Advice for a friend...invited to an e-party at an Orthodox household

she was invited to an engagement party hosted by the grooms parents in their home.

what should she wear? she is NOT orthodox.

TIA.

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i don't think you dress any differently than you would for any other party.

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She can wear whatever she wants, but she should be dressed modestly. Knees and shoulders covered, no plunging necklines or cleavage showing.

If it were me, I would wear a skirt/dress, because all of the orthodox women will be and I wouldn't want to stand out. But pants are fine too.

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I can tell you one thing, definately wear these~!

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Glad I could help.

ETA: I went to a wedding few years ago of a very religious friend. I was playing with another friend's daughter and someone asked my friend who was the FFB playing with her daughter (Frum/Orthodox from birth). She had no idea who she meant until she saw me playing with her daughter. She started laughing because she knows I am not Orthodox.

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She should just be covered up and modest.

Also she should be prepared for gender separation.

We haven't been invited to any we could go to anyway, but as a rule we don't attend orthodox events. We would not be comfortable there. For example, I can't imagine going to a wedding and not getting to sit with FH, let alone dance with him. Though if it were a really close friend I wouldbe more inclined to try.

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I have been to a number of Orthodox events. Even though I do not follow Orthodox ways, as a Jewish person who has some knowledge of how dress for these events, I do so out of respect for the people who invited me. In other words, if you know what to do, do it.

There were people invited to those same events who had NO knowledge at all, but asked what to do. The best thing to do is to ask. Personally, I respect people who ask and still stay true to themselves.

Also know that people within these communities can spot someone who is not "one of them" a mile away. At the Orthodox events I went to, even though I was covered from head to toe, they knew that I was not Frum. If they are good people, they will not have expectations of you and will appreciate you as you are.

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I have many orthodox friends, and whenever I go to a wedding or other event, I make sure that my shoulders are covered, my neckline is not too low (no cleavage), and that if I'm wearing a skirt, it goes past my knees.

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