I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

but here it is.

Most of you know me and my DH, because we planned our weddings together on LIW.

My question is, since we got married outside of the Catholic Church (I am Catholic and so is Phil) can my future children be baptized in the Catholic church.

I am thinking NO, but now I am kinda regretting that we didn't marry in the church because I really want our future children to be baptized in a catholic church, make his/her communion and confirmation.

But I really didn't like the church I made my confirmation in. I loved the church I was in before we moved to LI, but that is over 3 hours away.

Okay, here is the main question, is it possible for us to be married in the Catholic church by an ordained priest so our future children can be christianed in a Catholic church, and make his/her communion & comfirmation.

Sorry this is so long and I know I really should have thought more about this before. But I didn't.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

Tara I honestly don't think it's a problem. I am Jewish and DH is Catholic. We were married at the hall and the Catholic church was willing to baptized my daughter. We decided to raise her in the Episcipalian church for other reasons but I don't think you will have a problem.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

My cousin was married at the hall (his wife was divorced) and both of their children were baptized. They attend church regularly.

Message edited 10/8/2005 3:49:01 PM.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

I honestly don't think it will be a problem baptizing your children in a catholic church.


I don't understand your main question. Are you asking if you could still get married in the Church?

If so, my answer would be "yes". My parents got married by the justice of the peace (my dad was going to Vietnam) and when he returned, they were married in the Catholic Church. They have 2 anniversary dates! :)

ETA: We had an interfaith marriage outside of the church with a Rabbi and a Deacon with the approval of the church. The church does recognize our marriage and we can still baptize in the church. Just curious...where did you get married?

Message edited 10/8/2005 8:59:51 AM.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

You can. My BIL and SIL were married in a non catholic..I think Protestant church and there children were all baptised Catholic.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

It really depends on the church. My church will not baptize children whose parents were not married in church or whose parents aren't married at all.

It really boils down to the pastor and how liberal or conservative he is.

I call a few churches and ask what their policy is. Some priests won't even ask if your married or not.

Good Luck!

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

It depends on the church.

But overall most are very accepting

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

DH and I were not even married when we baptised our son in an R.C. Church.
They were wonderful about it and were just SO happy that we wanted to baptise him.

My sister however did not get married in a church and when she went to baptise her son they let her but kind of lectured her about not being married in the church.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

Yes you can baptize your children in a Catholic church.

I know people that are on second marriages - all of their children were baptized.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

Tara, most churches will let you baptize the child even if you weren't married in the church. If they say no, find another church. Priests who are good ministers tend to be more interested in welcoming people back into the church, not excluding them from it. My godson's parents weren't married in the church, and both he and his sister are baptized Catholics and he made his first communion already.

You can actually have your marriage recognized by the church if you choose to do so. My brother did that - had a civil ceremonym and then a church ceremony. It is called convalidation of marriage. This link might help answer some of your questions:

convalidation article link

Message edited 10/8/2005 3:13:05 PM.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)

It definitely depends on each Parish and each Pastor. For the most part, they will gladly accept your children.

Re: I kinda have a weird question (I feel kinda dumb asking about this, I should have thought it about it more before)