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TTC/INF meltdown last night

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dooodles
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TTC/INF meltdown last night

I'm sorry I haven't been on much lately, I started a part time job at night for some extra cash. Last night I just crashed and needed a night for me - so DH & I started watching Family Stone.
At the end of the movie I started tearing up and DH just thought I was reacting to the movie. Once he turned off the TV I started crying even harder. Somewhere in my crying fit, I was able to express that I wonder if I am being punished for something I've done or haven't done in my life. The questions just kept coming out - "why did we lose our son" - "how on earth was it so easy when we weren't TTC" and to find out I have a bloced tube a year into the TTC process that I had to beg for the second test to verify this? The realistic part of my brain knows that I am not being punished - it is my heart that is having trouble right now with that. But month after month of keeping a positive frame of mind saying "We just have to keep trying" gets a little old after a year.

Sorry, I just needed to get that out to someone who understood. Thanks!

Posted 8/16/06 9:02 AM
 
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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Posted by dooodles

Somewhere in my crying fit, I was able to express that I wonder if I am being punished for something I've done or haven't done in my life.



Donna, I totally understand...I ask myself this question EVERY SINGLE DAY.

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Posted 8/16/06 9:21 AM
 

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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Oh Donna,

I know it is tough! I used to cry every day on my lunch hour! Then I started to see a therapist for a bit and worked some stuff out! It is so okay for you not to understand any of this. I firmly believe that the children we have will never understand how badly they were wanted!

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Posted 8/16/06 9:37 AM
 

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Posted 8/16/06 9:40 AM
 

karacg
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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Donna all I can offer is hugs. I cannot imagine losing a child. I miscarried on the same date last year that you lost your son. It is nowhere near the same, but since then we have been trying and I don't understand it either.

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All we can do for each other is this - be supportive, listen, and understand...

Posted 8/16/06 9:44 AM
 

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Posted 8/16/06 10:06 AM
 

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Posted 8/16/06 10:07 AM
 

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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

I am so sorry, I think we all go through this - its a huge emotional toll and hopefully we'll all be stronger people at the end of the journey

Posted 8/16/06 10:18 AM
 

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Posted 8/16/06 10:24 AM
 

dm24angel
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Posted 8/16/06 10:47 AM
 

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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Oh Donna- I am so sorry you are feeling this way since I can't think of anyone more deserving of a healthy baby to love. Having lost a baby like you lost CJ must be the most difficult thing in the world to go through and the strength you showed was incredible.

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Posted 8/16/06 11:01 AM
 

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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Donna, what else can I say but I'm so sorry Chat Icon

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Posted 8/16/06 11:21 AM
 

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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Donna,
My heart totally goes out to you. You have been a pillar of strength and completely deserve to lose it every once and a while. Hang in there!Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/16/06 11:25 AM
 

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Somedays there are no really good words of advise other than to say HUGS.

Posted 8/16/06 12:44 PM
 

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Posted 8/16/06 6:13 PM
 

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Donna...you know I completely understand and wish that we could have some answers to these questions.

Hopefully, we will have living babies one day...I'm still praying for us EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!!!

Please hang in there and be strong...I KNOW it's NOT EASY...but, we need to...

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Posted 8/16/06 7:30 PM
 

dooodles
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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Thanks so much to everyone for the words of comfort and support - and the hugs. I really needed to get it out so I didn't harp on it all day.

I hope I am meeting MANY of you next week!

Posted 8/16/06 7:42 PM
 

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While I don't think I could ever truly understand, I just wanted to give you hugs.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

There is no way you're being punished for something you did. If anything, you are owed MANY TIMES OVER.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 8/16/06 9:22 PM
 

lulugrrl
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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Donna,

I do not know all of your history, but I understand your sadness and want to send you lots of

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Posted 8/17/06 10:53 AM
 

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Re: TTC/INF meltdown last night

Donna,

I could never even imagine what you went through. People always tell me I'm so strong but what you went through... I'd be crushed.

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Posted 8/17/06 2:15 PM
 
 

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