Another gender-related question...

Are there any moms that DIDN'T want a or any dads that DIDN'T want a ? Or at the very least would have preferred the opposite gender of themselves?

I always figured folks would want at least one of their own gender (healthy first, that's a given). But when my sister had her 2nd DC...a girl (she already had a boy), she was sort of disappointed. I have another friend who only has one son; when I had my son (after my two girls) she said, "Trust me, it's just better..."

Any thoughts or comments?

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I will be honest and tell you that before I had kids, I only wanted Boys. For me, it was more of the fact that I was a HUGE tomboy growing up(still am) and I thought, What the heck would I do with girls? I kinda thought that I might wreck them I figured that I would take away any chance of them ever being a girly girl. But after having DD#1 my fears went away and I realized that they are who they are. DD#1 would only wear skirts until she was about 7 yrs old. She was the ultra princess girly girl. I wound up LOVING having a DD and hoped for another girl when I got p/g again. I feel very blessed to have my 2 girls. I couldnt be more happy that they have eachother as well.

ETA:DH was totally indifferent to what sex his kids were.

Message edited 2/8/2011 5:43:28 PM.

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Growing up I always pictured myself with a girl.

Now, after having two boys, I don't care about the sex.

Especially after what I'm going through right now. I will be lucky and blessed to be given a healthy baby. I don't care about the sex one bit.

ETA: I think it's disgusting that your friend said to you that having a boy is just better, and I'm actually really really mad for you right now

Message edited 2/8/2011 5:51:23 PM.

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Before TTC I always thought I needed to have 1 of each.

So for #1 it didn't matter what it was.

After having a first, I got used to being a boy mom and wanted more boys! The idea of 1 of each went out the window. I actually felt nervous to have a girl, since I was so used to boys and boys stuff.

ETA: Your friend that said "trust me, its better", EWWWW!
in my family the boys are sooo much more difficult right now than my girl. But I have a feeling the tables will turn when they are teenagers!

Message edited 2/8/2011 5:54:07 PM.

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I really didn't care if he was a boy or a girl, either was great. DH felt the same.

But when I was pregnant, I was absolutely certain he was a boy. And when I pictured him as a little boy, he was always a smiley blond boy (which is what he is today). So in some sense, I got excited about the idea of having a boy and would have been surprised if he was a girl. Hope that makes sense! But if he was a girl, it would have been great too.

So many people told me I was lucky to have a boy though, that girls are harder. Many of them only had boys or girls too, so they couldn't even speak from experience! I don't get this way of thinking, some children are easier to raise than others, but whether they are boys or girls is immaterial.

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We didn't really care. I know that DH REALLY REALLY wanted a boy at some point, but he would have loved whatever gender we had.

If we go for a third, i think he would love a little girl since we have 2 boys. But he wouldn't really care either way.

I have a friend who did NOT want a girl. At all. She made it so clear from day 1 that she only wanted boys. I always found it a bit odd, only b/c she didn't have a real reason. She did end up having 2 boys.

My brother, when he has kids, wants a girl. He has said that for forever...he said it scares him to think of having a boy who will prob end up growing up to be a little bad azz like him, lol..

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Dh and I did not care at all. We had some problems in the beginning of my pregnancy..all we wanted was a healthy baby. Dh says all the time that he hopes we have another little girl. I find it obnoxious when people make the "my husband only wants a boy/girl" comment. It turns my stomach.

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when i found out DS was a boy (i already have a girl) i cried! i did not want a boy, i am up front about that. i had all of these assumptions about boys etc. and i was just at ease having a DD and doing all the girl stuff...but i LOVE having a DS now and am thrilled to have both sexes. it is very different but i am so glad i have the opportunity to parent both. DS was a dream baby from 0-13 months....then he learned how to run, climb and have an opinion and i have to say...whoa! i am tired at the end of the day! DD makes me crazy in a different way-not in the physical way i mean. more in the emotional sense!

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Posted by julz33

Before TTC I always thought I needed to have 1 of each.

So for #1 it didn't matter what it was.

After having a first, I got used to being a boy mom and wanted more boys! The idea of 1 of each went out the window. I actually felt nervous to have a girl, since I was so used to boys and boys stuff.!

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I just wanted a healthy baby, but I was really happy to have a boy with my first! PHew...and for my second I was really worried when I found out she was going to be a girl...But oh how lucky I am with both!

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I always wanted a and I was over the moon when I found out Sienna was a girl. I actually was pretty convinced she was a . DH actually wanted a too and although I would be very happy if I had a down the road, I don't think either DH or I would mind if we only had girls.