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MrsA1012
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My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/babblecom/my-wife-is-expecting-twins_b_3141819.html
Thoughts? I was really disturbed.
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AngnShaun
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Seeing as how they could have on some level avoided it id agree that its disturbing...
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:26 AM |
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MandJZ
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
While I find it very sad for him and his wife that they feel this way, I also think these are very real emotions. Unlike that mother who wrote the article that we all discussed a while ago, this parent remained anonymous. He isn't shouting publicly to the world (or his kids) that he has these feelings. And he is normalizing the fear for others who may also be feeling it.
Terribly sad and I hope they find out when their babies arrive just how much they do love them. But Also very real and honest, I think. And since he is anonymous - who is he hurting?
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:26 AM |
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buttercup
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I didn't even read the whole thing... stopped when he said it was his turn to live the nightmare.
Dislike it totally..
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:27 AM |
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mnmsoinlove
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
This is ridiculous! Why would these people try for 2nd especially with fertility treatments if they didn't really want a second. I feel bad for those babies.
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:31 AM |
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Jenn627
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I think they write these pieces for shock value. I don't believe it for a minute.
The horrors that people shared with him? Don't believe it. Most people say "it was rough in the beginning but we made it." I call BS.
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:31 AM |
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lynnd126
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I don't think he sounds like he wanted to have even one more kid. Doesn't make sense to me how one to two could spark so much anger. Maybe it's also a heavy dose of gender disappointment?
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:37 AM |
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DirtyBlonde
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I hope that anyone who has dealt with or is currently dealing with infertility does not read this.
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:40 AM |
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JDubs
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
He should look at this as a blessing especially having gone through IF.... but unfortunately there are people out there like this that exist. I unfortunately, know of someone that had an IUI, got pregnant with twins and then did a reduction   I can't even think about it because it still disgusts me.
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:47 AM |
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2BadSoSad
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
He is DISGUSTING.....wishing for a genetic abnormality so they had a reason for reduction. DISGUSTING.
Is this the new article trend? This is like the 3rd or 4th Ive read like this, since the "I wish I never had kids" article.
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NervousNell
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
So if you were SOOOO against having twins then why did you chose to have more than one embryo implanted?
I know plenty of people who did not want twins while doing IVF and they only did one embryo at a time.
You have to know that if you put 2 in, you can very well end up with twins.
I mean come on.
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:51 AM |
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Jax430
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by DirtyBlonde
I hope that anyone who has dealt with or is currently dealing with infertility does not read this.
Too late.
First of all, why in the world do people feel the need to write pieces like this? I really feel that it's purely for shock value.
Secondly, if you did not want twins, you shouldn't have transferred two embryos. I understand being totally overwhelmed and scared, but to wish for one to have a genetic abnormality so that you have a reason to reduce is just disgusting!
I will be doing an FET when we decide to have a second child, and due to my specific issues, we really should transfer 2-3 embryos. I know the possibility of twins exists. It terrifies me, and is not what either of us necessarily want at this point, but if that is the outcome, we will welcome them with open arms.
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| Posted 5/7/13 10:56 AM |
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ElizaRags35
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by DirtyBlonde
I hope that anyone who has dealt with or is currently dealing with infertility does not read this.
Too late. I will happily take his children if he doesn't want them. In a heartbeat.
Asshole.
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:03 AM |
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starr
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by MandJZ
While I find it very sad for him and his wife that they feel this way, I also think these are very real emotions. Unlike that mother who wrote the article that we all discussed a while ago, this parent remained anonymous. He isn't shouting publicly to the world (or his kids) that he has these feelings. And he is normalizing the fear for others who may also be feeling it.
Terribly sad and I hope they find out when their babies arrive just how much they do love them. But Also very real and honest, I think. And since he is anonymous - who is he hurting?
big fat ITA
we all need a moment to feel bad for even the good things that happen in our lives because we all sometime succumb to fear. so he is using writing as getting all the negative feelings out.
I too hope when they get their twins they will be overwhelmed by happiness and these fears will dissolve
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:04 AM |
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lulugrrl
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I just want to add to this, I was TERRIFIED when I found out I was having twins. Terrified and Overwhelmed.
However, They are here, and I love them SO MUCH. You find the love, or should I say the love finds you.
This Dad sounds like he wrote a shock of the moment note. It is a life changer, from experience, I can say it is not nearly as bad as they think it may be...so I too, am not trusting the 'comments'.
