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04bride
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anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
is engaged to be married in the spring and he got a call from an ex ( well not a real ex just some girl who he always hooked up with) and now h eis having doubts.
They were saying its normal to have SOME doubts or cold feet.what do you think?
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J9-13
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
That call P!SSED me off!! Stupid girl wants him now that she can't have him. She didn't try too hard to get him while he was available. I hope he comes to his senses.
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| Posted 10/22/08 9:54 AM |
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HeathKernandez
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
If he is considering break up with his FI, then I don't think he TRULY loved her in the first place... perhaps he was just settling..
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| Posted 10/22/08 9:54 AM |
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MrsRbk
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
Posted by KeithHernandez
If he is considering break up with his FI, then I don't think he TRULY loved her in the first place... perhaps he was just settling..
I agree.
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| Posted 10/22/08 9:57 AM |
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MrsPJB2007
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
i guess i'm different but i never understood the whole "cold feet" being "normal" before getting married. now--being cautious about making sure that you are both PREPARED for the comittment of marriage is one thing......but to have doubts about the PERSON you are marrying...nope don't understand it.
deciding to say yes and marrying the person you love is EASY -- making sure you are ready for the lifetime committment that comes with marriage...that can take more thought and i respect the idea of making sure you are ready for that. but if you get a phone call from an ex or whatever and it makes you have doubts---why the hell did you decide to propose/say yes in the first place?!? THAT kind of "cold feet" is unacceptable IMO
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:04 AM |
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legallyblonde
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
I didn't hear the call or the subsequent commentary, so without knowing details, I would say I think it's normal to sometimes have cold feet before a wedding.
I know that at times, I turned into a complete psycho over my wedding and was totally not my normal self. In fact, during our HM, my DH actually said "Oh, I'm so glad to have my girlfriend back! My fiancee scared me a little."  LOL I would absolutely not be surprised if there were times that my DH was like "What am I getting myself into? Am I doing the right thing?" I can definitely see where a phone call from a previous tryst would take you back to a happier, saner place. That being said, to THINK you might be having doubts is one thing, but to ACT on it and test the waters is entirely different.
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:09 AM |
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ThePinkGoose
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
Posted by MrsPJB2007
i guess i'm different but i never understood the whole "cold feet" being "normal" before getting married. now--being cautious about making sure that you are both PREPARED for the comittment of marriage is one thing......but to have doubts about the PERSON you are marrying...nope don't understand it.
deciding to say yes and marrying the person you love is EASY -- making sure you are ready for the lifetime committment that comes with marriage...that can take more thought and i respect the idea of making sure you are ready for that. but if you get a phone call from an ex or whatever and it makes you have doubts---why the hell did you decide to propose/say yes in the first place?!? THAT kind of "cold feet" is unacceptable IMO
I agree. I couldn't imagine having doubts about "WHO" I was marrying, I was sure of that 100%. Worrying about the commitment and lifelong responsibility to someone else....sure that's something to think about, but do it before you get engaged!  What is wrong with people!!
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:10 AM |
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MrsB-07
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
I can only speak from my experience - neither DH nor myself had that moment of "cold feet" or hesitation. We waited until we were both ready to get engaged and had a 2.5 yr engagement.... and even though we had a long gap of time between engagement and wedding, neither of us questioned it.
If he's hesitating now, he may have never really been prepared which makes me wonder why he proposed in the first place
If he is having second thoughts about getting married, i'd think it was more of a sign that something was wrong rather than something normal
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:10 AM |
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Jenn627
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
I DO think it's normal. I think it's normal to have doubts about everything.
eta: I didn't hear the call, I am just answering whether I think it's normal to have "cold feet".
Message edited 10/22/2008 10:33:29 AM.
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:32 AM |
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metagefken
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
i heard this call and thought this guy was a moron who was just flattered by all the attention he was getting. all of a sudden someone wants him who didnt want him (in a marital way) in the past and he doesnt know what to do? give me a break. what if she called after he was married? would he still have the same "doubts"? the guy is waaaaaay too immature to be married.
