Anyone elase feel the same?

I never fight with DH over anything except the SK's actions/behavior, or C/S or EXW stupid azz demands, that he gives into over mine. Does anyone feel the same? It is taking a BIG toll over here You would think (or at least I did) think it would be better since they are now 17 and 19, but no such luck

Re: Anyone elase feel the same?

Yes!! I feel the same exact way that you feel. The only arguments/disagreements we ever have are over those very same issues.

For some reason I don't think it will every go away - well maybe when the SK are in their 20s or 30s.

Re: Anyone elase feel the same?

Well SS is damned near 20!! I am getting to the point of resenting them, and resenting DH for allowing such BS childish behavior, KWIM?

ETA- Did I mention that we are still paying C/S even for the 19 yr ol;d who dropped out of school and doesnt have a jo!?!?!

Message edited 5/7/2009 6:48:22 PM.

Re: Anyone elase feel the same?

that is ridiculous...what does DH divorce agreement state? He shouldn't be paying CS for a 19 yr old that is not in school! It is so frustrating....usually it continues to age 22 as long as the child is still in school if not - it ends when they are no longer a student.

I so know how you feel about starting to resent them all.....as I have mentioned in previous posts - I too began to have resentment - especially after things got ugly with SD last year - I totally washed my hands of her with that attitude and disrespect (as she has of us right now since we are such horrible parents) - her words!

BTW, isn't it crazy how child support would be paid to someone who is an adult?? I don't consider 20, 21, 22 yr olds children!

Re: Anyone elase feel the same?

I can totally understand. This is pretty much the only thing we fight about too. Actually, our newer and more ridiculous fights have been stemming around DH's need to bring SD everywhere we go.

This comes on the tails of BM telling him that his weekends should be entirely devoted to SD. Sorry but that's not reality. There are events, etc. that come up that if we had our own kids, we would be getting a sitter. Not to mention, DH picks up SD from school EVERY DAY and she stays at my house until her mom picks her up so it's not like DH doesn't see her.

Today's argument: 1. why it's inappropriate to bring SD to an adult's only bbq (DH: "But it's a bbq so what's the big deal? I don't get it." Too bad. It's not for you to get. They don't want kids there. Get over it.) 2. Why it's inappropriate to bring SD to a sales negotiation meeting we have on Monday night. I mean, I realize how kid's LOVE that type of stuff and have so much valuable input to offer so I guess I'm just being unreasonable.

Re: Anyone elase feel the same?

I too have had disagreements with DH about ridiculous requests like that ..such as bringing SD to an adult party that she was not invited to in the first place....where to they come up with these things.

Re: Anyone elase feel the same?

Not so much anymore, but I used to get frusturated when he would let the BM boss him around and treat him like an ATM and not my SD's father...It still irritates me, but now since we came close to all but losing my SD altogether ( because of the hold BM has over her) , I understand why my DH was so choosy with picking his battles with the BM- although I still wish he was more assertive...