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MissJones
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Work related question-friends and bosses
Let's say you and your colleagues share a boss. Your colleagues are friends of yours. Your colleagues have opinions of your boss that you don't particularly share. You dislike your boss immensely, however, they are on friendly terms with your boss. Not friends, but friendly. They smile, say hi to, etc. Would you give your colleagues the cold shoulder because of this? Or would you be yourself but just refrain from talking about this person in front of your colleagues?
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
i would watch what i say in front of the people that are friendly wiht the boss. not that they would back-stabb, but you never know.
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
I would refrain myself from talking about your boss in front of your friend . You truly don't want anything you could say, come back and maybe affect your job.
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| Posted 5/30/06 9:19 PM |
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by MissJones
be yourself but just refrain from talking about this person in front of your colleagues
i would do this part. In the same sense that i wouldn't want anyone telling me What i should think about someone, i wouldnt 'punish' someone else for having a different opinion of a person than i do. 
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by MissJones
Let's say you and your colleagues share a boss. Your colleagues are friends of yours. Your colleagues have opinions of your boss that you don't particularly share. You dislike your boss immensely, however, they are on friendly terms with your boss. Not friends, but friendly. They smile, say hi to, etc. Would you give your colleagues the cold shoulder because of this? Or would you be yourself but just refrain from talking about this person in front of your colleagues?
I would definitely be myself but not talk about the boss with the friends. That's no reason to lose your friends. In general, no matter how much I disliked my boss, I would always be cordial and say hello...I've had some bosses I have HATED, but I was always civil and almost friendly (but apparently you can read me like a book when I hate people).
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by MissJones
Let's say you and your colleagues share a boss. Your colleagues are friends of yours. Your colleagues have opinions of your boss that you don't particularly share. You dislike your boss immensely, however, they are on friendly terms with your boss. Not friends, but friendly. They smile, say hi to, etc. Would you give your colleagues the cold shoulder because of this? Or would you be yourself but just refrain from talking about this person in front of your colleagues?
I would definitely be myself but not talk about the boss with the friends. That's no reason to lose your friends. In general, no matter how much I disliked my boss, I would always be cordial and say hello...I've had some bosses I have HATED, but I was always civil and almost friendly (but apparently you can read me like a book when I hate people).
I agree with Beth!
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Regardless of who my friends are, how friendly I am with them or their relationship with a boss, I would always be on my guard when discussing my boss if I didn't like him. You never know when the tide can turn.
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by nrthshgrl
Regardless of who my friends are, how friendly I am with them or their relationship with a boss, I would always be on my guard when discussing my boss if I didn't like him. You never know when the tide can turn.
totally agree!!
I think giving them the cold shoulder would be a little extreme.
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by BNL2005
i would watch what i say in front of the people that are friendly wiht the boss. not that they would back-stabb, but you never know.
I agree 100% with this!!! Just keep your mouth shut and do your job and go about your day.
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by MissJones
Let's say you and your colleagues share a boss. Your colleagues are friends of yours. Your colleagues have opinions of your boss that you don't particularly share. You dislike your boss immensely, however, they are on friendly terms with your boss. Not friends, but friendly. They smile, say hi to, etc. Would you give your colleagues the cold shoulder because of this? Or would you be yourself but just refrain from talking about this person in front of your colleagues?
I would definitely be myself but not talk about the boss with the friends. That's no reason to lose your friends. In general, no matter how much I disliked my boss, I would always be cordial and say hello...I've had some bosses I have HATED, but I was always civil and almost friendly (but apparently you can read me like a book when I hate people).
I agree with this. I also think that no matter how good of friends you are (or seem to be) with your co-workers, your career should come first and emotions surrounding them (both good and bad) shouldnt be shown at work.
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MissJones
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Thanks for the replies. Basically, I'm the one who's friendly with the boss. I've always believed that you never know you will be your boss one day and the last thing you need is the boss being against you. A co-worker/friend has severe distaste for our boss and recently has become very standoffish towards me. I asked another friend why and she told me it really wasn't conscious but it was because of my 'friendship' with the boss. Meanwhile, I don't go back to my boss with things they've said. I just say to them you have your opinions which I can understand but I can't hate this person. Too much at stake to be on the wrong side of our boss. Anyway, thank you again.
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by nov04libride
Posted by MissJones
Let's say you and your colleagues share a boss. Your colleagues are friends of yours. Your colleagues have opinions of your boss that you don't particularly share. You dislike your boss immensely, however, they are on friendly terms with your boss. Not friends, but friendly. They smile, say hi to, etc. Would you give your colleagues the cold shoulder because of this? Or would you be yourself but just refrain from talking about this person in front of your colleagues?
I would definitely be myself but not talk about the boss with the friends. That's no reason to lose your friends. In general, no matter how much I disliked my boss, I would always be cordial and say hello...I've had some bosses I have HATED, but I was always civil and almost friendly (but apparently you can read me like a book when I hate people).
LOL, Beth, you kinda can see it!!
You can read me like a book too!!!
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by Aliasmom
I would refrain myself from talking about your boss in front of your friend . You truly don't want anything you could say, come back and maybe affect your job.
I agree 100%. Got to be very careful in the workplace.
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Re: Work related question-friends and bosses
Posted by Aliasmom
I would refrain myself from talking about your boss in front of your friend . You truly don't want anything you could say, come back and maybe affect your job.
i agree
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