am I a mom now???

I really new to being a step mom and I have a lot of concerns...to say the least

She'll be 16 in a week...yikes
I remember that age a little to well
It just scares the hell out of me...

She lives in another state and her dad and I are really just getting to know her. We both only me her a few months ago...long story but all good.

I guess the big question is...
Am I a mom?

She has a mother but she has only seen her 3 times in 10 years! Her grandmother raised her (full custody) and an amazing women.

She tells me I've been more of a mother to her the past few months the her real mom has been her whole life...which makes me so sad for her
I really wish she lived closer but she's coming out for the holidays and hopefully the summer if she get her grades up!

Just wanted to hear everyones thoughts. I dont have any children of my own yet but I do say our daughter. I just dont want to push to much but she really does need some guidance that a mom should give (and she's missing it)

Re: am I a mom now???

you are definitly a mom. the only mom she's got in fact! my stepdaughter is the same as yours and has become a huge part of my life. just thinking that she is a little part of my husband makes me love her just as if she was my own!

Re: am I a mom now???

Of course you are. She said so herself, you've been more of a mom to her than her real mom.
Its how you feel in your heart, thats what makes you a mom.

Re: am I a mom now???

Posted by Tracey

Its how you feel in your heart, thats what makes you a mom.

Re: am I a mom now???

wow Im a mom
hey its a

Just wish everyone else was excited.
There are some that are and some that just except it...and a few that just dont talk about it

damn! its getting late & I have to go to work now Im sure I'll post more...
(Im glad I can be part of the parenting board now)

Thanks