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Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
My friend (not very close friend, we used to work in the same lab) invited me to her baby shower, which was yesterday. I declined for a few reasons. She told me feel free to decline since it was only family that was going to be there. She originally invited me since I had a gift for her baby and we could never find a time to meet for me to give it to her. So she said, you can always come to my baby shower... Well, we ended up finding a time to meet. So anyways, she still sent me the evite, but I declined saying I couldn't make it. I figured it would be wierd to have only me there when it was a family thing.
So we've just been emailing this morning catching up and I asked her how the shower was, blah blah blah. She asked me what we did this weekend. What do I say? We didn't really do anything of value, didn't travel or have any BBQs. Should I just tell her we stayed home and I actually declined to go to the shower because I didn't want to intrude on her family party? I'm not quite sure what to say 
Message edited 9/5/2006 11:40:38 AM.
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ssbride05
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
I wouldn't say anything about not going b/c of the family thing.. I would just say what you did this weekend. If you already spoke about it before, I think it would be ok just to say what you did do this weekend and not mention the shower. 
ETA: mention why you didn't go to the shower.. sorry!
Message edited 9/5/2006 11:44:57 AM.
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| Posted 9/5/06 11:43 AM |
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
The only thing is I said I couldn't make it, implying that I had a reason. I feel bad then telling her I didn't do much this weekend because it will seem like I lied and just didn't want to go to her shower.
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| Posted 9/5/06 11:50 AM |
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ssbride05
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
Posted by glinda-goodwitch
The only thing is I said I couldn't make it, implying that I had a reason. I feel bad then telling her I didn't do much this weekend because it will seem like I lied and just didn't want to go to her shower.
yea, I see what you mean..If you feel comfortable, maybe you could just play up soemthing you did do this weekend, or you could be honest about the family thing. I think it depends on your relationship with her and how comfortable you feel.
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| Posted 9/5/06 11:52 AM |
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wowcoulditbe
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
well, you could say you had plans but then the crapy weather on sat cancelled them - if the shower was sat....i would prob make up somehting i did - just because I am a wuss and hate to hurt feelings!
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| Posted 9/5/06 11:55 AM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
Just tell her you had a family bbq. A small little white lie is no big deal if it's going to save someone from hurt feelings.
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| Posted 9/5/06 12:00 PM |
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
Do you think that because she said "feel free to decline", that she knows I didn't go because of the family thing? Should I maybe just say I spent much needed time with DH, etc and not even mention anything about not going to the shower? I already asked her the shower was. Maybe I don't need to say anything further?
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| Posted 9/5/06 12:20 PM |
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Christine
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
She already gave you the out so I don't think you need to make something up.
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| Posted 9/5/06 12:31 PM |
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Re: Whoops! Need advice on what to say to a friend
Since she asked what I did this weekend I said:
We were planning on kayaking this long weekend but then got worried about flooding. So we're going to try for next Saturday. Other than that, we watched movies and worked on our wedding album a little bit.
I just basically told the truth, since I am one of those people that can't lie.
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| Posted 9/5/06 12:57 PM |
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