Anyone & DH sleep in seperate beds..for now?

I am tossing and turning all night..

Between the heartburn, the hip and knee pain, and (according to DH) my snoring...

He wants us to temporarily sleep in seperate beds. I hate the idea! I understand bc we are both not getting a good nights sleep but still..it makes me sad..

Anyone do this?

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No, I couldn't do it either b/c I can't sleep sometimes if DH is laying next to me. Although there are times he's passed out downstairs on the couch and I did sleep better. LOL! Lately I've been passing out earlier than DH so he'll come upstairs and watch some TV with me then when I sleep sometimes he goes and hangs out with the dog downstairs and watches TV or works on the nursery so you may want to try something like that.

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No way- I would never let DH sleep without me!

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Jen - i've been snoring horribly (according to Dave)...and the other night he told me he slept miserably because of it. i jokingly told him - there is a comfy couch in the living room - but i don't know how i'd feel if i woke up and he wasn't there... actually, i do know - i'd feel terrible....but if let's say - his work performance was being affected or he was TRULY miserable and not just being a selfish turd about it - i'd guess i'd have to get over it...

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Yes. DH has given up on me. He wants to tape my snoring. He even has to shut the door b/c he claims it's soooo loud. Whatever. Revenge for how many nights I was awaken by him!

When I was pg with DS, he slept in the other room too but that wasn't until about 7 or 8 months. I guess now, b/c I'm pg with twins and bigger, I started snoring sooner.

Honestly, I don't mind. He works late anyway so half the time I don't even know he's not there. I get a great nights sleep too.

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I have serious problems sleeping these days, similar to the 1st trimester. When I don't feel well, I like to be by myself, so there have been many a night I've woken up feeling horrible and moved to the guest bedroom. I always go to sleep in bed with DH though, no matter what. But if I wake up and can't fall back asleep, or feel just awful, I have no problem leaving the room and trying to rest in another room.

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Posted by myson220

Yes. DH has given up on me. He wants to tape my snoring.

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We did this past weekend but not really by choice. We were away with family in PA & our room had two twin beds. Usually DH & I would put them on the floor & sleep together but it was late & we both crashed. Needless to say, it was the worst night sleep!

We have a king at home & honestly my DH is dead to the world when sleeping. He doesn't hear me getting up at all.

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We slept in seperate rooms last night but it was because of HIS snoring!!!!!

I couldn't take it anymore and got out of bed, he heard me and said I'll leave you stay here. It's more comfortable.
I slept like a baby.

I dont think it has to be a set thing that every night he goes to his room. I think if he comes to bed with you and then can't get a good night sleep he can skip off to the other room. IMO, you're sleeping, it's not like you are missing out on something. Two cranky sleep deprived people doesn't make for a nice morning.

I think not being able to sleep is the worst thing. So, I have done it when the snoring calls for it.

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Yes Dh slept on the pullout couch for about 3 months or more- We just had to so both of us could get a decent nights sleep. Now he is back next to me and wee sooooo missed that (at least I did LOL)

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No but once the baby came we did so that we weren't both having sleepless nights.(baby was in bed with me).

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I sleep on the sofa in our living room almost every night.

I go into our room to snuggle up with dh about an hour before he gets up, to get that next to you feeling.

I'd rather be away from him during the night and SLEEP, than be even more tired and cranky and have HIM want to avoid me during the day

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I have a 15month old. Due to ds and house issues
ie. roof leaked) we have not slept in the same bed since October. Yes the new baby is his . One of us sleeps in the spare room with ds and the other in the master bedroom. I hope we get the leak fixed soon so ds can move into his big boy bed and I will at least get my dh for a couple months before #2 comes.

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Honestly we do it atleast half the time. Well one of us sleeps on the couch and the other one in the bed. Between being pregant and i was really sick with upper respiratory and coughing that the lazy-boy recliner just works best for me. We got used to sleeping apart.
We're both light sleepers and usually i go to sleep first. Atleast half of the nights he'll come join me in bed and when i wake up for my nightly potty break and can't fall back asleep i usually go back out to the lazy-boy so i don't wake him. Most of the time i get a better sleep when i have the whole bed to myself

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We don"t sleep in separate beds, but every four days my husband works nights and I am by myself. At first it is sad, but after a while you get used to it and get a good nights sleep. When he is there I am more aware of my tossing and turning and gettig up to pee. Then I feel bad.

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Yes, occasionally I do now and before pregnant. He is like a furnace and I like a cool bed. I slept in the guest room last night because it was too hot.

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no...but i DO wear earplugs 3-4 nights a week. DH is the snorer in our house.

I usually sleep on my side, so I put one ear on the pillow, and the other ear gets a foam earplug. It doesn't completely block out sound, but it dulls it enough so that it's just white noise and actually HELPS my sleep! AND i prop a rolled up blanket against my front to stop me from rolling on to my tummy. I'm such a tummy sleeper, but I'm getting used to the side now.

Dh gets up first in the morning, so it's not like i have to worry about not hearing my alarm unless he has a vacation day (like last week). In a situation like that, I just use my cell as an alarm and put it on vibrate under my pillow.

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No but we have a king sized bed. I go to bed a lot earlier than DH because I wake up earlier as well.

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I get the daily report in the morning, "You were snoring like crazy," "You took up the whole bed," "I can't imagine how your knee got all the way over here!"

There are some rough nights but were sticking it out. It makes me sad to sleep apart.

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I did for basically my whole pregnancy. Between his snoring, my insomnia (or passing out at 8pm), peeing, then the back pain, etc. It worked out better. Do whatever is most comfortable for you

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Towards the end of my pregnancy with DD I slept on the couch and DH slept in the bed.

Don't get upset cuz I was the one on the couch!!! It was SO comfortable for me. He said I was starting to snore REALLY bad and with my carpal tunnel I was just able to be in a better position.

It was for a short while and we were both able to get a good nights sleep

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When I was pregnant with DD, sometimes I had to sleep in the couch or in another bed towards the end of the pregnancy. Or, I made DH sleep in another bed when he complained about my tossing and turning. It stinks, but you have to do what you can to get some sleep.

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I get up sometimes and go to another room because I ping awake at weird times, but not regularly. If I was messing up his sleep, though, I would have no problem with him heading off to the guest room....I love to have the bed to myself!

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I have a feeling it's gonna come to this! I feel so bad! Every morning, he'll say "You slept good last night huh?" and I tend to disagree, but basically he wakes up any time the blankets end up completely on the other side of the bed and I'm snoozing away (he obviously isn't up when I have my lovely insomnia moments). Ever since I started sleeping with the body pillow, I keep moving the blankets off the bed. I feel bad cuz it keeps waking him up!