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Beth
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by KateDevine
Maybe it was a baby nurse???? Aren't those generally hired for NBs??
that's what I was thinking
my BFF had one when she had her 2 kids in NYC
I think it's fairly common there- the mom was probably sleeping or doing something we another child
her older son has millions of activities he does
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Janice
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:39 PM |
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MarisaK
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
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CoutureMaMa
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
oo ok this will cause drama...
a week after i gave birth, i ended up back in the hospital and in the operating room for an emergency dnc because there was placena left inside me. so i wasnt home, and my parents were watching my 5 day old baby.. while in thehospital and for a few days after because i couldnt walk and was still hemmoraging.. so u really never know the circumstances .. i wouldnt judge on that one; definitely not...
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:45 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
yes, I am aware of that.
But, I would have walked away saying I wonder where the hell the baby's mother is. And that is the truth.
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
Well said. Alot of people dont nurse. What is your idea of "normal or right" may not be someone elses
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MarisaK
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
yes, I am aware of that.
But, I would have walked away saying I wonder where the hell the baby's mother is. And that is the truth.
 I would have done the same -
And then thought, mother effing rich b*tch -
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Fallbaby09
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
I would not call what you saw "pathetic" by any means. I would most definitely think to myself "I wonder where the babies parents are", but it could be a million things.
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BethanyLynn
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
yes, I am aware of that.
But, I would have walked away saying I wonder where the hell the baby's mother is. And that is the truth.
I would have done the same -
And then thought, mother effing rich b*tch -
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Janice
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by BethanyLynn
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
Well said. Alot of people dont nurse. What is your idea of "normal or right" may not be someone elses
wouldn't you be curious over when your baby burped, how much they drank, did they seem satisfied.
I know I am a hands on mom, no one will make sure that baby is as comfortable as me.
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:50 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
i would have taken a good look at what outfit the kid was rocking and diaper bag!
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Bxgell2
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
Ok, I get it, not something you would personally do, but there are quite a few parents out there who would - I don't see the reason behind the judgment - different people do different things - no one is getting hurt, no one is neglected, it's just different parenting perspectives. Doing one, as opposed to the other, doesn't make anyone a better parent and certainly doesn't justify judgment of the other.
These kind of judgment posts, in my opinion, speak more of the poster's own insecurities than anything else...
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MrsRbk
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
Posted by BethanyLynn
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
Well said. Alot of people dont nurse. What is your idea of "normal or right" may not be someone elses
wouldn't you be curious over when your baby burped, how much they drank, did they seem satisfied.
I know I am a hands on mom, no one will make sure that baby is as comfortable as me.
Okay, I HAVE to comment on this....
I am a VERY hands on mom.
Again, as I posted, I had a baby nurse for 3 weeks after DD was born. I NEEDED it.
I have another due soon and this time will have a baby nurse helping for 12 weeks.
Doesn't mean, I'm not hands on.
Doesn't mean I'm not bonding with my child.
I don't plan on nursing. But even if I did, I'd still have the help.
I knew EXACTLY what was going on with DD even though I had the nurse. I knew how much she was eating, how much she was burping, how much she was pooping, sleeping, etc, etc......
Just because I had a baby nurse, didn't mean that I just handed the baby over to her 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.
Some people just "need" that extra help. I get stressed and overwhelemed easily. Having someone here to support me and back me up, someone with KNOWLEDGE of taking care of little newborns made a very difficult situation for me, easier.
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:55 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
Ok, I get it, not something you would personally do, but there are quite a few parents out there who would - I don't see the reason behind the judgment - different people do different things - no one is getting hurt, no one is neglected, it's just different parenting perspectives. Doing one, as opposed to the other, doesn't make anyone a better parent and certainly doesn't justify judgment of the other.
These kind of judgment posts, in my opinion, speak more of the poster's own insecurities than anything else...
Insecurities regarding what?
Staying at home with your baby?
I was out at church with my son 5 days after csection, baby was at home with DH.
I was in classes with my son 7 days after csection, baby was at home...not in a park.
I have a feeling that if this story read "Nanny abducted 2 week old from Central Park" people would say where the hell was the mother??
"2 week old suffocated in stroller at central park with nanny"
people would say OMG, where was the mother??
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| Posted 6/24/10 2:56 PM |
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Janice
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Michelle-does your baby nurse take your 2 week old to Central Park?
Baby nurses are fine! great! my mother is a nurse and a huge help when i had my babies. But they weren't out on the town together at 2 weeks
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MrsRbk
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
Michelle-does your baby nurse take your 2 week old to Central Park?
Baby nurses are fine! great! my mother is a nurse and a huge help when i had my babies. But they weren't out on the town together at 2 weeks
Well, no because CP is quite far. But the local park that's within walking distance, I'd have no problem with that. I see it around here all the time when I take DD to the park. With DD she didn't because she was born in February.
ETA: The only time I've "judged" is when I see the local nannies at the park not paying attention to the kids and either having their own little coffee clatch, or their sitting on a bench yapping away on the phone.
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
Posted by BethanyLynn
Posted by MarisaK
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
But again, yiou're judging based on YOUR lifestyle and what you know and how you choose to raise/care for your children - There is a whole world out there of people who do things very differently, and that is THEIR 'normal'
Well said. Alot of people dont nurse. What is your idea of "normal or right" may not be someone elses
wouldn't you be curious over when your baby burped, how much they drank, did they seem satisfied.
