spinoff to vegetarians and carnivores

if you are not yet married, do you think that if one is a vegetarian/vegan, the other should be? for example, if i am a vegetarian and fh is not, should he change b/c of me? and vise versa

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I don't think so, but I think you need to try to be respectful of one another. Like Fh knows I won't cook meat for him. He also know it really would make me sick to open my fridge and find a big hunk of raw meat next to my tofu, so we've agreed on some compromises. If he wants to eat meat, he has to cook it himself and keep it away from my food. Usually this amounts to him eating it outside of the house or eating it in frozen dinners. It doesn't bother him, because he's gotten used to less meat. Also, we're keeping the minifridge he had from college and when we're married, if he wants to have meat for any reason, he can keep in there where it won't bother me, and eat it on paper plates.

We don't go to this extent right now in his apt, but as long as it's kept sealed and away from my food I don't mind.

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I don't think so. If one person really like meat, I don't think they should have to give that up just bc their spouse doesn't eat meat, although I think they should be sensitive to the situation.
In my case, DH doesn't eat any pork products, but I will. So, I don't bring it in the house, and I don't order it when we go out to eat together (bc then we can't share).

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I didn't make DH become vegetarian, but he cooks and purchases any meat that he wants to consume. It has its own compartment in the fridge and it can nly be cooked in certain pans with certain utensils. As I stated in the other post, I was lucky that DH was raised by a veg mom so he grew up with similar rules in his house. Honestly, he very rarely eats meat at home because I do most of the cooking.

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no, but on a side note, I don't like when I hear that vegans force their eating habits on their children, especially because of milk!

Message edited 5/3/2006 1:01:25 PM.

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I'm a vegetarian and my husband eats meat...I don't have a problem with his eating habits, and he doesn't mind mine as well.

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I don't think they need to change their eating habits but they shouldn't expect their SO to have to cook meat.

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I was a veggie for two years and I wouldn't expect that my SO changed his eating habits for me. Dh likes to eat exotic foods and I despise it. But I wil not chnage my eating habits for him and he won't do it for me. I think it's cool that we're enjoy to eat different things.

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My best friend is a vegetarian and her DH is a big meat eater. They have no issues. She will even cook meat for him, as she has for me. She's actually pretty good too! She did feed her children meat although she was very sad when her pediatrician gave the okay. As it turns out, her daughters don't like red meat so they'll probably wind up being full-blown vegitarians one day too.

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I don't eat dairy, red meat or pork - there is absolutely no reason why DH shouldn't enjoy a burger, bacon or skim milk in his cereal.

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I would not expect DH to change that eating habit to suit me.

My friends fiancee is vegetarian, and she does not expect him to stop eating meat for her.

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No, absolutely not. They should be able to co-exist with their differences in eating choices happily. I think that it's fine if a vegetarian doesn't want to cook meat for their spouse but sometimes people impose alot of demands on others to meet their special needs or nutrition requirements and that's where I think it gets unfair.

For example, I think for a meat eating wife to demand that her veggie DH cook meat for her is unfair. But to ask him to buy meat when he's out at the grocery store, is not. I think both sides have to compromise.

Unlike my cousin and her BF. He is vegetarian and he has basically forced her to become one also. I know she loves to eat meat because when they broke up for a short time she went right back to it, and then quit again when they got back together. He says that he refuses to kiss her if she ate meat because it's disgusting.


I mean no offense but I have to ask - for the vegetarians that won't allow meat to be cooked in the same pans and using the same utensils, what is the reasoning behind that? I just think forcing your SO to eat off of a paper plate just because they are eating something you don't like (or chose not to eat) sounds like a bit much.

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Posted by BabyAvocado

No, absolutely not. They should be able to co-exist with their differences in eating choices happily. I think that it's fine if a vegetarian doesn't want to cook meat for their spouse but sometimes people impose alot of demands on others to meet their special needs or nutrition requirements and that's where I think it gets unfair.

For example, I think for a meat eating wife to demand that her veggie DH cook meat for her is unfair. But to ask him to buy meat when he's out at the grocery store, is not. I think both sides have to compromise.

Unlike my cousin and her BF. He is vegetarian and he has basically forced her to become one also. I know she loves to eat meat because when they broke up for a short time she went right back to it, and then quit again when they got back together. He says that he refuses to kiss her if she ate meat because it's disgusting.


I mean no offense but I have to ask - for the vegetarians that won't allow meat to be cooked in the same pans and using the same utensils, what is the reasoning behind that? I just think forcing your SO to eat off of a paper plate just because they are eating something you don't like (or chose not to eat) sounds like a bit much.

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Interesting - this was just posted on Parenting.

Soy Milk & Rice Milk

Post on Parenting

Given the fact that Rice Milk & Soy Milk do not provide the all of nutrients babies need to grow, not to mention the fact that there is no mention of DHA which is essential to brain development, IMO, vegans should make damn sure they breastfeed.

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Posted by BabyAvocado

No, absolutely not. They should be able to co-exist with their differences in eating choices happily. I think that it's fine if a vegetarian doesn't want to cook meat for their spouse but sometimes people impose alot of demands on others to meet their special needs or nutrition requirements and that's where I think it gets unfair.

For example, I think for a meat eating wife to demand that her veggie DH cook meat for her is unfair. But to ask him to buy meat when he's out at the grocery store, is not. I think both sides have to compromise.

Unlike my cousin and her BF. He is vegetarian and he has basically forced her to become one also. I know she loves to eat meat because when they broke up for a short time she went right back to it, and then quit again when they got back together. He says that he refuses to kiss her if she ate meat because it's disgusting.


I mean no offense but I have to ask - for the vegetarians that won't allow meat to be cooked in the same pans and using the same utensils, what is the reasoning behind that? I just think forcing your SO to eat off of a paper plate just because they are eating something you don't like (or chose not to eat) sounds like a bit much.

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I'm a vegetarian who eats fish (pesce-vegetarian ) and my DH eats meat. However he doesn't eat it at home - unless we're BBQ'ing - not at my request he's just considerate. I also think he's secretly appreciative b/c before me his cholesterol was high (and it runs in his family) and now it's at 150!

So to answer your question, while I would love for him to be vegetarian, it is not something I've ever pushed on him...nor do I think it should be.

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