So any mom facing infertility or just finding out it is a multiple pregnancy. It will be OKAY..there is plenty of love to go around..you will suprise yourself. It is such a beautiful blessing.
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:05 AM |
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Kitten1929
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I stopped reading after they did IVF.
Disgusting way to think about your children/pregnancy.
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:07 AM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by Kitten1929
I stopped reading after they did IVF.
Me too!
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:08 AM |
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MrsM429
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My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
This makes me so incredibly sad that there are couples (including DH and I) who would be over the moon happy to be in the position they are in, and they look at being doubly blessed as a disappointment. Shame on him if this article is in fact true
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:09 AM |
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halfbaked
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
What bothers me most is the fact that they already have one son, live in a one bedroom apartment, yet dropped the money on IVF and then had the audacity to be annoyed with the expected, positive outcome.
Of course it's terrifying, of course there are times when you think "I've made a huge mistake." but, c'mon. To liken it to a cancer patient waiting to die?!
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:43 AM |
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Pomegranate5
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I can't come down on him as being a terrible person. I kind of understand where he is coming from. I'm pregnant again. It was planned. I feel a HUGE mix of emotions, and I'd be lying if I said they were all happy ones.
Having a newborn is HARD work, and I don't believe any second time parent who says they have no anxiety about doing those first few months all over again, especially if they had a particularly difficult first child (which this guy claims he did).
I don't like that he says he feels "regretful". I can't relate to that. But the general sentiment I can appreciate.
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Pray4Baby2010
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by MandJZ
While I find it very sad for him and his wife that they feel this way, I also think these are very real emotions. Unlike that mother who wrote the article that we all discussed a while ago, this parent remained anonymous. He isn't shouting publicly to the world (or his kids) that he has these feelings. And he is normalizing the fear for others who may also be feeling it.
Terribly sad and I hope they find out when their babies arrive just how much they do love them. But Also very real and honest, I think. And since he is anonymous - who is he hurting?
I agree... This also came off as more of a vent to me- like something to get off his chest. I do hope that their mindset changes by the time the babies are here.
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AScottWolf
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by starr
Posted by MandJZ
While I find it very sad for him and his wife that they feel this way, I also think these are very real emotions. Unlike that mother who wrote the article that we all discussed a while ago, this parent remained anonymous. He isn't shouting publicly to the world (or his kids) that he has these feelings. And he is normalizing the fear for others who may also be feeling it.
Terribly sad and I hope they find out when their babies arrive just how much they do love them. But Also very real and honest, I think. And since he is anonymous - who is he hurting?
big fat ITA
we all need a moment to feel bad for even the good things that happen in our lives because we all sometime succumb to fear. so he is using writing as getting all the negative feelings out.
I too hope when they get their twins they will be overwhelmed by happiness and these fears will dissolve
This.
Imo, it sounds like they had a rough time with their son and are assuming that it's going to be the exact same way with these twins. It also sounds like it's fear more then anything else which then turned into anger and frustration.
Yes, they should have planned better considering they live in a 1br apt. if that's something they aren't happy with.
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| Posted 5/7/13 11:53 AM |
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gina409
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I have twins via ivf
I went through hell to get them
I think of the 3 babies before this we lost
This guy is a piece of shit. I have zero compassion for him
This is not about being shocked you are having twins or saying I am scared it will be hard
The things he said are disturbing
Being a parent is hard no matter what,this guy is the personification of you have no idea how lucky you are and thank your lucky stars instead of woe is me
The article actually made me feel sick to my stomach
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| Posted 5/7/13 12:09 PM |
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AngnShaun
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
Posted by gina409
I have twins via ivf
I went through hell to get them
I think of the 3 babies before this we lost
This guy is a piece of shit. I have zero compassion for him
This is not about being shocked you are having twins or saying I am scared it will be hard
The things he said are disturbing
Being a parent is hard no matter what,this guy is the personification of you have no idea how lucky you are and thank your lucky stars instead of woe is me
The article actually made me feel sick to my stomach
ETA: This is not an accidental pregnancy with spontaneous twins... they did IVF and put 2 embryos back... NO sympathy from me... regardless of my experiences with IVF and losing a twin... this is very disturbing!
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| Posted 5/7/13 12:10 PM |
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olive98
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Re: My Wife Is Expecting Twins and I Am Not Happy About It
I dont see whats so bad about what he wrote. He is just being honest about his feelings.
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