bad to be involved in everything for your shower?

my family isn't big on baby showers (a superstitious thing i guess)....anyway, i really want one. and i know that my mom has a ton of stuff going on this spring (my sister graduating from 8th grade, my brother graduating from college, the baby coming.....my cousins communion..). anyway, since i want one so bad (i sound terrible, i know), i told her i would get invites, figure out the food situation, the guest list, etc......there are extras that i would love for someone to think of like the book idea (everyone brings their favorite childrens book), some games, etc....
and i also told my mom i just wanted to do a brunch at her house. since it'll probably be in may.
am i terrible for all of this? and is it really bad that i'm so involved? does that make me look really selfish? i feel somewhat bad, but don't want it to get lost in the mess of everything else going on. i have all these great ideas for when my little sister (who's 13) gets married and has children, or when my friends do. it kind of makes me sad that i am on my own planning my own party! do i sound completely insane?!
seriously- you can tell me....breakdowns are my thing lately!!!

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I don't think it's weird for you to want a shower so badly. I also think it's fine for you to help out in the planning. But I do think maybe you can ask your closest friend if she would mind helping your mom out so you don't have to do too much. Is this the first grandchild? I only ask because I would think your mom would be really excited to host it if it's her first grandbaby.

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I did everything for my shower. I wasn't going to have one, but my grandmother was in the hospital for my bridal shower and was really sad about it, so we had one just for her sake.

Anyway, my MIL lives out of state, my mom was working full time and caring for my sick elderly grandmother, I don't have any sisters, SILs, or even female cousins who could do it. We said it was thrown by my mom & MIL, but I designed, printed, stuffed and mailed the invites, my best friend helped me make the favors, I picked the location and menu, and then I went ahead of time and set all the centerpieces up and put out the favors. Nobody else knew how much I did, but I also didn't pretend like it was a surprise. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do.

Message edited 3/6/2006 2:46:59 PM.

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yup- its the first grandchild...i think if there wasn't so many things going on, my mom might be a bit more drivne to plan, but bc its the only major thing going on for me, its all i think about. i'm nuts, i know it.....

and i'm sure my mom will and would do a great job, if i would just get off her back. i just worry things won't get done in time!

i'm terrible....

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I was involved with the details of my shower....nothing wrong with it!

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I'm VERY involved with my shower. I made the invitations and came up with the theme and how everything was going to be. My mom and my cousin helping out with the planning as well, but my family knows that I am the party planner in the family. Most parties in the family don't go on without someone asking me to come up with a theme and to help them plan it.

It is somewhat therapeutic for me to plan things and know what and how everything is going to be.

I think it is WONDERFUL that you want to step in to help your mom at this time. A lot of girls would be ****** that their mom's plate is full.

GOOD LUCK!

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I dont think there is anything wrong with it at all. I had a lot to do with planning things for my shower too. I picked the date, time, place, guest list. There is nothing wrong with it IMO.

Do you have Aunts, cousins or friends qho could help you out with planning? You could ask a couple of people and then give thema list of things you would lik e- like the book idea.

I'm sure your Mom will help out too when she can.

ETA I also helped pick out the invites and I picked out the favors

Message edited 3/6/2006 3:18:10 PM.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with that. This is your first baby, and it should be fun, and exciting, and wonderful for you. If you have to help out your Mom to make it that way, then fine. You should enjoy it!!