For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...

...when the kids are starting school?

Especially Kindergarten??

I saw a post the other day where the kids K teacher gave the parents tissue? Do a lot of parents get like that with the start of school????

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For many, it's because their DC is growing up, and no longer a baby. They are becoming independent, and moving on to the next stage of their lives.

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exactly...My son is only 2...but I'm sure when it's time for him to go to school I will cry too. We are thick as thieves and spend all our time together. He's my little partner in crime! It's a huge transition.

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They are just growing up, and it reminds me just how fast time is running by. I cried when DS started prek, and even if it was just him starting by himself, i know id be crying again, but now its also my DD first year of prek. I have no idea how ill handle full day school, this is only 2.5 hrs a.week a few times a.week

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I cried like a baby watching the commercial where the dad puts his DD on the school bus for the 1st time and then followed it in his car!

For me it's the thought of leaving DD for the entire day in a big new school. The thought of kids possibly being mean to her, or of her missing me, etc. (All irrational fears that only a parent could understand!)

My DD is only 2 and I dread Kindergarten already!

For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...

Just because they are growing up. For me, I'm a SAHM and it was the first time she was away from me for that long of a day and I was worried about everything, will she eat, will she know to ask for the bathroom, will she make friends. Now she's going into first and I'm thrilled lol. I already have her bag packed!

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the only reason i *might* cry when the time comes will only be if she cries cause she scared then i probaly wont cry just feel really bad about it ...

DD has been in full time daycare ill be excited that i will be saving all that money

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I'm a Sah with dc, so the hard part for me is not seeing him all day. I miss him so much, He is my little buddy! Another thing is the bus, this is the first time in his life I have to trust strangers to care for him. And yes, he is growing up, he is still 4 but school is a big deal! I was the only mom on the bus stop not crying, I felt sad though.

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I cry for several reasons

- since I became a mom I have turned into a complete sap so I cry at a lot of things!
- I am a WAHM so I am my child's first point of contact for everything since birth - I have in home babysitters but the kids still come to me if they need comfort
- I cry because I worry - will my DS remember to go to the bathroom on time or will he continue playing until the very last minute and then he will have to wait to get the teachers attention before he can go
- I cry because it feels SO weird to me to be dropping off my child somewhere for an entire day - I know this is beyond strange to some people but I still feel its weird and my DD is going into second grade
_ I cry because I worry about someone bullying them and them having to sit all day in school scared or confused as to what is going on
- I cry for insane reasons such as "will my DS be able to open his yogurt tube and if not will snack time be over by the time the teacher can get to him"
_ I cry because when my kids fall and hurt themselves the only real source of comfort to them is me - thats just the way it is and I wont be there when that happens
_ I cry especially hard for kindergarten as its such a long day and it will be longest that my kids will have been away from me every
_ I cry now since Newtown CT as its a real worry for me that an atrocity like that could happen in my childs school
- I cry because I just LOVE these little beings to the depths of my soul and beyond and I miss them when they are gone :(


PS My kids NEVER see me cry - never, ever...I wear my sunglasses for days like this and do my crying in the parking lot and in the way home. Its all positive as far as they are concerned.

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For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...

I cried because I knew it was a turning point. He was mine. For 5 yrs, day in and day out mine.
Then just like that, he is someone else's for 40 hours a week. Someone else is in control, deciding how he spends his days. Then sports at night...I knew my baby boy was gone and I cried because that stage was over and never coming back.
Fast forward to first grade...I cried because I felt like I was just there, but it was a year ago...and wow...how quick these years are going to go

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I don't have children; however, I did babysit two children for a very long time. They are 9 & 7 now, and DH and I are still close with them and their parents. I cried at the little girl's Communion last year.

I don't "cry" when I see their back-to-school pictures, but I feel a little sad twinge. I remember when they were just babies and now they are growing up. It's not necessarily sad; it's bittersweet. There is such a wonderful world out there for little ones to explore, but there's also a sense of innocence and sense of unending happiness and bliss that they are leaving behind a bit.

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I am a teacher, and taught Kindergarten for several years (before I had my son and when he was a toddler). I always thought, jeez, would these parents get a grip, it's Kindergarten, we are not sending these kids off to war!

Now that my little one is going off to Kindergarten, I am an emotional wreck. He has been in the same daycare setting for several years, I knew everyone that worked with him and I had access to him whenever I wanted during the day. Now, I don't know anyone in his school building and he will be there all day long working, working, working! I know in my heart he is going to be fine but I miss the baby days!

For Parents: This might be a stupid a question, but why do you cry...

I cry every year. It makes me sad that they are growing up so quickly. I feel like it was just yesterday that I sent my 9th grader to kindergarten! :(

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I think that this is one of those things that for most, you will never understand unless you actually have a child(ren).

