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Need friend related advice.

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MrsProfessor
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Need friend related advice.

I have a friend I haven't spoken to in about 4 years. At the time I was fed up with her and her behavior, and I chose to walk away from the friendship. I've had a lot of regret ever since, and thought about contacting her. I saw her about a year ago (we both work in the same school district) and she was cordial to me.

I have always felt guilty about how I left things. Even though she was a difficult person, she was still a good person and a good friend and in hindsight I know that I was not always a good friend to her.

I don't have her phone # or address and since she's a teacher she's probably unlisted. I was thinking about emailing her because I have her email addy. Would that be tacky? I don't know how else to get in touch with her and I would not want to put her on the spot by just showing up at her school. If she tells me to go scratch I can accept that; I just want to apologize more than anything and see if anything can be salvaged of our friendship.

TIA.

Posted 6/27/06 3:02 PM
 
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Liz
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Re: Need friend related advice.

I think emailing her is a great idea. She too might regret how things were back when you were friends. Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 3:05 PM
 

pmpkn087
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Re: Need friend related advice.

I think you can definately email her. Maybe say something like "I have been thinking about you lately and thought maybe we could go for a drink." IMO, that is a semi-apology.

Posted 6/27/06 3:11 PM
 

Tany
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Re: Need friend related advice.

definitely, if it's that important to you.

maybe she was too afraid to do it, but will appreciate it.

Posted 6/27/06 3:12 PM
 

DaniMo
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Re: Need friend related advice.

Emailing her is definitely a great idea. Good luck :)

Posted 6/27/06 3:12 PM
 

CaseyGirl
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Re: Need friend related advice.

Not tacky at all. People change. I just did something similiar and I am glad I did. It worked out for the best. Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 3:13 PM
 

LAMGAJ28
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Re: Need friend related advice.

When trying to salvage a friendship, I think what matters is that you are trying to contact her regardless if it's by email, phone etc.
If she's on the same page like you are, she will probably be happy you contact her.
Good Luck !! Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 3:16 PM
 

kms717
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Re: Need friend related advice.

A heart felt appology is always a good idea no matter how the message gets to her. I think an email would be a great idea.

I hope it works out for you Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 3:28 PM
 

MrsProfessor
hi

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Re: Need friend related advice.

Thank you ladies. I've been thinking about this for a while and am going to do it. Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 3:35 PM
 

dpli
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D

Re: Need friend related advice.

I think email is a great idea too. That way, if she wants to accept the apology and mend the friendship, she can, but if she doesn't, she can ignore it or just thank you for apologizing and leave it at that. I would find that less awkward and intrusive and it lets her decide what she wants to do.

Good luck Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 3:43 PM
 

2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Need friend related advice.

Posted by kms717

A heart felt appology is always a good idea no matter how the message gets to her. I think an email would be a great idea.

I hope it works out for you Chat Icon



I agree.

Posted 6/27/06 3:44 PM
 

MABLE03
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Re: Need friend related advice.

Posted by Aliasmom

definitely, if it's that important to you.

maybe she was too afraid to do it, but will appreciate it.



i agree

Posted 6/27/06 3:45 PM
 

MrsPorkChop
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Re: Need friend related advice.

a good email that is sincere will definitely help things if she wants to reconnect.


i want to add this- because i also have a friend that i "dumped" and the second she got back into my life she was just as annoying as she was in the past- -

just remember why you ended the friendship in the first place- people usually dont change- so just be careful not to get yourself into the same situation with her - or be prepared to keep her more distanced

Posted 6/27/06 4:10 PM
 

Summer05
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Re: Need friend related advice.

I would definitely email her! Good luck!!Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 4:15 PM
 

MrsProfessor
hi

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Re: Need friend related advice.

Posted by preshy7

i want to add this- because i also have a friend that i "dumped" and the second she got back into my life she was just as annoying as she was in the past- -

just remember why you ended the friendship in the first place- people usually dont change- so just be careful not to get yourself into the same situation with her - or be prepared to keep her more distanced



I have thought about this a lot, and have really questioned whether or not letting this go was a good decision, and came to the conclusion that I was not always as patient as I could have been, and that at heart she's a good person. So I think I am making the right decision. Even if nothing comes of it, I am glad I apologized (just sent off the email a few minutes ago!)

Thanks again ladies.

Posted 6/27/06 4:20 PM
 

MrsPorkChop
Twinning!!

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Missy

Re: Need friend related advice.

Posted by MrsProfessor

Posted by preshy7

i want to add this- because i also have a friend that i "dumped" and the second she got back into my life she was just as annoying as she was in the past- -

just remember why you ended the friendship in the first place- people usually dont change- so just be careful not to get yourself into the same situation with her - or be prepared to keep her more distanced



I have thought about this a lot, and have really questioned whether or not letting this go was a good decision, and came to the conclusion that I was not always as patient as I could have been, and that at heart she's a good person. So I think I am making the right decision. Even if nothing comes of it, I am glad I apologized (just sent off the email a few minutes ago!)

Thanks again ladies.


thats great - let us know how she responds! i hope it works out the way you wantChat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 4:36 PM
 

suvenR
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Re: Need friend related advice.

Not tacky at all!

I'd email to say that you feel bad about losing touch and want to get together or something like that.

Posted 6/27/06 4:39 PM
 

traceyd
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Re: Need friend related advice.

I see that you already sent the email I was going to vote in favor of that-I'm sort of in a similar situation-keep us posted on how it turns outChat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 4:39 PM
 

jenny
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Re: Need friend related advice.

Let us know what happens. Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 6/27/06 4:43 PM
 

jenny
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Re: Need friend related advice.

sorry for the double post...computer problemsChat Icon

Message edited 6/27/2006 4:48:08 PM.

Posted 6/27/06 4:47 PM
 
 

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