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05mommy09
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Not sure what to do...
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We are having a backyard bash for Ryans 1st b-day..
We wanna keep it small and casual since its only a 1st b-day..
So we only invited DH and I immediate family... (our aunts and uncles, and cousins...)
We cut out alot of friends, and co-workers and still ended up with 60 people + kids....  (DH has a big family...)
OK- I asked my MIL if she wanted to invite her 2 best friends.... Since I know she was invited to their grandchilds 1st b-day... and she said if I didnt mind... (mind you- I didnt even ask my mom this... and the party is at her house - I was trying to be nice)
Ok fine!
Well today I get a call from her saying I didnt invite her SIL's mother (since she lives with them- meaning MIL's- SIL...) Now mind you- this woman is not related- and the only time we hear or see her is at big family functions... I didnt invite her since DH and I agreed immediate family only! (She wasnt invited to the christening either)
Now- shes only one person, and its not gonna cost extra for one person.... but I dont feel like 1. MIL should be telling me who I should and shouldnt invite. 2. That we should make an exception for one person.. when their are others who are more important that got left off...
I havent called MIL back yet to discuss this- and I know its gonna be a huge fight (because she dosent have control over something) so Im not sure if I should just invite her and let it go... or just simply say Im sorry- we cut out alot of people, and since she wasnt immediate family (or family at all) she was a cut, unfortunately we had to cut out alot of people.. but in order to keep it on the smaller side, and affordable this is what we had to do.... (sorry- no control for you!)
What do you think?
Message edited 8/18/2006 5:08:48 PM.
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Well - while I completely would NOT want to invite her, I would do it just to avoid the arguement.
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| Posted 8/18/06 5:14 PM |
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Re: Not sure what to do...
I wouldn't invite her either because before you know it she is going to calling you a few days before and ask if so and so can also come. If she puts up a fight ask for her to give you money to cover their portion and see what she says. Maybe she will back down.
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| Posted 8/18/06 5:22 PM |
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MelToddJulia
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Well I would tell her like you said it, that you left out other important people to keep it small, so why should you invite someone who isnt even related? I would tell her no! Once you say yes to that person, more are to follow.
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| Posted 8/18/06 5:25 PM |
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Bri
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Posted by MelTodd604
Well I would tell her like you said it, that you left out other important people to keep it small, so why should you invite someone who isnt even related? I would tell her no! Once you say yes to that person, more are to follow.
I agree
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| Posted 8/18/06 7:19 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Posted by Seles81
I wouldn't invite her either because before you know it she is going to calling you a few days before and ask if so and so can also come. If she puts up a fight ask for her to give you money to cover their portion and see what she says. Maybe she will back down.
Its really not about the money-
But I just feel like- when we make a decision... on how we are making our invite lists....we have to stick to it... otherwise peoples feelings get hurt?
How can I justify not inviting other people who are actually family and or real close friends who we actually see and speak with- but inviting her....
Dh's answer... invite all 
or just stand my ground, and say- sorry the invites are already out... the list is already made... and leave it at that
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| Posted 8/18/06 7:20 PM |
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Posted by THEINFAMOUSMRS.OTG
Posted by MelTodd604
Well I would tell her like you said it, that you left out other important people to keep it small, so why should you invite someone who isnt even related? I would tell her no! Once you say yes to that person, more are to follow.
I agree
I also agree. 
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| Posted 8/18/06 7:23 PM |
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SoinLove
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Posted by MelTodd604
Well I would tell her like you said it, that you left out other important people to keep it small, so why should you invite someone who isnt even related? I would tell her no! Once you say yes to that person, more are to follow.
I completely agree!
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| Posted 8/18/06 7:42 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Not worth the argument, IMO. From what I've read about your MIL, I could see her making this into a big issue. I would let her invite her but make sure she understands that you are making this one exception for her, despite your wishes and there are to be absolutely no additional last minute invites on her part.
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| Posted 8/18/06 8:11 PM |
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sunny
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Re: Not sure what to do...
I think you should invite her, mostly because she lives with them.
I can see why you don't want to though.
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| Posted 8/18/06 8:35 PM |
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05mommy09
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Well I called my MIL... and said if its really important or if it will cause problems for her, than I will do it...
But we are making cuts little by little... because we dont feel 150+ people for every event is necessary- so if its not this party shes getting cut from, its the next...
Believe or not my MIL was understanding and told me not to worry about it She probelm giving me the italian horns behind my back though
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| Posted 8/18/06 9:01 PM |
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Re: Not sure what to do...
Posted by Princessmaris
Well I called my MIL... and said if its really important or if it will cause problems for her, than I will do it...
But we are making cuts little by little... because we dont feel 150+ people for every event is necessary- so if its not this party shes getting cut from, its the next...
Believe or not my MIL was understanding and told me not to worry about it She probelm giving me the italian horns behind my back though
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| Posted 8/18/06 10:30 PM |
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