I know that it sounds horribly cliché but I remember thinking once WTF is the big deal about the first day of school? I may have even written a thread about it .

I totally get it now though.

And school aside, so many other things will affect me that used to never be a second thought.

Especially if I hear of something bad happening to someone else's child.

As a mother, your heart aches a little right along with them because you can't help imagining what if it was you?

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Really?!?!

I'm sending my baby off into the world on her own for the first time. Aside from a few hours here and there of separation class and dance my little girl has been with me 24/7 EVERY day of her life since she was born. It's going to be so, so hard putting her on that bus tomorrow morning and putting her in the care of someone else, someone I don't even know. It's breaking my heart........I've been crying ALL weekend.

I know she will love it and do great but it's a big change for me and I will have to get use to being away from my sweet girl all day. It's really not easy. I feel like I just had her, I just can't believe this day is here already. It's bittersweet, I'm gong to have a hard morning tomorrow.

You would think being a former teacher, Kindergarten too no less, I'd be better about this but I'm such a mess. I have a new appreciation for the way all those parents felt the year I had their babies. It's not easy letting go.

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I think it just reminds you of how fast time flies and they are no longe babies. It's the change of them being with other people besides you all day.

I have a daughter starting nursery and one going into 1st and I think the beginning of any school year for a parent signifies excitement and sadness.....at least for me it does.

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Posted by beachgirl

I cry for several reasons

- since I became a mom I have turned into a complete sap so I cry at a lot of things!
- I am a WAHM so I am my child's first point of contact for everything since birth - I have in home babysitters but the kids still come to me if they need comfort
- I cry because I worry - will my DS remember to go to the bathroom on time or will he continue playing until the very last minute and then he will have to wait to get the teachers attention before he can go
- I cry because it feels SO weird to me to be dropping off my child somewhere for an entire day - I know this is beyond strange to some people but I still feel its weird and my DD is going into second grade
_ I cry because I worry about someone bullying them and them having to sit all day in school scared or confused as to what is going on
- I cry for insane reasons such as "will my DS be able to open his yogurt tube and if not will snack time be over by the time the teacher can get to him"
_ I cry because when my kids fall and hurt themselves the only real source of comfort to them is me - thats just the way it is and I wont be there when that happens
_ I cry especially hard for kindergarten as its such a long day and it will be longest that my kids will have been away from me every
_ I cry now since Newtown CT as its a real worry for me that an atrocity like that could happen in my childs school
- I cry because I just LOVE these little beings to the depths of my soul and beyond and I miss them when they are gone :(


PS My kids NEVER see me cry - never, ever...I wear my sunglasses for days like this and do my crying in the parking lot and in the way home. Its all positive as far as they are concerned.

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I even want to cry reading this because DS is starting 3rd grade tomorrow and I can't believe how time flies and I want to protect him from anything and I can't when he is at school. He is very independent, so it is harder for me... I think I'm the one suffering from separation anxiety, even now that he is almost 8

I never cry in front of him, though. When the school year is over, on the step up celebrations, I always want to cry and I get very emotional. Time to prepare my tissues for tomorrow!

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because it's a huge change in their lives.

There is an expression that I heard when I first had a baby. "The days are long, but the years are short." Every day, you are watching this little person get a little more independent, need you a little less, start to walk, then run, then talk, then tell you "I do it myself."and you celebrate each milestone.

Then in one day, the milestone means something completely different. They go off without you. They need you a little less in some ways & more in others. You spend the last 5 years telling your kid how great they are. You cheered everything they can do, you praise them for learning the alphabet, simple math, even reading.

Then they go to school and that amazing kid questions how amazing they are. They question your judgement of how amazing they are. Some other little kid may even tell them they aren't amazing. In fact, they are less than amazing. The things they like may not be "cool". Your kid that proudly walked around in her Dora backpack or wears a Spiderman shirt second guesses himself, his choice & your willingness to make his own choices.

So that day is huge. You watch your baby walk into his very first day of kindergarten. You did you absolute best to prepare them but you can't prepare them for everything. So it's a milestone but with a huge loss associated at the same time.

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I don't remember crying for either of my kids but they also were in daycare from 12 weeks.
I have cried about other things so I don't think it is odd to cry about things your children does.
I don't get the parents though who have made their children their entire life that they can't imagine being away from them.
Our job as parents is to raise them in the way that they can go into the world as independent, self-sufficient adults. We need for them to know that there is more to our own lives then just them.

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I didn't think I'd be such a wreck but I was. He was almost always in daycare but seeing him there so little with a big ole backpack and all those supplies I lost it and will never forget it.

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All of the above!!!

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