Today is going to be a rough one- ( vent)- update @ bottom and thanks

My mom who is not well mentally is starting her shenanigans.
She wants me to take her to the hospital but before we go wants to get her hair done - I asked her if she was going to the EMmys or the hospital
She also asked me to pick her up some new sweats and when I told her I did she asked what colors and did they match.
Every time there is a holiday coming up she starts talking about suicide- its so predictible.( Long history)
DH says that she is looking for attention and sympathy - it really is SO draining. My whole life we have had this song and dance.
It shou;d be interesting today


To top it off, my friend is having surgery today to remove a cyst on her thyroid

Sorry to be a downer just had to vent

Message edited 11/16/2005 8:25:59 AM.

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I am sorry you have to go through this.

Wanted to give you a bunch of

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I perfectly understand what you are going through. I went through this with my father for years. He finally got so bad we had him committed and it was the best thing we could have ever done. The doctors realized that he was being over medicated and not properly medicated and that his psychiatrist was just patching up the problems without fixing them. Then the drs. at the hospital referred us to this amazing psychiatrist and my father has been amazing the last 1 1/2 years. We no longer run to the ER, he's no longer talking about suicide (which he attempted and failed) and I think he's enjoying his life now (well to the best of their ability when you suffer from depression).

If you need someone to talk to............just FM me. I'd be more than happy to lend an ear, a shoulder and my heart.

Good luck.

Message edited 11/15/2005 10:06:59 AM.

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I work as a social worker on the psychiatric unit of a major hospital. Just a couple of thoughts. The number one time that most patients come in is the holidays. Why? because people feel so much pressure as to where to go, what to do, and how they feel. I think it is perfectly normla to have some stress but for some people it becomes so overwhelming. The good news is this..despite feeling down she is still on this "looking good" binge and keeping things in order which clearly shows that she is not suicidal. My advice, maybe she needs a break but most of all she should see a GOOD therapist outside of the hospital who can show her how to control her emotions without letting them get the best of her. Dont feel down, There are alot of people in your situation. There are support groups for people who have family members with mental illness. Not for them but for you.
Good luck to you. If u need any info FM me.

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sorry you are going through this
BIG HUGS

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Im sorry

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I am sorry you have to deal with this.

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I'm sorry for you! Sounds like a really bad day.

Would you be willing to do some family counseling with her? Maybe you could break the cycle - it sounds like it causes you a lot of stress.


Hope all goes well.

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Thanks everyone for your support.

I took her to the hospital where she signed herself in and I am hoping that she gets something out of it and stops treating it as a spa.

We have been going through this my whole life and she has been getting worse over the years.

The only time I don't worry about her is when she is in the hospital. I am praying that she has some kind of breakthrough.

BTW- her psychiatrist ***** I have seen such a decline the past 9 or 10 yrs my mom has been seeing her. My mom worships her .

I would go to counseling with her - I will ask the hospital about it. I am glad I was there when she was admitted so that she couldn't manipulate the Dr.s - I kind of gave them the WHOLE truth and it was documented.

PS- My friends surgery went well

Thanks again to all of you

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I know mental illness is so hard I can't even imagine what and how it is like growing up with this. I just wanted to offer my support &

I hope your mom gets the help she needs.

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We deal with this as well. There is no winning, DH and I always feel guilty, and it seems like the family member is never happy with our actions at all. This family member is ALWAYS dying, and says no one cares.

It is hard, but you are not alone.

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Posted by skygirl

My mom who is not well mentally is starting her shenanigans.
She wants me to take her to the hospital but before we go wants to get her hair done - I asked her if she was going to the EMmys or the hospital
She also asked me to pick her up some new sweats and when I told her I did she asked what colors and did they match.
Every time there is a holiday coming up she starts talking about suicide- its so predictible.( Long history)
DH says that she is looking for attention and sympathy - it really is SO draining. My whole life we have had this song and dance.
It shou;d be interesting today


To top it off, my friend is having surgery today to remove a cyst on her thyroid

Sorry to be a downer just had to vent

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Posted by dandr10199

I have come to terms that my mom will never be what I always wanted her to be and that's OK. Although I do love her very much and her illness breaks my heart, I need to live my life. I hope this helps. You are in my prayers.

Message edited 11/16/2005 1:31:33 PM.

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many hugs to you...

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Posted by skygirl


I always say it---- you can only pick your friends- not your family.

Message edited 11/16/2005 6:05:22 PM.

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WOW! You girls facing this similair ordeals really are very very very strong women. I cant imagine whatyou go through and I commend you for being so strong.

I feel for you all , and will pray all your family members getthe help they need.

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I just had a small thought...
do u think that if you werent available to take her to the hospital and made it her responsibility to call the ambulance she would go less frequently? I was just thinking that maybe she feels less responsible for admitting her to a hospital then if u did it for her? Does this make any sense? I was just thinking of ways it wouldnt be so hard for you. I think its important that she knows u r there for her which u seem to have already accomplished. I think I read a previos post about a good psychiatrist. I would take advantage of that bc I have worked with some real bad ones in the hospital even if she is getting used to them.
History with a DR doesnt always bring success. I also think most of these meds r trial and error. Its about getting them right.

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I am so sorry your going through this

I am glad your friends surgery went well

all I can offer you is and i hope that helps

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I am so sorry you have to deal with this.