Am I being a baby? I'm a little concerned here...

I have to say, I knew at some point Christopher may have a preference, mom or dad, but I always thought it would be me

It seems that whenever Christopher is upset (9.5 months old) he wants daddy. When he's tired, he wants daddy. When he want to play, he wants daddy. Basically, he always wants daddy. Its actually giving me a complex. I mean, I'm MOMMY! What's better than mommy? Apparently, daddy is better than mommy.

Don't get me wrong. I LOVE watching daddy with him. I love how much he adores him. But sometimes I feel, I don't know, left out. And last night? Do you know I held him and he actually cried for daddy? That felt awful. When he was first born, and all through about 3 weeks ago, he wanted me. Now he wants him. I know he's been home from work a lot and spending a lot of time with him.

And the other thing is...Daddy is the fun one. While mommy works from home and Christopher ends up playing alone a lot, daddy comes home and he's the hero, while mommy has to cook dinner, dishwasher, wash, bottles, etc. It always seems that I've got something to do while DH gets to play with Christopher. And I can hear it all now...tell DH to do this, split chores, etc. I KNOW that is what should happen, but if I waited for that to happen, I'd be left wanting. It would never get done. And I'm not the type of person to leave dishes in the sink for 3 days and have cereal for dinner.

So, am I alone here? Does your DC like daddy more? Please, please tell me I'm not alone!!

Re: Am I being a baby? I'm a little concerned here...

DS goes through stages which is most likely what is going on with your DS and DH. He is in a Daddy stage. My DS goes through these periods too. Then he goes on to a Mommy stage where he only wants me.

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Luce is on a SERIOUS daddy kick right now. and he is christopher's age.

it is RIDICULOUS! they are in love with each other.

I just keep telling myself that he will come running back to me some day.

and then, leave me for his first girl friend.

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I could've written this word for word. DS is usually a daddy boy. He does LOVE me and he give me lots of hugs and kisses, but the moment he sees his daddy it's like... "Mommy who?"

We both work, but I'm up with Mason is the mornings. Get him dressed and bring him to daycare. I pick him up and he gets sooo excited to see me. I bring him home, gate him in the den to play while mommy cleans up, dishwasher, unpacks bag, quickly changes out of work clothes and gets Mason's baby food together. DH walks in and he's all excited. HUGE smiles, etc. DH has to go and change from work and Mason whines when he leaves.
I leave and Mason is perfectly fine. We both play with him upstairs b4 bath and he only follows DH and wants to play with him
He does go thru different phases where he wants me, but I don't get he wants me more than DH. He's just happy with me
Also does this with MIL. He's all over her and if I leave Mason is fine. MIL walks out for a moment and he follows her

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My DH was laid off when DD#1 was 8 months old. He was home with her for 6 months and she seriously turned into a daddy's girl. All she wanted was daddy. It didn't help that I was swamped at work and was working 12-14 hours a day and got to see her for maybe 1-2 hours a day, if that. I started to get a complex, but then all of a sudden like a month after DH went back to work she switched and became a total mommy's girl. She still is like that at 2.5.

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Okay, so then hopefully its a phase

Thanks everyone

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DS is 8 months and in DADDY PHASE also!! I was fine with it but now.. im like Ok when are you coming back to mommy!!! He only wants me when it's time for bed!

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We've gone through this phase-DD is almost always a mama's girl but did go through a phase of choosing DH over me.

DS has shown no preference yet at all.

It's fine, it goes back and forth-it will be your turn soon

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i swear i wrote this word for word last month!!!! they definitely go through stages. now DS just wants me and it KILLS DH!! but i LOVE it! ha ha ha! <insert evil laugh> but i know its gonna change again and he'll prefer DH over me. be patient. it will happen!

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It's a phase.

DD walks around the house all day looking for daddy. All I hear as she goes room to room is: "Dada? Dada?" room after room..... It SO makes me DH is the "fun" one, I'm the one she comes to when she wants to complain/whine about something. I get all the tantrums and the "NO's"

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Re: Am I being a baby? I'm a little concerned here...

DH is definitely the fun one in our house and there are times where DS is looking for him over me. Just this morning when DS woke up, he was whining with me, but as soon as Daddy came down, he takes DH's hand and says "Go play?"

But, when he's hurt or upset, it's always me he wants. I think with most kids, it sort of goes in cycles and will sometimes prefer one of you over the other.