When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

I am very concerned about telling my boss. I work at a satellite office of a lawfirm where most of the time, it is basically just me and my secretary. We are not very busy now. We have only been open for a little over a year.

I am in my 13th week and in 3 weeks I am having my AFP test. I believe everything will be OK, but in case its not- I want to be as private as possible for whatever decisions DH and I make.

I am concerned that if I tell my boss they may close the office. I think this is a long shot- being that my boss is SO dedicated to this office, he even separated from his brother who worked at the firm and wanted to clsoe the NY office- so they brother left the firm.

I have such a great job- I wouldn't want to deal with looking for a new job. And the hours are so great- with a pregnancy and baby, I could manage to spend lots of time with the baby (considering I'd be working).

Unless I really start to show, I think I may tell them after the results of the AFP- what do you think? I would be 17 weeks then.

Re: When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

I am an attorney as well and I told my bosses at 11-12 weeks b/c I had no choice. My body changed very rapidly and people who knew me could tell. They were already suspicious and it was the talk of the office. So they were not surprised when I told them. If I could've held out, I wouldn't have told them until I was about 15-17 weeks. So I think you waiting until 17 weeks is fine. You need to do what is best for you, DH and baby. Good Luck

Message edited 10/12/2005 10:24:13 AM.

Re: When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

I think that if you tell them later on, thats completely fine. I told a few people around 17 weeks and depending what i wore they couldn't even guess i was pregnant.

Its your body and baby and you should feel comfortable telling your job when you feel its appropriate. If you feel more comfortable after the AFP test - then go for it. It will put your mind at ease and if your gut instinct is telling you to wait it out a little longer until they know - do it.

Re: When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

i think i can get away wtih it. I am starting to pop a little- but I have always had a little belly. I only see my boss once a week and so long as I wear a suit jacket- you can't tell.

I think my secretary knows, but I don't think she would say anything. I saw my boss yesterday and he didn't act any different.

Re: When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

I think you could wait until 4 months or so. I waited until I was 16 or 17 weeks too.

Re: When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

I too am unsure when to annouce at work. I was going to do it at the end of this week, I am 14 wks right now but a friend of mine suggested I wait a little longer possibly 3 more weeks. I have my AFP test at 17 weeks too, perhaps I will wait until then. I am showing somewhat now since it's my 2nd, not sure if i can hold out that long. I will wait another week and see how it goes.
Shellyesq if you can wait until 17 weeks, go for it. When you annouce just tell them that you wanted to make sure everything was fine before you told people. It's totally understandable.

Re: When is the latest you think it is appropriate to tell work that your pregnant

I would wait for the AFP results if you can.

Standard is generally 12 weeks. I told work at 16 weeks the first time. Second time at 12 weeks because it was starting to become obvious (not the belly), oh yes and I was falling asleep at during meetings...

Deep down I always wanted to just not tell anyone & see who had enough guts to ask me.

Oh - and CONGRATULATIONS!

Message edited 10/12/2005 2:34:46 PM.