I'm feeling so crappy lately...(vent)

I am only 22 weeks, and already I am huge. My hands and feet are swollen, my face is fat, my back hurts. I just feel like a beached whale. If one more person tells me how big I am, I'm going to hurt them. The newest comment was the other day when I was talking to my friend at work and i told her some days I feel like I look small, and others I feel like I look big, and one of my female bosses heard this, walked over and said, "If I were you, I'd ALWAYS opt for the adjective BIG in your case!" I almost started to cry hysterically right there.
Then last night my mom and I went to the mall to buy make-up because I feel really crappy and thought it would cheer me up. Well, sure enough, the girl at the make-up counter was this teeny little thing with a hint of belly. Well, I came to find out that she is due a month BEFORE ME. I know I should not judge myself based on what others look like, but there's no way I can't compare in my head. I just started to cry and had to leave the mall because I was so embarrassed to be seen next to this skinny little thing.
I have horrible self-esteem to begin with, and if I hear one more time that it's "all for a good reason" I'm going to scream. I KNOW it's for a good reason. I know I'm lucky to be having a baby and no real complications to this point, but I just can't help but want to hide for the rest of my pregnancy. I'm sorry for the vent, but I'm just feeling so horrible right now.

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I am so sorry you are feeling so bad right now. I have been feeling yucky myself lately and keep hearing the same ole "its for a good reason" DUH! but we can complain cant we? feel better sweetie

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Sorry you feel so awful!!! I am a few weeks behind you and if one more person comments on what I eat for lunch- they may end up in the hospital before I do. Oh and if one more person tells me they only gained 15 pounds I may just eat them out of spite. HA HA! (I'm trying to make you laugh)

You are entitled to feel the way you do! Did you read the Jenny McCarthy book "Belly Laughs" - if you haven't I suggest reading it for a few laughs- it might make you feel better.


Vent away! We will love you and support you here.

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I am sorry you are feeling bad People ought to keep their negative comments to themselves! I am sure you look beautiful

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You have to remember that everyone is different in how they carry their baby. Don't let that get you down. I just found out one of my closest friends is pregnant and just about 7 wks behind me and her body type is completely different than mine.. so I have to be prepared for the fact that she could carry much smaller than me... and I see her a lot since she bought a house in the same neighborhhod. But it is what it is and I know that no matter what, we are just different and both babies are going to be happy and healthy. Please cheer up and feel better!

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oh rach dont worry you look beautiful, everybody carries differently and handles weight differently. i was all hips butt and boobs and was very self concience about my body, i used to cringe when they would weigh me at the doctor. michaels family was very critical of my weight and my mother compared me to my sil who was a pencil, i always heard your gaining way too much weight and you dont need to eat this and eat that so i do feel for you. so many people are quick to give their two cents. your healthy and your little girl is going to be healthy thats all that counts!!!

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you are certainly allowed to have your moments to complain and feel down!! thats part of this whole experience. just try not to let it take away from the good parts too (i know, easier said than done).....its so hard for us to understand whats happening to our bodie- right before our very eyes. i have never been skinny girl- but now i just feel like i'm growing every minute...and its not always all that easy to deal with. just know when these people get to you- you can come here and release! thats how i look at it- none of my friends understand since none of them have ever had a baby....so, i come here and vent. it helps a bit!!! and it makes me remember that none of us are alone!!! hang in there and cheer up!! i'm sure you look great!

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I know how you feel!! We all have moments like that. Its so hard to watch your body change in such a body conscious society- especially in NYC and LI!! And it doesn't help that people are SO DAMN MEAN at times.

I was just in Miami and we were sitting at the beach club or just walking around and I see all these skinny little things walking around! Its so frustrating! I still want to go out and do all teh things I used to do, because thankfully I feel great, but I feel like such a "SPECTACLE".

And I think about my petite little sister (who is 5' tall- I'm 5'8) and how she only gained 16 lbs in her pregnancy. At 30 weeks, I gained 16 lbs and I am supposed to gain a lb a week from here on in. I have so much cellulite I have no idea how I will get rid of it when the baby is born. And I just feel huge! I found a watch DH got me for my 24th birthday (our first- 6 years ago), and it is too small on me

The best comfort I have is knowing that I have a wonderful man who loves me and still finds me beautiful, even when I dont' see it. I also try to focus on how blessed I am to be pregnant, to have gotten pregnant pretty easily and to have had a healthy pregnancy.