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:48 AM |
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DaniJude
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
Posted by MrsPJB2007
i guess i'm different but i never understood the whole "cold feet" being "normal" before getting married. now--being cautious about making sure that you are both PREPARED for the comittment of marriage is one thing......but to have doubts about the PERSON you are marrying...nope don't understand it.
deciding to say yes and marrying the person you love is EASY -- making sure you are ready for the lifetime committment that comes with marriage...that can take more thought and i respect the idea of making sure you are ready for that. but if you get a phone call from an ex or whatever and it makes you have doubts---why the hell did you decide to propose/say yes in the first place?!? THAT kind of "cold feet" is unacceptable IMO
i completely agree! i never understood it either.
i did not hear this on the radio but by what was written above this is ridiculous... i mean, he didn't even have a relationship with this person! he is questioning his decision over someone he hooked-up with?! 
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| Posted 10/22/08 10:56 AM |
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Chrisnamy
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
Posted by MrsPJB2007
i guess i'm different but i never understood the whole "cold feet" being "normal" before getting married. now--being cautious about making sure that you are both PREPARED for the comittment of marriage is one thing......but to have doubts about the PERSON you are marrying...nope don't understand it.
deciding to say yes and marrying the person you love is EASY -- making sure you are ready for the lifetime committment that comes with marriage...that can take more thought and i respect the idea of making sure you are ready for that. but if you get a phone call from an ex or whatever and it makes you have doubts---why the hell did you decide to propose/say yes in the first place?!? THAT kind of "cold feet" is unacceptable IMO
Well, Said!!!!
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| Posted 10/22/08 11:05 AM |
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Blu-ize
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
Posted by Chrisnamy
Posted by MrsPJB2007
i guess i'm different but i never understood the whole "cold feet" being "normal" before getting married. now--being cautious about making sure that you are both PREPARED for the comittment of marriage is one thing......but to have doubts about the PERSON you are marrying...nope don't understand it.
deciding to say yes and marrying the person you love is EASY -- making sure you are ready for the lifetime committment that comes with marriage...that can take more thought and i respect the idea of making sure you are ready for that. but if you get a phone call from an ex or whatever and it makes you have doubts---why the hell did you decide to propose/say yes in the first place?!? THAT kind of "cold feet" is unacceptable IMO
Well, Said!!!!
I agree as well.. the whole cold feet thing is crap. You're either in or you're not. If someone is swayed by an ex calling then they weren't ready to commit in the first place.
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| Posted 10/22/08 11:17 AM |
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kimbalina
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
I heard that call. His name was Mike. I think Mike likes the attention from this other girl, who is 'out of the country' till after his wedding.
It sounded to me like he is confused and wants this other girl and doesnt want to necessiarily get married in the first place.
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| Posted 10/22/08 12:58 PM |
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Luv2bAmom
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Re: anyone hear the topic on z100 this morning about the guy who
Posted by Blu-ize
Posted by Chrisnamy
Posted by MrsPJB2007
i guess i'm different but i never understood the whole "cold feet" being "normal" before getting married. now--being cautious about making sure that you are both PREPARED for the comittment of marriage is one thing......but to have doubts about the PERSON you are marrying...nope don't understand it.
deciding to say yes and marrying the person you love is EASY -- making sure you are ready for the lifetime committment that comes with marriage...that can take more thought and i respect the idea of making sure you are ready for that. but if you get a phone call from an ex or whatever and it makes you have doubts---why the hell did you decide to propose/say yes in the first place?!? THAT kind of "cold feet" is unacceptable IMO
Well, Said!!!!
I agree as well.. the whole cold feet thing is crap. You're either in or you're not. If someone is swayed by an ex calling then they weren't ready to commit in the first place.
Exactly. to me cold feet means you should not go thru with it period.
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