i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

so i have this friend i have known since 7th grade..sometimes shes an amazing friend and at times she gets on my last nerve..alot of times she doesnt use common sense.. but we have known each other for sooo long that i kinda feel 'obligated" to stay friends with her cause she doesnt have many friends AND shes not close with her family.. she is def needy and for no real reason...shes sooo pretty, sooo smart, and has a car, an apartment, and a decent job..she truly has no MAJOR problems but the fact that she doesnt have a bf totally upsets her.. OBVIOUSLY i now how rough being single can be..but i hate to say it--shes single cause shes sooo negative..shes constantly depressed for no real reason, shes VERY negative and doesnt even try to go out there..and it seems like shes content with bewing miserable--even seems to stir up drama when there is none so she has something to focus on other then solving her problems..
anyways.... lately i just cant deal with her anymore... shes seeing a therapist, and refuses to take her depression meds..and all she does is act negative about everything and whine how horrible her life is--when no offense but its NOT! she is just manifesting problems..i def. think she is having srious depressiion issues and i was hoping that the therapist would help cause i am at my wits end..as horrible as it sounds, i cant even take being her friend anymore--- my life is not all sunshine and roses and many of u kno how crazy my life was and all the stuff i went threw to finally find some happiness BUT her negativity and depression is reallu getting to me--to the point i dread calling her or hanging out with her cause its depression city, and all it does is bring me down, i feel like a total broken record cause nothing i say makes her feel better and i kind of dont even wanna bother anymore.. i kno how mean that souunds but i dont even know what more i can do.. ::SIGH:: sorry if this is just me venting and im not sure what im asking.. but does this make me a horrible person? i mean what more can i do to help her?

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

It doesn't amke you a horrible person and ultimately you have to do what is right and healthy for yourself. But I do also know that the times someone is the least lovable, that is when they need the most love, so I wouldn't walk away from her (although I imagine many people might disagree with me.) When I am faced with a situation like this, I always try and look at it from how if I was in the other person's shoes . . . .

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

Message edited 1/16/2006 6:35:36 PM.

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

I hada friend just like that. One day I just said I'm soory but I just cannot do this anymore. I have a life and I want to be happy. I wish you all the best. My life it soo much better without this person in it. No more DRAMA!!!! I have heard that she is still the same way.

I think a few other people followed in my footsteps as well with this person.

I have learned that there is only so much you can do for a person, they really have to want to change. It doesn't make you a bad person at all.

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

maybe try to have a talk with her. maybe she needs someone to talk to

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

As someone who is struggling right now with different issues, as well as depression, this is when she needs you more than anything else. MY friends are worth their weight in gold to me anyway, but especially now. I think you just need to realize that there really is nothing you can do to change her right now, just help her by being there.

Re: i feel bad to say this but..im really fed up with my friend..

I know it can be frustating but just think just how she may feel.
Most of the time she probably can't even control how she feels.

a true friend will be there in good times but most importantly in bad times.

Good Luck.

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I would try to back off a little. TO me it sounds like you have been a good friend. I have a friend, not that close though but she is negative about EVERYTHING, I mean no matter WHAT you say she says something depressing. Its like you wanna jump off a bridge being near her....and I was closer to her years ago and then we kinda grew apart and I remember saying that all she did was complain, well, then we became close again and I thought she had changed. NOPE...ITs so bad, I cant even stomach to hear her anymore. I think thats how you feel and sometimes when you have a drama gene, and I have it so I know Life just seems worse then it is. What I do now with my "friend" and what you should do is EVERYTHING she says I tuurn around. She has to know, Im so obvious about it. She will complain about money and I will say at least you have a job or complain about the weather and I will say at least your not homeless. Even little things I do it, I have noticed it ends te convo FAST now....TRY IT