i hate commuting to nyc.....

i can't take it anymore...and i'm only 19w2days.....
i never had morning sickness yet on the train now everytime in and out i get so sick to my stomach, can't even close my eyes to sleep. then walking to work i'm either freezing or sweating, and i get so out of breath and tired. its terrible. i mentioned to my high risk doctor last week (i see him bc of the juvenile diabetes) when he recommends me stopping and when he realized i worked in the city he made a comment that i should ask my other doctor bc he would have me stopping soon. i get so easily aggravated too. its terrible. sometimes all i want to do is cry. and when i'm not here, i feel great! not to mention my job is stressing me out so bad!!!! sorry to vent- i am just so mad/sad from 6:50 in the morning when i get on the train until 7 when i get home.
oh and sidenote- my husband made me stay home on monday bc of the train issues and the ice and whatnot, and my boss is actually telling me that she is probably going to have to deduct a personal or vacation day from me- i am shocked and so angry!!! is she kidding me?!?!?
hope everyone else made it wherever they needed to be safely!

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Sounds like my day (except for the diabetes).
Commuting s u c k s, it really does. I'm 28.5 weeks and I can't take it much longer. Especially the subway. The LIRR is ok, but not great. My dr wants to pull me out of work at 34 weeks, which is the last week in March. But we'll see.

I didn't come in Monday either because of the weather and train problems. I'm getting docked my vaca time. That's normal. If the office is open and we dont come in, we get docked. But NYC is a lot different than Long Island and when the LIRR isnt even running I think it's BS that my office docks me a day - but I've tried to get them to change that before and it never works.

Hang in there...maybe you can read on the train? Hopefully the sick feeling will pass soon. Try to dress in layers and take layers off as your walking and get hot.

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Aww I feel your pain and I am at 32 weeks. Commuting to NYC is the absolute worst thing. I can't wait to stop working. I NEVER get offered a seat on the subway and unfortunately where I take the train, it is already full with no seats available. I also get sweaty and then feel cold. I feel like I am going to pass out and there is nothing I can do but deal with it.
Try bringing some crakers with you and a bottle of water, I know more things to carry but perhaps they will make you feel better.
I also did not come in on Monday because frankly I was scared to slip and fall and of course, I got docked the day.
Feel better and know that you are not alone

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I'm 35.5 weeks and I still commute to NYC, though only about 3 days per week for the last few weeks. The other two days I work from home (this is very do-able at my job).

I think after next week I'm going to work exclusively from home the last few weeks. Maybe just come in once a week for any sort of meetings or handoff of duties, etc. I'm pretty sure my manager won't mind.

I don't mind the actual train ride, it's just the LENGTH commuting adds to the day. The one difference I've noticed from other people who post is that I almost always get offered a seat on the subway. I must look enormous or half-dead or something

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I cannot believe that you guys are getting docked vacation time over commuting issues! That's completely ridiculous and to me it discriminates against commuters (vs. people who live in Manhattan, Brooklyn, parts of Queens etc who cna just jump on a subway)

At my employer they don't do that. If they did, nobody would have any vacation time left because half these guys claim they can't make it in whenever there's an inch of snow!

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I totally feel for you! I worked in the City for 4 years and not even preggo I couldn't stand the commute-between the rude commuters and the different perfumes--I would get instant headaches.

Would you work let you work from home? I know, sounds too good to be true.

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meandyou-- if you could swing working from home even ONE day a week, I can tell you it makes a huge difference. It's amazing how one extra restful day can help you feel better.

Also, I had the motion sickness on the train too. It DOES get better-- by about 22-24 weeks it was entirely gone for me, and I was able to read again without getting dizzy.

Till then, for some reason having a mint (maybe a sugar free one? my DH is type 2 diabetic so I know it's hard to find a good variety) helped with the motion sickness when I had it.

hang in there!

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I feel so badly for you guys I had a low commuting tolerance and I was never PG. I don't know how you do it. I hope you have commuting fairies to look over you.

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I am not pregnant but I wanted to send you ladies lots of . I seriously dont know how you do it - this is my main concern about becoming pregnant.

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This is why I took my leave 2 weeks earlier then I did.. My last day of work I was pushed out of the way on the subway platform so that was the the last time.. I was scared and I was never ever offered a seat..
I too was sick in the train, I brought crackers, warm ginger ale and believe it or not those sea bands worked.. They are for morning sickness or boating etc. and thye were wonders.. You just put them on your wrist.. Also if you feel sick and hot put something cold near your wrists.. My om taugh tme that and it got me out of a lot of jams..
Good luck and hang in there..
Everything about being prego in New York is not right.. Its like we have a disease.. Hello its a human life.. GEEZE!!!

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thanks girls!!! glad to know i'm not alone....sorry for complaining. i know its just a matter of time, and i know i'm not the only one doing it so i need to get over it. every once in a while i guess i just feel bad for myself......terrible, i know. i've been bringing water with me, which i try to sip if i feel bad, and i try and chew mint gum- though nothing really helps. its so bad bc i feel like i'm stuffed in the seats also whenever i'm not with my husband and i have to sit with someone else. i never feel like theres enough room....maybe its that i feel too claustrophobic or something. i have no idea. it will get better i'm sure. i'll be talking to my doctor next week to see what he says too. until then- i'll be here....wish i could work from home- they would NEVER go for it. they are not the most understanding people- thank goodness i'll only be working here for another 3 months MAX!!! now, theres a positive!!

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meandyou-- another motion sickness tip-- take your coat off right away on the LIRR. I found if I was feeling warm and stuffy at all, it provoked the motion sickness. Don't know why!

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I feel your pain and I'm only 13 weeks and 3 days!! It's horrible. All together it takes me 2 hours one way to get to work. I was so sick the other day that I was throwing up in a garbage can in Penn. I was just so happy I made it off the train! I hope it gets better but I can imagine doing this commute when it's the middle of summer! I'm due at the end of August!

for all NYC commuters!

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Posted by computergirl

I cannot believe that you guys are getting docked vacation time over commuting issues! That's completely ridiculous and to me it discriminates against commuters (vs. people who live in Manhattan, Brooklyn, parts of Queens etc who cna just jump on a subway)

At my employer they don't do that. If they did, nobody would have any vacation time left because half these guys claim they can't make it in whenever there's an inch of snow!

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MrsJ, that commute s ucks! Mine is only an hour door to door, and I loathe it. Now I look back and can't *believe* I used to be one of those people who said "how come they can't make it in?", when I lived in Queens. Oh, how karma came back to bite me in the azz!

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Posted by computergirl

MrsJ, that commute s ucks! Mine is only an hour door to door, and I loathe it. Now I look back and can't *believe* I used to be one of those people who said "how come they can't make it in?", when I lived in Queens. Oh, how karma came back to bite me in the azz!

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This woman from the medical dept at my company made sure to tell me, when she processed my initial paperwork for maternity leave, that the company's disability carrier needed a "real" medical excuse to start paying your disability more than a week before your due date... "not made-up stuff like 'I live too far away' ".

"Made-up stuff". Niiiiice. She probably lives on the upper west side, like three subway stops away.