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DS isn't even close to being 3 1/2. Just wanted to give some hugs

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Posted by Elizabeth

I have a 3 1/2 year old son too and all I can say is I'm right there with you, sister. Right there!! I never had the TTs with him and now he is so fresh sometimes...OMG! All-in-all a really good kid but ay-yi-yi Someone recommended a book called "1-2-3 Magic" that I recently purchased. Its a slow read and my house has been crazy with a newborn but what I've read, I like. There are so many parenting books out there but this one seems to have some good ideas.

Hang in there - "they" say this passes and you generally get a sweet kid for a few years till they get bigger and give you other kinds of guff.

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Hey Pauline,
Nicholas went through THE SAME EXACT THING!!! Still knows how to push my buttons now at 4 and a half, but NOTHING like a year ago. He was beastly (I know, hard to imagine...but true). Hitting, screaming, ignoring...I would go to sleep with a sore throat from all the screaming. It is a phase, thank God. I don't know if it's a growth spurt, or they feel like sowing their little oats...whatever it is, take a deep breath because it eventually passes.
Once Nicholas went to school and saw in other children what he was doing to me day in and day out, it stopped. He would come home and tell me that so and so was screaming and giving the teacher a hard time. I told him that's what he did to me all summer. He said he was sorry...and I'm not kidding...he stopped. Little infractions here and there, but NOTHING like the tantrums.

So hold on...relief is on the way. We'll schedule some playdates and all will be good!

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It's def a phase and the worst part for me is that I would have his brother IMITATING him so I had to crazy, wild kids, while my daughter would look on like who are those two? lol All I can say is to hang in there and it will pass..Just stick to your guns mom and try and keep your cool (always the hard part, I know! lol)

Editted to say that time-outs are also meant for parents.. So when you put your child in TO, you too get some time to relax and re-group.

Message edited 6/29/2006 8:53:37 AM.

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Caiden gets like this A LOT and he's not even 2.5. I wish I could give you some advice, but I need some myself!!!

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Oh Pauline, I'm sorry DS is being a bit bratty! I'm not a BTDT Mom but wanted to send

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Posted by MrsJ

Oh Pauline, I'm sorry DS is being a bit bratty! I'm not a BTDT Mom but wanted to send