How to not let things bother me?

FH is sooooo good at this, I am so jealous! I let things get to me way to easily.. esp. work! ... and I bring my frustration home to my poor FH and someones to my mom!

How do you just let things go? Is it even possible without changing my personality?

I always try to think about the good thigns in my life, which there are alot of, but still I can't get over how much I hate working with some of the people I work with! *sigh*

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its a daily struggle. I think about all the good I have or how worse off I could be and its the only thing that tends to help me.

I try to think if I cant change the situation, I can change my reaction to it...

It takes work.

Hang in there! Your not alone

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My DH is just like your DH and I used to be like you. Since I hit my mid 30's, gotten married and had some pretty stressful life events happen, I guess over time I put much of the B S of life in perspective. I try not to let ridiculous people bother me. I try to avoid the faculty room at school at all costs... so many petty and ignorant people.

I just try to remember what's really important in life... my health, DH, my family.

As my FIL says, "Don't stress... it's all B U L L @#$%"

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Sometimes I just try to think that the people who bring that much negativity into my path are just not worth the time or energy it takes to get involved with them. I have a hard enough time balancing my time with those I love - I just don't want to waste my time with it. And when you bring it home with you, it damages your other relationships.

My other technique is that I say to myself "thank god I am not related to this person...I just have to deal with them in a limited capacity." If it is family stuff, I know that it usually blows over, so I let off some steam and then try to forgive and move on.

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I am very good at not letting things bother me. I just take things with a grain of salt. I know that sometimes it is difficult, but to tell you the truth, these things are so miniscule when you think of things that are really worth worrying over in the world. Also, I try not to give people the benefit of ruining my day.

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I used to be in the same boat. DH is so mellow and he doesn't get upset easily. I couldn't figure out how he was doing it. i've come to realize it is part of his personality, and it will never come naturally to me. I really have to work at separating myself from other people's problems, their unhappiness and things in general that upset me. It is a work in progress, and some days are better than others. Lately, though the good ones are outnumbering the bad ones and I see that I have made a lot of progress.

Good luck, I know how hard it is!

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i think what i do is that i vent a lot of my frustrations to someone and then just let it go...

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I used to take work problems home with me all the time. I was always in the worst mood Mon-Fri. With my new career now - my stress level is much much lower.

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the problem is I can't let things go, I usually dwell at a certain incident for days.. and I HATE IT!
it isn't just me that feels like this, many of my colleagues are miserable too.
I am good at my job, and really love doing it, but the rotten people can really ruin it for you, esp. those rotten people are management

I hate the person it turned me into. It isn't fair for my family to have to put up with me, but I just can't help it.. aahh!!