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EricaAlt
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Amnio question and a little background on my sister
My sister is about 33 weeks pregnant now. Her OB is suggesting she get an amnio test done. With her last pregnancy she had a fibriod also growing along with the baby. She had to have a c-section done at 34 weeks. B/c the fibriod was so big she had to have it surgically removed.
She did not want to have a hysterectomy. She was adament that she didn't like the idea of being told she can no longer have kids.
Small background... she had 3 kids with her first DH (the 3rd she had when they were separated). After the divorce she met someone who had a DD. She got pregnant, they got married and now they're a big brady bunch family.
5 all together.
Shortly after I had my 2nd DS she announced she was pregnant again. It's obvious her and my BIL loves kids. I think they're crazy, but that's what they love.
So, now she has to have a c-section done early b/c of her fibriod surgery. They want to make sure she doesn't go into labor. THe amnio is to check the baby's lungs are developing.
When I asked her the other day if she's having her tubes tied while they're in there she won't give me a straight answer.
First off my Sister and BIL don't have a ton of money (my parents help them a lot), she just turned 42 yesterday and it's obvious they don't want to say they're 100% done.
So as I ask about the amnio I am also venting a bit about my sister. Love her and the kids are great, but at what point do you stop?
When they're broke? Hopefully everything is safe with this baby, but having another would just cause more issues
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NervousNell
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Wow sounds like a crazy situation but again- you really can't change her and her DH's mind on the whole tube tying situation.
I happen to agree with you on it- but it's her decision.
As far as the amnio though- what was your question?
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| Posted 12/15/11 12:13 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
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Wow sounds like a crazy situation but again- you really can't change her and her DH's mind on the whole tube tying situation.
I happen to agree with you on it- but it's her decision.
As far as the amnio though- what was your question?
Woops, got off the subject
I think she should get it and listen to the Docs. Make sure the baby is ready to come out.
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| Posted 12/15/11 12:16 PM |
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Normally I'd say it's totally their decision whether they keep having more kids or not, but what rubs me the wrong way is that they depend a lot financially on your parents. While many people need help some times, it seems they can't quite afford what they have now and aren't considering the additional cost of future children as well.
But so long as your parents are ok with continuing to help them financially, I'm thinking nothing will change.
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| Posted 12/15/11 12:20 PM |
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EricaAlt
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Posted by LoveyQ
Normally I'd say it's totally their decision whether they keep having more kids or not, but what rubs me the wrong way is that they depend a lot financially on your parents. While many people need help some times, it seems they can't quite afford what they have now and aren't considering the additional cost of future children as well.
But so long as your parents are ok with continuing to help them financially, I'm thinking nothing will change.
Exactly! Of course I talk to my parents and my mom agrees my sister and BIL are a bit crazy. They don't think b4 they act.
My mom also says that just b/c they're irrational the kids are still her grandchildren so won't take away from them. They get them their coats, expensive video games (my 7 yr old cousin asks for the new DS every yr and my parents get it for him), etc.
My parents do spoil my boys as well. I can't ever complain about that. My mom will also say she can't invite them out to dinner some times b/c it gets too much.
Again, I love them all. The kids are really good kids. All grounded and all. My toddler loves getting together with them. Especially my niece b/c they're 10 months apart. My DS2 and her next will only be 6 months apart so that part is nice.
I hate complaining too b/c I care for the kids, but I'm getting broke shopping for all them.
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| Posted 12/15/11 12:27 PM |
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NervousNell
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Posted by EricaAlt
Posted by NervousNell
Wow sounds like a crazy situation but again- you really can't change her and her DH's mind on the whole tube tying situation.
I happen to agree with you on it- but it's her decision.
As far as the amnio though- what was your question?
Woops, got off the subject
I think she should get it and listen to the Docs. Make sure the baby is ready to come out.
Yes I would do it. If the docs says so- and it's an issue of lung development- she really should do it.
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| Posted 12/15/11 12:29 PM |
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Domino
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
It was clear due to low amniotic fluid that DS would be coming early so at 32 weeks I was given a steroid shot to help DS' lungs develop. DS was born at 36 1/2 weeks and his lungs were fine. I was never told I needed an amnio. If your sister is concerned about the risks of an amnio at this stage, I would suggest she get a second opinion. As to her having more children, I stay out of things like that ;)
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| Posted 12/15/11 12:38 PM |
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
I had an amnio done at 37w with my twins. It was pretty painless, although not quick since there was barely any space in there for the dr to find a pocket of fluid!
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
As far as the amnio, if she trusts her doctor and he/she is recommending it, then she should do it. If she doesn't trust her dr, then she should get a second opinion.
As far as the family size goes,, you should probably try to stay out of it, but I'm speaking from experience that it is HARD.
My best friend from high school had 5 kids in 7 years. They cannot afford the kids they have. They are always borderline losing their house, can't pay their bills, etc. Coupled with that, the second to last baby has Down syndrome and has therapy 6 times a week. The littlest was born at 26 weeks, spent months in the NICU, and my friend spent 2 weeks in the hospital as well. They both almost died. She refuses to get her tubes tied and her DH won't get a vasectomy. It's a religious decision for them. I used to talk to her about it, but she wasn't getting it, so I can't anymore 
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Posted by EricaAlt
Woops, got off the subject
I think she should get it and listen to the Docs. Make sure the baby is ready to come out.
I also have to have an early section (for other reasons) and truthfully, if it's before 39w, she probably misunderstood the dr - she's going to have to have an amnio for them to deliver. Malpractice insurance (at least in NY) mandates an amnio is done to confirm lung development in any scheduled delivery prior to 39w.
ETS: I see a PP had a different experience with an early scheduled delivery so perhaps it varies by hospital. If she actually does have a choice, there's absolutely no reason in my mind not to do it. If anything the only thing it'll do that late in pregnancy is put her into labor... at which point they'll perform the cesarean anyway!
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Sounds like she is a high risk patient (due to previous surgery) & they don't want her rupturing her uterus & THEN getting an emergency hysterectomy with a baby that could be seriously injured in the process.
You're not getting the full story here.
Sorry... you can't do much about her future decision to have kids.
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Re: Amnio question and a little background on my sister
Posted by nycgirl
Sounds like she is a high risk patient (due to previous surgery) & they don't want her rupturing her uterus & THEN getting an emergency hysterectomy with a baby that could be seriously injured in the process.
You're not getting the full story here.
Sorry... you can't do much about her future decision to have kids.
ITA
I had a high fever at 36 weeks. Went to L&D after my drs ignored my calls about high fevers for 2 days. By the time I went in my amiotic fluid was low, so they gave me IV fluids to see if it went up. It did not increase, so they wanted to do an amnio to see how baby's lungs were. Turns out my fluid was SO dangerously low there was not even enough fluid to do the amnio, so therefore I had the emergency c/s then and there that am. DD was fine at 36 weeks despite no steriod shot.
I can see your issue with your sister. I would be very frustrated watching all that but nothing much you can do. Doubt she is getting her tubes tied but they might suggest it and she might go for it...only time will tell.
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