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05mommy09
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My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
my shower was today
I was totally shocked....my friend came over and we just lounged around...we ran some errands and in the middle of shopping my mom called me and said she needed me to pick her up...cuz she was dropping her truck off at the shop...
Well when I got to my moms house to drop her off everyone was there...
The house looked beautiful and I got sooooo many presents....
Of course there was one small problem... my MIL (i know those of you who follow my stories are shocked right??? lol)
I could feel the hostility in the house when I arrived... and shortly after kissing everyone hello she approached me and said she wasnt feeling well.. and she was leaving
I knew something had happened..and she wasnt really sick... because all I did was overhear her complaining and telling everyone "im leaving and I dont care who knows it!!!"
My friends co-workers and family all approached me many a times to tell me who rude my MIL was...
Shortly after she left her friends and family left one by one...Without saying goodbye, eating, getting a favor or anything!!!
I come to find out at the end of the shower...when she arrived at my mothers house an hour before the guests were to arrive...my mom was not up to par with how she felt things she be done...so she took over giving order immediately.. Making my mom and the friends and family who were helping feel like sh!t!!! And my dad saw all this and snapped at her...and well there ya go!!
Now the whole family is fighting...and on my special day I was left in tears...most importantly my poor mom feels like a failure and I just feel so bad for her...
I have no pics...for my friend who got me to leave my house couldnt find my digital camera...once the reg photos get printed up,,, ill scan them!!
I got sooooooooo many presents... and those who stayed were a blast!!!!
WHat do I do now?????? When will things get easy for me???
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momAGAIN
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
yeah finally and you were truly suprised that is great!!!!!
sorry about your MIL i think it is a total control isuue with her .........hey is she related to my MIL? lol im glad you had a good time regardless!!!!!
Message edited 8/20/2005 8:48:33 PM.
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Luvlylady
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
So Sorry!
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| Posted 8/20/05 11:08 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
Sorry your MIL was such a b!tch.
But you had your shower and you were surprised!! Congrats. enjoy all the presents!!!
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Stefanie
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
Geez...I thought this was supposted to be YOUR special day. Did you tell your DH what happened? Your poor mom...I think she needs a hug from us all. I'm sorry that she had to deal with that witch! Good for your dad for sticking up for his family. Maybe your mom should be more vocal with your MIL.
Sorry that put a damper on your day...that woman really needs a good talking to.
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| Posted 8/21/05 7:21 AM |
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05mommy09
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
I just cant believe she left...right after I got there, and now I have to pick up all the broken pieces....No matter what, its always ME who is stressed, and hurt, and it just *****!!!
ALl the whispering and gossiping that went on made things so uncomfortable...(both families were guilty of this one)
To top it all off: my best friend overhears MIL sister saying to my SIL "well you know its not just the mother, her daughter (yea thats me) is a trouble maker too"
How did I make trouble???? I wasnt even there...none the less had no part in planning this shower... What does MIL say about me to her family that would make this woman (who dosent even live here) say these things about me??????
I cant sleep...I dont know how to make my mom feel better... I dont know how or what to say in approaching MIL... Im just so stressed out!
ANd Yes Stefanie...DH knows but knows everything from his mother...because when she left my party she came home (where DH was) and cried to him his father, and uncles about how she did so much and everyone was so mean to her blah blah blah.... He really didnt have much to say about the situation...
But again Im just about 8 months preg. and you think its fair that I have to deal with all this..??? DH response to that was... "Screw em' all" I wish it was that easy!
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
I would give your mom a huge hug and maybe the 2 of you can do lunch or dinner together. Just keep saying how it was a beautiful shower and how surprised you were. As I said in your other post YEAH DAD for putting her in her place!!! I hope your DH hears your mom and dad's side of the story.
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| Posted 8/21/05 10:08 AM |
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Gertyrae
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
What is it about people that makes them have to take over someone else's day. Between you and Shana, I don't know what to think!
Why is it they can't just sit back and let someone else shine?! I am so sorry for you, that she ruined your otherwise awesome day! I have no advice(I am too appalled) but I am sending you some cuz you are apparently stuck with this one!
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| Posted 8/21/05 10:19 AM |
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Stefanie
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
The "screw em all" comment works for your husband...but does it work for you? This sounds like the same thing my DH would say to me, if that happened. But do you really feel satisfied with that?...cuz I wouldn't.
I know you said that your DH didn't say much to his mom about the situation...but do you know what he did say? Your MIL is totally looking for sympathy from your DH and get him on her side. She loves the DRAMA!!!
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
you have to let her know that you dont want this drama in your life ESPECIALLY when you have the baby.....and if she cant deal with that then things are gonna change
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| Posted 8/21/05 11:35 AM |
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babygirl28
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
i am so sorry to hear about all the problems that your mil has caused you. that was supposed to be your specail day and she had to throw a twist in it and upset you and your family. at least you got to have a great time with the people that were there and that truely love you.
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| Posted 8/21/05 12:37 PM |
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Shelly
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Re: My shower was today... and do I got a MIL story for you!!!!!
Posted by MamaNDaddyof2
you have to let her know that you dont want this drama in your life ESPECIALLY when you have the baby.....and if she cant deal with that then things are gonna change
I totally agree. DH should confront his mother (or you, if you feel comfortable enough) and say, listen- I'm sorry if everything didn't go as YOU had planned, but this isn't about YOU. This shower was about ME and my family and friends were trying to make ME happy. You are going to be a GRANDMOTHER. Grow up or this child will grow up aware of the tension- kids are very perceptive- they don't want to see someone upsetting their mother. You are pregnant- you are her DIL. So calling you a "troublemaker" isn't going to get her anywhere- except maybe out of this baby's life!! (Sorry if its a bit harsh- but I think that at this stage- and the baby being born soon- subtelty won't work on this lady. It just pisses me off that grown adults can be so childish!!!).
I also agree with someone above who posted that you and your mom deserve a nice lunch. Only requirement- to make it enjoyable- don't even think about your MIL! Focus on the two of you and all the joys you have in life.
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