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NoStressMom
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Second marriage what do you give??
I was wondering what to give to a girl friend of mine who is getting married for the second time and I don't care for the new fiance??
Thanks Ladies
Denise
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Posted 1/24/06 10:07 AM  |
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Boobobunny
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
What type of Wedding are they having?
How big is the Wedding? If they are not going as big as the 1st time she was married or its a destination wedding...I would say that $200 -$250 is a good gift....if it is a big wedding and you do plan on going...$300-$350.
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:10 AM |
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
The number of a single guy you like better? 
Maybe a silver frame engraved with their names and wedding date? That's a tough one but I feel like you can never go wrong with picture frames. Red Envelope has some really nice things. I ordered us an album with a plate engraved with our names for about $70.
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:10 AM |
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MrsERod
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by MrsProfessor
The number of a single guy you like better?
 
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:11 AM |
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Redhead
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
the same as i would if it was her first marriage...
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:12 AM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Cash
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:12 AM |
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mommy2Alex
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by Redhead
the same as i would if it was her first marriage...
Agreed
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:31 AM |
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Tah-wee-ZAH
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by mommy2Alex
Posted by Redhead
the same as i would if it was her first marriage...
Agreed
I agree. My DH was married once before in a very small ceremony. We had a typical LI wedding (daytime) and his family was more generous than my family when it came to gifts. I think a lot depends upon what type of wedding they are having.
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:47 AM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
I actually do not think you have to give the same as the first time. Though, if its at another expensive place then you might have to cover both you and DH. I think it all depends on where the event is taken place. Alot of second marriages are done in restaurants instead of elaborate catering halls. I would give 150 if its in a restaurant but if it were in a fancy catering hall I would give 300.
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:50 AM |
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KellyNYC
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by PrincessP
I actually do not think you have to give the same as the first time. Though, if its at another expensive place then you might have to cover both you and DH. I think it all depends on where the event is taken place. Alot of second marriages are done in restaurants instead of elaborate catering halls. I would give 150 if its in a restaurant but if it were in a fancy catering hall I would give 300.
I don't think you should judge the size of the gift, monetary or otherwise, based on the type of wedding. The gift should be to honor the couple's union, not to cover the cost of the hall. I'd give the same regardless of first/second marriage, or small/large wedding.
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| Posted 1/24/06 10:53 AM |
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dooodles
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by PrincessP
I actually do not think you have to give the same as the first time. Though, if its at another expensive place then you might have to cover both you and DH. I think it all depends on where the event is taken place. Alot of second marriages are done in restaurants instead of elaborate catering halls. I would give 150 if its in a restaurant but if it were in a fancy catering hall I would give 300.
My DH was married before. He had a full wedding and his wife cheated on him before their first anniversary. For our wedding, we did a traditional wedding since it was my first. Not one person felt it necessary to "short change" us since it was DH's second wedding. This time he married the girl he was in love with for years - should that really matter?
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| Posted 1/24/06 11:32 AM |
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Donna
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
I would give based on my relationship - not if it's 1st or 2nd wedding, or getting married in a big hall or in the backyard.
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| Posted 1/24/06 11:42 AM |
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
I think, often the logic is that if it is a 2nd for both of them and espcially if you went to the 1st one, it is not necessary to go all out, b/c they aren't rally "startign out" & don't need as much.
I've actually read in some ettiquette books that you don't have to give a gift at all if you went to the 1st one, but I'd never do that.
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| Posted 1/24/06 11:42 AM |
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LFitzy79
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by mommy2Alex
Posted by Redhead
the same as i would if it was her first marriage...
Agreed
I totally agree
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| Posted 1/24/06 12:22 PM |
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PrincessP
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by KellyNYC
Posted by PrincessP
I actually do not think you have to give the same as the first time. Though, if its at another expensive place then you might have to cover both you and DH. I think it all depends on where the event is taken place. Alot of second marriages are done in restaurants instead of elaborate catering halls. I would give 150 if its in a restaurant but if it were in a fancy catering hall I would give 300.
I don't think you should judge the size of the gift, monetary or otherwise, based on the type of wedding. The gift should be to honor the couple's union, not to cover the cost of the hall. I'd give the same regardless of first/second marriage, or small/large wedding.
Its my opinion 
Also the costs estimates that I have given are very nice gifts for either places.
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| Posted 1/24/06 1:07 PM |
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KellyNYC
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Posted by PrincessP
Posted by KellyNYC
Posted by PrincessP
I actually do not think you have to give the same as the first time. Though, if its at another expensive place then you might have to cover both you and DH. I think it all depends on where the event is taken place. Alot of second marriages are done in restaurants instead of elaborate catering halls. I would give 150 if its in a restaurant but if it were in a fancy catering hall I would give 300.
I don't think you should judge the size of the gift, monetary or otherwise, based on the type of wedding. The gift should be to honor the couple's union, not to cover the cost of the hall. I'd give the same regardless of first/second marriage, or small/large wedding.
Its my opinion
Also the costs estimates that I have given are very nice gifts for either places.
I'm sorry, I really didn't mean for that to sound like I was criticizing your viewpoint. Should have just stated that was my own opinion.
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| Posted 1/24/06 1:17 PM |
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NoStressMom
My Heart and Soul
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Re: Second marriage what do you give??
Thanks Girls no it is not going to be as big as her first one was that was about a $80,000 wedding!!!! So this one should be much less!!! But I was in her wedding party for the 1st one this one is just her cousin as her MOH. Just asking!! Thanks for the input I will give a check.
Denise
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| Posted 1/24/06 1:30 PM |
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