Am I the only showerless person? not by choice either..

Not for religious or family reasons....

I am 99.99% sure I'll have no shower. There's even a precedent has I had no bridal shower either (though I had one at work)

My family is so far away
His family .... for lack of better wording... doesn't get it. As in, the kid isn't here.. don't you buy that stuff? why would you ask others to buy you stuff for a kid you made? none of malicious just naive.

So I am pretty sure no shower for me. Sorta bummed and honestly its why I can't get into putting stuff on my registry or even bothering to register outside walmart.

Ugh.

I know my office bosses normally buy something off a mom-to-be's registry but they are used to target and bbb/bru type places.. should I bother to tell them I used walmart cause they have the designs, etc that I wanted?

Showers are officially depressing for me

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that's so sad

I understand the 'don't get it families'.... DH and his entire family came here from poland about 15 years ago... My mom's family is still in germany... so 3/4 of our extended family never even HEARD of a bridal/baby shower.

My dad's family is american, so THEY know... and I told mom that I want showers I had to teach mom, DH, and my in-laws what a shower is, what the traditions are, and how one is planned... they had no clue....

luckily, everyone was game, and I had a small bridal shower (about 15 people)... I know mom is now 'experienced' and is planning my baby shower for 8/23. The same people will be invited....

So, I was very close to your situation, but managed a way to gently nudge people (who mean well but don't know any better) to accept the american culture I was raised in.......

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you should talk to DH and have him tell his side of the family what it's all about. my DH had to explain to his family about my bridal shower, they didn't really get it, but they all came, and had fun and now they know

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i will be a showerless person, but for religious reasons - we just dont believe in them

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I am not having a shower, either, and to tell the truth, I am kinda sad about it. I am soooo jealous of those who are having them - not so much because of the gifts - but because of all the excitement and good feelings surrounding the baby.

I am one of four sisters, and they have all BTDT..... this baby is the first in my family for nearly a decade, and no one is excited. DH's family is all in England or Australia.

Thanks for bringing this up - I thought I was the only one not having a shower!!!

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I'm sorry, that is a bummer, do you think your DH would be willing/able to speak with his family and tell them how much it would mean to you to have the family celebrate the coming ofyour child?

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My best friend has organized all my events along with my family as I have for her. How about friends here?

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There are cultural reasons for not having a shower. In the Asian culture it's considered unlucky to throw a shower for an unborn baby. Instead we celebrate the delivery of the baby one month afterwards.

It would be too much burden on the relatives and friends if they have to give a shower gift AND a one month gift - usually about 3 months apart if you do both.

Hence, you would pick one or the other.

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Xelindrya the birth of a baby should always be celebrated. Especially if it's a first child of the firstborn son!

Your MIL should really take the initiative on this. However, if she's unwilling because of her own reasons why not bring it up to your friends?

A shower does not have to be thrown by a close female of the family. It can be thrown by a best friend too.

Good luck!

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we did not have a shower either. We are not in NY and all our friend and family were. But my DH job threw us a shower, so it really made here feel like our new home!

Friends back in NY did send gifts just before or after the baby was born.

I was a little hurt that our families did not throw a shower for us before we moved (so what if it was a little early, people would have understood).

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I'm not having a shower, but it's for custom in my religion....which honestly I'm not happy about, its not a rule in the religion, more of a custom/superstition..YUK

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we may not be having a shower.. we just got married a few months ago and our friends/family were sooooo generous with our wedding we feel bad asking someone to throw us a shower now.. so we considered doing it ourselves, but we're opposed to the 'typical' shower.. so we decided to do a bowling party/shower.. but then we are moving at the end of June.. and realized that we could do better to save that money right now..

so we'll either do a mini bowling party in celebration of our baby and to thank our friends and family..


or....

we'll do nothing..lol