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Tell me what you think?( friend related)

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luvsbob4603
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Tell me what you think?( friend related)


I have a friend i knew since she was 5 and i was 7 years old. well When I got married she was in my wedding. Now she got engaged and is getting married on April 1st of next year. Her family had a engagement party and ok sometimes you just want family but i feel like she was at my engagement party and I was not even a thought for that and Now after this time she was telling me I was going to be in her wedding all of a sudden she says I am not. How would you feel, would you feel Hurt? I just feel like My friendship with this person is drifting and I just dont want to be bothered with her anymore I know i should not feel hurt that I am not in her wedding but I guess maybe if she did NOT say to me Oh I want you in my wedding and than say I am not the way she did It would not bother me. Thanks.

Posted 5/26/06 9:52 PM
 
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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

Awwww. Yes, I'd be a little hurt! Maybe she wants to keep the wedding party small?
Did she promise you would be in her wedding?
You weren't invited to the engagement party? Well, that I understand..I just got a flashback of my brother's engagement party. It was immediate family only and the bridal party, which you know are all related to the bride and groom. We are either a brother or a sister or cousin. There are no friends in the bridal party. So, I do understand that!
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Posted 5/26/06 9:57 PM
 

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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

I would be sad that I wasn't invited. Now that you've planned your own wedding, you know how hectic it can be to include everyone & exclude people due to cost or family obligations.

If your friendship is truly drifting (and you really don't care), then you shouldn't be in her bridal party. If you're sad about your friendship drifting (bridal party issue aside), step up to the plate. Call her, help her with her wedding, putting invitations together, etc. & accept that you're not in the bridal party. Weddings last one day - I wouldn't lose a friendship over it.

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Posted 5/26/06 10:01 PM
 

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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

Posted by nrthshgrl

I would be sad that I wasn't invited. Now that you've planned your own wedding, you know how hectic it can be to include everyone & exclude people due to cost or family obligations.

If your friendship is truly drifting (and you really don't care), then you shouldn't be in her bridal party. If you're sad about your friendship drifting (bridal party issue aside), step up to the plate. Call her, help her with her wedding, putting invitations together, etc. & accept that you're not in the bridal party. Weddings last one day - I wouldn't lose a friendship over it.

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i agree.

Posted 5/26/06 10:04 PM
 

luvsbob4603
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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

She kept telling me I was going to be in the wedding and she really wanted me in it and than all of a sudden she didn't. I dont know if she wants a small wedding she is having a normal size wedding. this drifting apart has been going on for awhile and i think we are two different people and the friends I do have I have more in common with than with her. I Do yes feel hurt because I thought we were going to be in each others wedding but i guess this is a blessing in disguise and just go our seperate ways. thanks!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/26/06 10:12 PM
 

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I am sorry that you and your friend are drifting apart, but look at the bright side, you won't have any of the stresses related to being in a BP and you can save $. It always hurts to see a friendship change though.Chat Icon

Posted 5/26/06 10:51 PM
 

luvsbob4603
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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

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I am sorry that you and your friend are drifting apart, but look at the bright side, you won't have any of the stresses related to being in a BP and you can save $. It always hurts to see a friendship change though.Chat Icon

Thank you and I agree I mean Dh and I bought a House so I guess like i said its a blessing in a disguise!

Posted 5/26/06 10:58 PM
 

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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

Do you think maybe because you guys bought the house, she figures you need to save $?
Im so bad, I completley forgot she was in your wedding party with us.
Im also guilty..My friend from HS was not in my wedding party, however, this past Oct. I was in hers. I still kind of regret not asking her.
Once again, I am sorry! Maybe she will ask you to do a reading or something?

Posted 5/27/06 8:21 AM
 

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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

did she give you a reason for not wanting you int he wedding now?

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Posted 5/27/06 10:34 AM
 

luvsbob4603
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Re: Tell me what you think?( friend related)

Posted by dm24angel

did she give you a reason for not wanting you int he wedding now?

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No she hasn't. But To tell you the truth I dont know if I really want to speak to her Right now!

Posted 5/27/06 12:32 PM
 
 

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