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upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Next weekend Im going to a wedding in upstate NY. I didnt know where they had registered so I emailed a mutual friend. He said they had not registered anywhere, but they could use knick- knacks. ???? I had planned to just give them a check, but it sounds like people will bring wrapped gifts to the wedding.
Has anyone gone to a wedding upstate? I did a search but there were posts that were a little old - from 2 years ago.
Has anyone had a more recent experience?
Should I bring a gift ?
any thoughts???
TIA
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KPtoys
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
upstate... my DH is from up there and money is not really "normal". He is from up by Binghamton in the sticks. Maybe get them something from a store up there with the gift receipt so they can return it if need be.
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| Posted 6/4/06 12:41 AM |
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
OMG I went to SUNY Binghamton so I know sticks!
Crap, I was hoping to give a check. Thanks for the info
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| Posted 6/4/06 12:58 AM |
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Goldi0218
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I was at a wedding in Rochester last weekend. Plenty of people gave money but there was a large gift table.
It was a very different type of wedding than I was used to. They had all of the food served first. After dinner and cake was the dancing - not intermittently between courses. After about an hour or two of dancing they had a mini Viennese. It was like having dessert twice.
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Jessica
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I've given a check to upstate weddings.
They're always very grateful for it
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
It is fine to give money, but it is certainly not the "norm" as it is down here. If both the bride and groom are originally from upstate, you can probably expect a very casual, laid-back wedding.
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| Posted 6/4/06 8:25 AM |
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KPtoys
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I just wanted to add that when I DH's friends and family came down here for our wedding they thought the cocktail hr was it, they couldnt believe there was more It was funny to see their faces when the matrede said the cocktail hr was over and now it was time for the reception.
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I'm originally from upstate and any wedding I went to was more than happy to accept a check.
Just curious...where upstate?
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| Posted 6/4/06 12:00 PM |
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
My cousin that lives in Monticello planned his wedding in a month. Their invite was "word of mouth" I think only one family member went to his wedding. From the pictures that I saw it was so laid back. He wore a simple suit and she had on a white dress with a veil.
His sister is supposedly getting married in August. No one has seen or heard of any invitation. No date was even set, no plans are made, and every time you speak to anyone else in the family no one knows anything about this supposed wedding.
Weddings outside of the city the "norm" is generally a wrapped gift. DH's family that lives out of state brought a wrapped gift which I thought was odd but turned out to be such an awesome gift. My cousins in Maryland their were tons of wrapped gifts. And my mom's friends in Texas said wrapped gifts is the thing and envelopes are not that common.
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
i've been to weddings upstate and i've brought checks.
who wouldn't want money as a gift?
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Posted by KPtoys
I just wanted to add that when I DH's friends and family came down here for our wedding they thought the cocktail hr was it, they couldnt believe there was more It was funny to see their faces when the matrede said the cocktail hr was over and now it was time for the reception.
I had the same thing happen. For months after our wedding, I had a friend from Syracuse telling me that she and her boyfriend could not believe that the cocktail hour wasn't the main event and how they were blown away when the maitre D announced the reception.
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Posted by mrswask
Posted by KPtoys
I just wanted to add that when I DH's friends and family came down here for our wedding they thought the cocktail hr was it, they couldnt believe there was more It was funny to see their faces when the matrede said the cocktail hr was over and now it was time for the reception.
I had the same thing happen. For months after our wedding, I had a friend from Syracuse telling me that she and her boyfriend could not believe that the cocktail hour wasn't the main event and how they were blown away when the maitre D announced the reception.
My cousin from California was like that too. I had a feeling he would be since at his wedding I thought the buffet dinner was the cocktail hour. 
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
since you have to travel- I would just bring a card with a check- it's easier
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Posted by Beth1210
since you have to travel- I would just bring a card with a check- it's easier
I agree and since they aren't registered I wouldn't want to buy them a gift they don't need or don't like. I may sound snotty but I'm pretty picky and not a knick knack person. I hate to admit it but I returned most of the non registry gifts I got.
Also, who can't use cash?
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I just posted on BHB but im from Buffalo and $ is the normal wedding gift. My cousin got married there last year and she had MAYBE 3 wrapped gifts at her wedding the rest were $ that was out of 200 people
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I'm from Poughkeepsie (upstate but not really reall upstate), and everyone always gives checks. We are going to a wedding in Ithaca this month and giving a check (or a donation to a charity they requested people give to in lieu of gifts). I went to Cornell and have had friends get married in Ithaca with weddings more elaborate than Long Island ones.
I would give $.
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btrflygrl
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
upstate is like a wedding anywhere BUT NY....bring a gift. Maybe a small slow cooker and a cookbook? Do they already live together?
Maybe a candle centerpiece and some picture frames?
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Posted by lorich
I'm originally from upstate and any wedding I went to was more than happy to accept a check.
Just curious...where upstate?
Its in Sanataria Springs, 15 min away (Im told) from Binghamton
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
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Posted by Beth1210
since you have to travel- I would just bring a card with a check- it's easier
I agree and since they aren't registered I wouldn't want to buy them a gift they don't need or don't like. I may sound snotty but I'm pretty picky and not a knick knack person. I hate to admit it but I returned most of the non registry gifts I got.
Also, who can't use cash?
Thats another reason I want to give a check. They already live together and I have no idea what they need or like.
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Posted by momAGAIN
I just posted on BHB but im from Buffalo and $ is the normal wedding gift. My cousin got married there last year and she had MAYBE 3 wrapped gifts at her wedding the rest were $ that was out of 200 people
I didn't know that! I live in Buffalo! Born and raised! Where are you from?
I agree, money isn't abnormal at a wedding. Although, I do have to warn you the actual wedding may not be the same as LI, we are not completely different creatures here and do like money for weddings too.
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
Would a gift card be tacky? I got 1 at my wedding,
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Re: upstate NY wedding - repost from FHF
I would give them a check... everyone appreciates money!
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