It will all be OK! We all feel that way some times!!

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Rachel...I COMPLETLEY understand how you feel. I am the same way. SOme days I feel Great others I feel Horrible I hate my body, my face, my make-up never looks right. I do not want to be touched at all. I really think it is hormones taking over. The changes happen so fast and it has been so hard to adjust. When I get like this I think of the baby and how great it will be and I feel better. It is hard I know but OH so worth it...you look beautiful it gets better so keep your head up, Do not listen to peoples comments and know that soon you will have a beautiful little girl that makes it all worth it

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I feel this way too sometimes. I have always battled my weight. I am not obese, I just was 25 lbs overweight. Those 25 lbs were the bane of my exsistance for most of my adult life. Then I joined WW and lost 20 lbs., right before I became PG. I am thankful to be PG, and I know the weight is "all for a good cause", etc, etc. However, I keep thinking: Am I going to loose this weight again??? Is it going to be more difficult once the baby arrives? I have already gained 24 lbs and I am 26w5d. My OB thinks a lot of it is water weight but still to gain back every pound I lost is a little upsetting. Especially considering that it took a while for me to loose it and I fought hard for every ounce that I lost.
I think if you had a problem with your weight before, be it 3lbs. or 100lbs. you do have a harder time as you gain baby weight. All of us have been there at one point or another. You are not alone. Hang in there, Rachel

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i'm 5' 0" and a .

i know what you mean by ups and downs...but as far as size goes, i really don't care what other people think/say. my main concern is the health of my baby and if i am too big medically speaking then i would do everything in my power to adjust my weight accordingly. but so far there does not seem to be any major concern, i'm just fat and happy !

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People are jerks. Don't let people make you feel bad. They're probably just jealous.
Everyone carries differently and I'm sure you are being very hard on yourself. I bet you look beautiful!

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Hang in there and I completely understand where you are coming from. I felt the same way. For me, I got HUGE in the end especially and wanted to punch someone in the face if they mentioned it. I know I am big, do you really need to point it out to me?? People do not realize how those comments can hurt. I would see girls that had this small little bump and were due right around when I was and wanted to just hide. I just made myself realize it is what it is. Try to feel better, I know its easier said than done, but anytime you need to vent, we are all here!!

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Well, I'm one of those little girls with a bump, and I feel huge! I've gained 20 lbs at 26 weeks and although I don't think I LOOK huge, I just feel huge. I'm VERY self-conscious about how I look which I don't understand because when I see other pregnant women, I'm not judgemental at all because pregnancy is a wonderful thing. I was very self-conscious as a teen, and I feel the same way now as I did then. I don't like looking at myself in the mirror unless I'm clothed

The only thing that I can say is try to focus your attention on other things; when you start thinking those bad thoughts, immediately think something else...something positive....

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I'm sorry you are feeling so down. We all have bad days, I hope you feel better soon.

Your boss sounds really nasty! That was a totally uncalled for comment. She's probably jealous that you've been blessed with a beautiful and healthy baby girl.

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I'm sorry you are feeling like this


<---------- Here's a kissy for ya! Hope it helps

Message edited 2/16/2006 1:06:29 PM.

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Thanks girls About a half hour after I got to work, one of my friends came down to my classroom with a bag full of cute baby things for me, and it cheered me up a bit. I appreciate everyone's responses. Somedays are just hard. Plain and simple.

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No advice- just

People should learn the meaning of the words rude and uncalled for

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Posted by CkGm

No advice- just

People should learn the meaning of the words rude and uncalled for

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Posted by pmpkn087

Posted by CkGm

No advice- just

People should learn the meaning of the words rude and uncalled for

exactly. And, like I told Diane, I am not preggo, I can always meet them outside

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i feel this way and i am only 11 weeks tomorrow i posted about this a few weeks agoo. io think its normal.Vent away!