Somewhat Personal question

Hi Ladies.... I was wondering what was the final thing that made you and DH Want to TTC? I keep going off and on the fence about this....

Thanks

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My DH and I went back and forth for a while whether we wanted children and if so, when is the "right" time. I was honest with him in that I did really want children, although it will difficult to make sacrafices to our current lifestyle (which we love), it will be worth it. I can't imagine a more rewarding thing and I can't imagine being older and not having children to watch grow, marry, etc.

So once we both admitted we both really want children & that we were previously in our "selfish phase" (which is fine) it became a more open conversation...and honestly once we started talking about it we just got excited and couldn't wait to start TTC!!!

I believe that me reaching my mid 30's most likely provoked a lot of the discussions

Message edited 1/10/2006 9:01:57 PM.

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I think at some point you come to realize that there wont be "the perfect" time to ttc. For myself and DH we both have masters degrees, we both have careers, and there is really nothing stopping us now that we are married. I was always worried about "the right time" but I think it all eventually falls into place.

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I agree...there never is a "perfect" time. I kept putting it off but something always came up. I know that everything will work out and right now we have the important things...we both have careers, love for each other, and have supportive family and friends.

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Before we got married, dh and I talked about when would be the perfect time to ttc. We knew that we wanted one year to just enjoy being married. Since we've been together for several years, we decided that our one year anniversary would be the perfect time to ttc.

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I never actually thought I wanted children. I never even thought I wanted to be married (until I met my DH). I guess once we got together I found that I wanted to have a family, but we wanted to wait until a year after we were married to ttc, and we also wanted to buy a house.

We stuck to our guns and are about to ttc this year (will be married one yr. in March) and are closing on our first home in April.

I guess the bottom line "final thing" was waiting to have a house first.

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We both knew there was never "enough" or a "right time". It was something we talked about and prayed about and when the time felt right, we started to try. We wanted to share our life with a little one and part of it was an age thing.....I wanted my first before I was 30, if not all of them.

It's when you hit a time in your lives when what you have between the two of you is great, but still feels like there's something more that you need.....like you're ready for the next step. Kind of like when you were dating and knew you wanted to get married....

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Btrfly...

You hit the nail on the head!!

Message edited 1/11/2006 11:10:39 AM.

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It sounds stupid but I think it was our best friends getting pregnant that made my husband think about getting more serious. He was one of those"I'll do what you want to do, I'm not necessarily ready but if you are I want to make you happy" Well I refused him because I wanted to both be in the same place. I think once he realized that we are entering into a different stage in life he was more open to it. I am 31 he is 28. I ended up getting PG in Sept and had a M/C. Since then he has been very gung ho about pregnancy and having a baby. He said his love for me changed and grew while I was pregnant. I think it almost made him feel more solicitous and more like a cretaker of me and he liked that feeling. Right now we are in the 2 ww and he keeps saying when can we test?

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I wanted another cat and DH doesn't like animals. So he said to me one day in our kitchen, instead of getting a cat, let's have a baby! I was shocked. It's like a year and a half later and no baby yet! We're seeing an RE to help us.

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My DH and I agreed when we got married that when we would start TTC right before we turn thirty(in a about a year) that would give us just over 2 years being married. But lately i have been wanting to start sooner. I quit my job and went back to school and i am not really enjoying school at all so i figured this might be the perfect time to start. My DH is on a business trip we are going to discuss it when he gets home. I know he probably say wait but maybe we can comprmise on a lit bit earlier.

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Thanks Ladies.... DH and I are married 2 years already and we will be in our house 1 year in April. We both said we want to be married for a while and do some work on the house which that is winding down now (till i hit the lottery)..

Edited to say.... BABY DUST TO EVERYONE>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Message edited 1/12/2006 9:07:11 PM.

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AGE!

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WE never doubted we wanted chidlren. We both wanted a large family. We didnt even wait till the wedding to start TTC because we really didnt want to wait any longer. We were ready from the beginning but felt pressure to do the "Marriage thing" and we did. Glad we did, and somewhat sad we waited now that we are facing infertility.

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My DH and I did the same with TTC before we got married because we knew we were going to get married eventually and we knew we would be together forever. Because we were and still are in love ahhhhhhhh!!!!! We had never questioned if we would or wouldn't have kids. I have a huge family and we wanted that for ourselves. We aren't wealthy by any means and it bugs me when people say 'we are going to wait until we are financially set to have kids' I'm all thinking that will be never. Because you are really never financially set, unless you win the lottery or something. But for us it has never been a question. It's just something that seems right. You just know when it's right.