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nrthshgrl
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Bizarre Dream & Hypothetical Question

I had a dream last night that we received a call from the hospital. THey told us there was a mistake & that Joseph wasn't ours. In fact, he belonged to one of the moms on the board. What's worse is that the mom decided after having my biological child for 5 years that she wanted to switch them. I said "No, absolutely not." DH was explaining "We have no choice, we have to take our biological child. She is Joseph's mother." The Mom wanted to take Joseph - I was scrambling for passports for Joseph & Maddie to leave the country (and my husband). I know where the dream comes from - my best friend was told by a guy she was dating that her daughter "wasn't really hers" (she's adopted). I know complete idiot and way to score with an adoptive momChat Icon

So here it goes...let's say you get the phone call -- you're already in love with your child --- how do you handle it?

And for those that are going to say "He looks just like my husband or me, so I know he's mine." This is HYPOTHETICAL.

Message edited 6/13/2006 11:01:55 AM.

Posted 6/13/06 11:01 AM
 
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Re: Bizarre Dream & Hypothetical Question

Posted by nrthshgrl

I had a dream last night that we received a call from the hospital. THey told us there was a mistake & that Joseph wasn't ours. In fact, he belonged to one of the moms on the board. What's worse is that the mom decided after having my biological child for 5 years that she wanted to switch them. I said "No, absolutely not." DH was explaining "We have no choice, we have to take our biological child. She is Joseph's mother." The Mom wanted to take Joseph - I was scrambling for passports for Joseph & Maddie to leave the country (and my husband). I know where the dream comes from - my best friend was told by a guy she was dating that her daughter "wasn't really hers" (she's adopted). I know complete idiot and way to score with an adoptive momChat Icon

So here it goes...let's say you get the phone call -- you're already in love with your child --- how do you handle it?

And for those that are going to say "He looks just like my husband or me, so I know he's mine." This is HYPOTHETICAL.



ok im not a mom but this question totally intrigued me, i once saw a lifetime movie based on this..

if it was me, i would see about raising both children in a joint custody kind of way between 2 families.. i can understand wanting to havbe ur biological child but yet u raised the other child as tho ur own, id imagine wanting to raise both. and share custody with the other family. i dont think its fair to rip either child from the home that it has known on a permenant basis

Message edited 6/13/2006 11:04:21 AM.

Posted 6/13/06 11:04 AM
 

momAGAIN
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Re: Bizarre Dream & Hypothetical Question

I saw a lifetime movie about this! Crazy!!!!!!!!! I would want to keep the child that I raised...and maybe work out an "open" relationship with the other family so I could watch my child grow up as well. But just not as his/her "mother"

Posted 6/13/06 11:04 AM
 

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lol i guess we both saw the lifetime movie LOL Chat Icon

Posted 6/13/06 11:05 AM
 

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Oddly enough, I'm still angry with my husband for being willing to give up Joseph.Chat Icon

Posted 6/13/06 11:06 AM
 

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Posted by muchinluvmichi

lol i guess we both saw the lifetime movie LOL Chat Icon



I was going to say the same thing! lol GREAT MINDSChat Icon

Posted 6/13/06 11:07 AM
 

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Re: Bizarre Dream & Hypothetical Question

Posted by nrthshgrl

Oddly enough, I'm still angry with my husband for being willing to give up Joseph.Chat Icon


I knda think my FH would have that reaction

Posted 6/13/06 11:08 AM
 

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Re: Bizarre Dream & Hypothetical Question

A long time ago, we saw a show where the guy found out his 2 year old wasn't his -- and left the mom & the kid. Absolutely absurd how you can just turn love off like that.

Posted 6/13/06 11:13 AM
 

momAGAIN
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yeah it boggles my mind.....my 4 children form my first marriage .....they have not seen their father in 3 years mind u my youngest of that four is 3 ...he saw her ONCE she was 2 weeks old..I couldnt imagine...my children are so much better off without him though. MY FH loves them so much!

Posted 6/13/06 11:21 AM
 

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I would never be able to give my child up - biological or not.

I've had many a dream where I'm still pizzed at DH the next day!
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Posted 6/13/06 11:25 AM
 
 

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