Are you a self-centered friend?

when you talk to your other friends....do you talk about them and ask how they are doing or go on and on about yourself??

I always ask about them....my best friend says it's the one thing that made her stay friends with me after all these years!

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I got together with one of my friends tonight and we talked about her vacation and stuff we used to do when we were young and crazy.

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NO!...i am always the one listening...
rarely do people hear my issues

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Posted by Redhead

NO!...i am always the one listening...
rarely do people hear my issues

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I always listen and try to always ask first how they are.

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Posted by btrflygrl

Posted by Redhead

NO!...i am always the one listening...
rarely do people hear my issues

you have issues????

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it depends on which friends i'm with. usually its 50/50 all the way around.... but when i'm around quieter people, i tend to do alot of the talking.

i dont consider myself self- centered though (but then again, amybe i'm biased?)

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Sometimes I do a lot of listening, and other times I do a lot of talking..I think it's pretty well balanced.

Re: Are you a self-centered friend?

Except for the past few months when I've needed more than I could give, I always check on my friends first

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Posted by Redhead

Posted by btrflygrl

Posted by Redhead

NO!...i am always the one listening...
rarely do people hear my issues

you have issues????

yup....we all do.most of my friends are venters....
want to yell and rarely listen...and even when they do...it is for about 10 secs..and then it is back to them

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no Im not..but I am a talker...and I talk usually more then my friends, but I make sure I ALWAYS ask..like in emails...whats new with the person or how they are...and on the phone I remind myself ten times to ask...But with most of my friends, I call when I have news or want to talk or say something and vice versa so it evens out.

and When someone else is going through something, good or bad, I dont even wanna talk about ME...
I know when Flee emailed me about being PG, she asked how I was doing in an email, and I was Like" Who the heck cares how I am...I wanna talk about YOU..."

That to me is a good freind, sure I have a million things in my life, but I sometimes like to hear more about my friends lives then my own, and I can appreciate when they do the same...

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thanks shana

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But i have to say...although i feel that way about my "real life friends" (all but one that is)
My online friends (yes ones i have met multiple times and ones that i have not)....are just the best....they are always there to listen to me and i only hope that i am as much as a valued friend as they are to me

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Posted by Redhead

But i have to say...although i feel that way about my "real life friends" (all but one that is)
My online friends (yes ones i have met multiple times and ones that i have not)....are just the best....they are always there to listen to me and i only hope that i am as much as a valued friend as they are to me

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Posted by Redhead

But i have to say...although i feel that way about my "real life friends" (all but one that is)
My online friends (yes ones i have met multiple times and ones that i have not)....are just the best....they are always there to listen to me and i only hope that i am as much as a valued friend as they are to me

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I always ask about other friends in our "circle".
I do keep in touch with many of them via AIM, but last night was great cuz I saw a lot of my friends.

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I always ask. There have been times in my life... my Dad's remarriage and divorce, his stroke that I needed them for extended periods of time.

Lately, my best friend and her extended family are going through a lot. I always make it a point to call every few days even though often she can't talk.