Any else's DH overprotective?

So last night i'm having a drink and my DH is like how much of that have you been drinking lately, because it has caffine in it. I'm like i'm allowed caffine in moderation. Then he proceeds to give me a lecture about having caffine.

I looked and him and was like do you want to carry about an extra 25 lbs for the next 6 weeks and are you my dr.
I mean come on now, i have GD and ask my DH not to buy the junk food for the house. So every time he comes home from the store theres another box of cookies or cake. Hello, that's worse for me and the baby than the 1 caffinated drink i have each day

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Same here. I wasn't allowed to help paint the nursery. I got yelled at for reaching up to put freshly laundered towels away. I got yelled at for lifting even the littlest thing that might even remotly have some weight to it. He is a little overprotective. 3 more months to go!

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Not only my DH, but my ILs too. Its constant -- I cant plant flowers in the yard, cant carry the laundry basket, cant take the garbage out, cant drive to Newark Airport to pick up my dad...

Finally about a week ago I told them all to shove it! My DH is gone for months at a time training...what is my life supposed to come to a complete stop because I'm pregnant and he's not here to do things for me?? I'm not disabled...I'm pregnant! and perfectly capable of determining what I can and cant do!!

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My H has no concept of this.. He could care less if i lift something heavy or do too much.. He would probably say something if i drank alcohol or smoked cigaretts but thats probably it..

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Um, not mine ... he expects me to paint the wainscotting panels that have to go up while he does some outside work this weekend

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yes!! he actually will take something out of my hand if he thinks i shouldnt have it. its my fault really for buying him a baby book for expected fathers.

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im not allowed to do anything...LOL

he wont even let me lean in to clean the tub...

im not complaining though..

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very much so... in fact, if i'm bent over putting a sock on, DH yells that I'm squishing the baby!!!

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Posted by ShhhhTTC

yes!! he actually will take something out of my hand if he thinks i shouldnt have it. its my fault really for buying him a baby book for expected fathers.

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yes mine is, so are my il's so annoying! My DH won't let me throw out the garbage but he says its ok to clean lol

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My DH is clueless. We had an exterminator come today and I said "make sure you tell him I'm pregnant" and he said "why would the exterminator care?"

He is super annoying already though about me getting enough exercise. He heard once that it makes labor easier so that is his big focus for some reason!

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Posted by ShhhhTTC

yes!! he actually will take something out of my hand if he thinks i shouldnt have it. its my fault really for buying him a baby book for expected fathers.

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Posted by Carolyn

My DH is clueless. We had an exterminator come today and I said "make sure you tell him I'm pregnant" and he said "why would the exterminator care?"

sorry, but this made me laugh out loud at my desk!

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DH is the absolute worst. I am a little more "lax" this pregnancy than with #1 and he is WORSE. I can't...

...drink caffeine
...clean with harsh chemicals
...eat FISH...ANY FISH--even though there is only a limited amount you cannot eat...he freaks if I even talk about eating ANY!!!
...go to the mall alone (no, I am not kidding.)
...GO OUT AFTER DARK BY MYSELF!!!

YET-- he thinks its ok to make me carry my 30 lb dead weight son to bed when he falls asleep on the couch, expects everything to be as clean as always if not cleaner because I am pregnant and shouldn't be around the germs, AND expects me to work out MORE when I can barely keep my eyelids open every day!!!

MEN JUST DON'T GET IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Yes!!! And i'm still adjusting to the weirdness of it because he was SOOO not like that before i was PG- not even close! I could juggle and swallow flaming swords and he would just ask that i didnt do it in front of the TV Now, i could seriously go on and on with the examples, but i'll just mention a few that amuse me the most...

One night i actually got to the point where i yelled at him, "OMG DH, it's freakin' crystal light NOT heroine!!!!" after he freaked... FREAKED... about me going to take a sip of his.

I told him (why? i dont know) a couple of weeks ago that at work i got a big ol' thing of iced tea, he asked why i dont just go ahead and start smoking Crack too. He didnt admit to this, but i also think that he couldn't look at me for the next hour, either.

If i forget to take my prenatal (he reminds me almost everyday), he asks me 'why even bother being PG then? I mean, really, do you even Want to be PG?!" (all of this is pretty much w/ a sarcastic sense of humor, but i know that's still his way of getting his point across"

I think my newest favorite is... when i'm sleeping on my back, sound asleep, and all of a sudden i feel him slowly turning me onto my side and stuffing a pillow under my back... b/c he read that PG women shouldnt sleep on their back b/c of it crushing the vena cava

Oh, and i forgot about the Dr. Pepper incident. DH accidentally got me a large DP from Burger King. He realized the mistake as i was taking a sip out of it and started telling me "put it down, put it down". SO of course, i pretend to keep drinking it (smartazz that i am) and finally put it down. He grabs the cup and CHUGS the whole thing. 1 sip. And goes, "there! now you cant have any!" (all proud of himself). Then he had the worst gas pain and felt nauseas for the next hour because of it lol Still, he feels like he won that one.

And.. i didnt even get him any books, but he took it upon himself to sign up for the baby center emails.

I have to admit though- i really do LOVE that his paternal instinct is so strong. I also have a tendency of being lacksadasical (SP? lol) with these types of things, so its good that he balances me out. But sometimes when he quotes the baby center emails (especially regarding my 'changing body' and hormones)... its a bit much

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Posted by Carolyn

My DH is clueless. We had an exterminator come today and I said "make sure you tell him I'm pregnant" and he said "why would the exterminator care?"

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lol yes. i told him that i got a pedicure today and he got upset because i didnt call the dr first to make sure it was okay. he makes sure i take my vitamins every night like clockwork and now that its allergy season, he's gets very upset that i have to take claritin. i know hes just looking out for the baby but sometimes its like .

but i still love him for being such a great daddy to be.

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Mine is constantly reminding me to take my vitamins, can't have a hot dog--told my doctor on me when I had tuna sandwich and another time I had a greek salad and they put feta cheese on--I thinks its cute, but I really do want a hot dog!!!

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I still do the laundry - dh is never home when i need to do it - i dont feel like doing it at 8pm at night. I still clean, dust, wash bathrooms (with the all natural cleaners) wash floors - i even gave my pup a bath today.

Dh is clueless to what i do during the day when hes not home - when hes home he does the heavy lifting - like moving furniture etc.

I know when to stop and know not to push myself too much. i take lots of breaks!

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NO NOT AT ALL
we have a toddler that i primarily take care of and that in itself requires more energy than bathroom cleaning, gardening, vacuuming, or taking out the garbage. when you have another child or children to take care of that "delicate" aspect of pregnancy is gone!

edited to add he is a PITA when he sees me drinking a diet coke though!

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My DH is protective, not over protective, and I think it is nice. At least they are acknowledging that we are pregnant rather than being ignorant. I am eating it up.

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Posted by neenie

Posted by Carolyn

My DH is clueless. We had an exterminator come today and I said "make sure you tell him I'm pregnant" and he said "why would the exterminator care?"

See, this is how i THOUGHT my DH would be... i was way off!

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Posted by Shorty

Posted by neenie

Posted by Carolyn

My DH is clueless. We had an exterminator come today and I said "make sure you tell him I'm pregnant" and he said "why would the exterminator care?"

See, this is how i THOUGHT my DH would be... i was way off!

me too!!!

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Much more so now than before. But, that is because we are looking at some possible complications.