Lord Have Mercy..who knew this was going to be like the wedding ALL over again!!

Little history: Our list consists of about 100 people. Now out of those 100 people..we think 50-60 at the most will show IF THAT!!
First : my friends asked me why I was inviting men..(when THEY have had men at THEIR baby showers,)
Second: they asked me to cut the list..which I said I cannot do. These are the friends/family we want..to have there. DH even told them he's HELPING to pay for whatever!!
Third: Then I was asked to switch it to women only. We said NO! Frustration has officially set in!!)

Now...I offered to help plan it..which they said NO NO NO to. So please tell me why on EARTH are they asking me if I'm ok with having the shower in a community center that has no A/C in July or outside?? I've already told them ...SINCE THEY MADE A HUGE DEAL OUT OF THIS...I didn't mind WHERE it was..but didn't want to hear ANYONE complaining if it was too hot. People KNOW it's July...and it tends to be hot ..so come prepared..just like I would!!! Outside seemed like a better idea..because they could BBQ, have it under a tree..in the shade...under a tent. OR the community center!! I really don't care!!! DH even told them..the same thing!!! If this is supposed to be a surprise..just do it and stop asking me.

I swear..I feel like saying just have it in my house and that's it!!! My house is NOT big..but I'm sick of this already. The SAME thing happened for my bridal shower...and it really was/is unecessary!