I know I am a hands on mom, no one will make sure that baby is as comfortable as me.
this is unbelievable to me......no I wasnt and still am not curious over every little thing my child does at every second of the day. Im really laid back about things like that.
That doesnt mean that those of us have no problem leaving our children with someone at 2 weeks, 6 months, 5 or 17 arent hands on parents.
YOU think 2 weeks is too young to be out, YOU think that its important to know every single detail of what is going on. Not everyone does....so to call a parent pathetic or imply they arent hands on bc their parenting style is not the same as yours or bc their comfort level different is what bothers me about your posts and the OP.
I didnt have a nurse, but had my mom with me, and a very hard recovery, and my mom took my son out without me.....I dont see what the problem with that is?
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Bxgell2
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by Janice
Posted by Bxgell2
Posted by Janice
I will say it, I would have judged.
2 weeks is really young to be out with a nanny. I can see someone napping and a nanny at home with the baby.
But I have also met a ton of nannies while being a sahm, good bad and ugly.
2 weeks old, I was nursing a lot, making sure my baby was comfortable. The baby was not out at a park with a non family member.
Ok, I get it, not something you would personally do, but there are quite a few parents out there who would - I don't see the reason behind the judgment - different people do different things - no one is getting hurt, no one is neglected, it's just different parenting perspectives. Doing one, as opposed to the other, doesn't make anyone a better parent and certainly doesn't justify judgment of the other.
These kind of judgment posts, in my opinion, speak more of the poster's own insecurities than anything else...
Insecurities regarding what?
Staying at home with your baby?
I was out at church with my son 5 days after csection, baby was at home with DH.
I was in classes with my son 7 days after csection, baby was at home...not in a park.
I have a feeling that if this story read "Nanny abducted 2 week old from Central Park" people would say where the hell was the mother??
"2 week old suffocated in stroller at central park with nanny"
people would say OMG, where was the mother??
Insecurities about yourself and your own choices. That's the only justification I can think for a person to think that their own way must be the "right" way, and to judge others who may have differing parenting styles and choices that are neither more or less harmful to their children.
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Mommy2Boys
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
My parents watched DS for me when he was only a couple of weeks old so DH and I could get out and have dinner for an hour, is that considered pathetic????
Would I have probably wondered where the baby's mother is? Yes. But there could be a million reasons the baby was with a nanny. As long as the baby was safe and being taken care of I dont see what the big deal is.
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mrsej
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
I think it is great! I would never have thought "where is the mother" b/c there are probably a million justifiable reasons she was not there. Maybe she was sick, maybe she was taking care of the other children, maybe she wanted to spend an hour with her other kids so they didn't feel bad that there was another baby in the house, maybe she was taking a shower...who knows ? I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all.
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CaseyGirl
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
For all we know, maybe the family has an older child at home, and the nanny has been employed for a while and took the baby out to give them mom a break..who knows..
But I really think the OP was just stating her opinion about how it surprised her that a baby that tiny was out with a person other than her mother or father at such a young age.
I think the attacks should just stop..it's getting ridiculous.
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mrswask
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by eddiesmommy
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I don't know. I understand that they clearly could afford the nanny, but what ever happened to bonding with a newborn? It was such a nice day to be walking in the park... when our first son was born, it was springtime and DH and I loved to take him on walks together.
I guess it just seemed like a page out of the "Nanny Diaries" book, very stereotypical, kwim?
But you saw a 5 minute view into the babies day, who knows what was going on the other 23 hours 55 minutes?
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eddiesmommy
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Posted by CaseyGirl
For all we know, maybe the family has an older child at home, and the nanny has been employed for a while and took the baby out to give them mom a break..who knows..
But I really think the OP was just stating her opinion about how it surprised her that a baby that tiny was out with a person other than her mother or father at such a young age.
I think the attacks should just stop..it's getting ridiculous.
no, she didnt say she was surprised, she said she thought the parents were pathetic....I think thats what got everyone all riled up.
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
Wow! How can anyone judge? Maybe the mom had absoloutely no sleep that night and needed a few hours of rest?
I am probably judged by many but I had my nanny when I was on maternity leave because I have an older DD, and couldn't not keep her for 3 months. So there were times that older DD was at school. and my nanny had the baby out for walks and I was home sleeping!
I always knew what was going on with my baby - I still do even at work. I won't sit here and say what I did, like make the bottles, fed her, bathed her, even though I had a nanny there, but give a new mom a break!
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jambalady
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Re: Another "not to judge"....
I don't get it.
Is the problem that a 2 week old was with a nanny or that a 2 week old was out in public or a combination of the 2?
As a NYC mom (ok, I live in Queens, but close enough):
1. Many of my friends had nannies/baby nurses right after they gave birth, so I don't see the big deal. There's nothing wrong with getting help if you feel you need it and can afford it.
2. I don't see anything wrong with getting some fresh air with newborn and giving the mom a break.
Like others said, you don't know the circumstances.
maybe the mom had twins, and the nanny took one out.
maybe the mom has more kids at home, and wanted bonding time with the older kids so they didn't feel left out.
maybe the mom has ppd and just needed a break.
maybe she is just lucky enough to have a nanny and is getting some "me" time for herself!
I would have loved the luxury of having someone to "relieve" me for a few hours when DS was a newborn and i was sleep deprived.
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