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BabyAvocado
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If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
What would you do if one parent screwed over the other big time financially, lied to you about it, then you found out what really happened? Would you just not get involved, or try to stand up for the parent that got screwed over?
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Posted 11/23/05 3:45 PM  |
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saraH
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Re: If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
hmmm, tough one....i don't think i'd get involved either way.
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| Posted 11/23/05 4:01 PM |
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Donna
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Re: If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
that's a tough one.
As a child of divorced parents my dad did screw over my mom but I knew about it. We have a relationshiop now but it took me a long time to stop being angry....
I would look at a few things before confronting the parent -
- when did this happen? if it was 10 years ago is it going to change anything to bring it up now?
- what type of relationship do you want with your divorced parents - I hated being the go-between, (my parents didn't speak to each other for about 8 years)
- can anything change now? will the parent with the $ now correct their wrong?
It's a tough situation, best of luck to you 
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| Posted 11/23/05 4:02 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
As it stands right now the screwing over happened very recently, enough that reparations can still be made, though it doesn't mean they will be made.
I'm so done with being in the middle of their constant drama and bickering. But I can't help but feel like I should stand up for the injured party.
I already confronted the guilty parent - who feels zero remorse about what was done.
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| Posted 11/23/05 4:10 PM |
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saraH
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Re: If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
Posted by BabyAvocado
As it stands right now the screwing over happened very recently, enough that reparations can still be made, though it doesn't mean they will be made.
I'm so done with being in the middle of their constant drama and bickering. But I can't help but feel like I should stand up for the injured party.
I already confronted the guilty parent - who feels zero remorse about what was done.
if the guilty party does not want to make reparations, i'd leave it. there is nothing you can do to change their mind and the more you tell them they need to make things right, the more they are going to ignore you and do things their way anyway
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| Posted 11/23/05 4:12 PM |
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Sassyz75
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Re: If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
I wouldn't get involved...
it has nothing to do with your relationship with either parent, it is between the 2 of them.
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| Posted 11/23/05 6:20 PM |
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nov04libride
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Re: If you are still close with both parents but they are divorced
Posted by BabyAvocado
As it stands right now the screwing over happened very recently, enough that reparations can still be made, though it doesn't mean they will be made.
I'm so done with being in the middle of their constant drama and bickering. But I can't help but feel like I should stand up for the injured party.
I already confronted the guilty parent - who feels zero remorse about what was done.
This kind of happened with my parents. I know my mother didn't get what she deserved in the divorce settlement, but I also know she at the time was so anxious to leave and didn't want to go to court to fight that she left with much less than she was entitled to. While I don't think my father did the right thing, I cannot get involved. I try not to talk to either parent about the other, but since my mom is my best friend I do hear her talk about him, and I will listen, but not necessarily agree, because he is my father and half of my DNA. She knows that, and does make an effort not to criticize him in front of me.
Bottom line, we are the children. It's between the two of them, and most likely nothing you can say would make any difference. Good luck!
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| Posted 11/23/05 6:32 PM |
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