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babydreams
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
if you want to show off your baby then have your own party
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by Kara
Were you invited with the baby? 
No, the baby was not invited. Just wnated to see what the thoughts on this were.
And I don't really think the have my own party comment was necessary.
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| Posted 2/8/08 11:58 AM |
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MrsB-07
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
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WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....
honestly--than no.
not to be harsh--but its a shower for HER and not for you to show the baby off. she might feel like you are stealing her thunder and i don't think she would appreciate it. i know i wouldn't.
that was my thought too. but then I thought maybe she's like to see the baby, she hasn't seen her yet.
I agree with not bringing the baby. I'm sure she'd love to see your baby, but perhaps not at a party for her. I know some brides would really take that the wrong way...
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| Posted 2/8/08 12:03 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I would ask someone first but I don't see the big deal at all.
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| Posted 2/8/08 12:11 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
WE are not close. I wouldn't be doing it out of spite, just want everyone to see the baby.
Hmmm....
honestly--than no.
not to be harsh--but its a shower for HER and not for you to show the baby off. she might feel like you are stealing her thunder and i don't think she would appreciate it. i know i wouldn't.
That was my thought as I read your post! It is HER day.
PS: The day of my bridal shower my SIL had just recently found out she was pregnant and wouldnt say anything THAT day because felt it was MY DAY and didn't want to spoil it for me which I thought was soooooo sweet of her!!!! 
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
It's the kind of situation where if I don't bring her, I'd hear "why didn;t you bring the baby?" kind of insincerly, KWIM?
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
It's the kind of situation where if I don't bring her, I'd hear "why didn;t you bring the baby?" kind of insincerly, KWIM?
Then I'd tell people because this is so & so's day!
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| Posted 2/8/08 12:19 PM |
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Kara
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
Posted by Kara
Were you invited with the baby?
No, the baby was not invited. Just wnated to see what the thoughts on this were.
If the baby wasn't invited, then no, it's not okay to bring the baby.
If, however, you'd have to otherwise miss the shower, I think it would be fine to ask if you can bring her. If you can make other arrangements, though, I wouldn't even ask the host.
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| Posted 2/8/08 12:21 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
If I was going to bring her, I'd ask the host when I RSVP. But I think the bride would be too offended so I think she will stay home with daddy. 
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| Posted 2/8/08 12:43 PM |
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babydreams
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I didn't mean my comment harshly, I just meant if you want everyone to meet your baby then you could invite them over at a different time, rather than take the baby to an event that is for someone else.
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
If I was going to bring her, I'd ask the host when I RSVP. But I think the bride would be too offended so I think she will stay home with daddy.
I feel like you got your answer 3 pages ago and people won't stop pounding you with opinions.
Ladies, she's made the decision not to bring the baby for Pete's sake! 
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| Posted 2/8/08 3:54 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
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Posted by saraH
If I was going to bring her, I'd ask the host when I RSVP. But I think the bride would be too offended so I think she will stay home with daddy.
I feel like you got your answer 3 pages ago and people won't stop pounding you with opinions.
Ladies, she's made the decision not to bring the baby for Pete's sake!
It's no big! But thanks 
But I had no idae how controversial this topic was 
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| Posted 2/8/08 3:57 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by babydreams
I didn't mean my comment harshly, I just meant if you want everyone to meet your baby then you could invite them over at a different time, rather than take the baby to an event that is for someone else.
Gotcha.
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| Posted 2/8/08 3:57 PM |
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by melbalalala
I feel like you got your answer 3 pages ago and people won't stop pounding you with opinions.
Ladies, she's made the decision not to bring the baby for Pete's sake!
Seriously! Why didn't you chime in 3 pages ago, Ms. Voice of Reason?
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codybear
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by MrsPJB2007
Posted by saraH
Then it looks like she'll stay home with daddy.
maybe you can invite her over later on after the shower? or DH can come by when the shower is over with the baby and help load up gifts for the bride and she can see the baby?
I think this is the best idea!
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| Posted 2/8/08 3:58 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
And PS this is the baby in question. Wouldn't YOU want to see her at your bridal shower? I'd dress her in the towel so you got the full effect. Image Attachment(s):
Message edited 2/8/2008 4:01:58 PM.
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Kara
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by saraH
And PS this is the baby in question. Wouldn't YOU want to see her at your bridal shower? I'd dress her in the towel so you got the full effect.
 
She's GORGEOUS, though - even screaming!
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If I was going to bring her, I'd ask the host when I RSVP. But I think the bride would be too offended so I think she will stay home with daddy.
I feel like you got your answer 3 pages ago and people won't stop pounding you with opinions.
Ladies, she's made the decision not to bring the baby for Pete's sake!
It's no big! But thanks
But I had no idea how controversial this topic was
I wanted to say the same thing but was afraid that would keep it at the top of the page and continue getting responses!!
And controversial, oh yea!! This topic is discussed at least once a month on LIW. 
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
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Posted by saraH
Posted by melbalalala
Posted by saraH
If I was going to bring her, I'd ask the host when I RSVP. But I think the bride would be too offended so I think she will stay home with daddy.
I feel like you got your answer 3 pages ago and people won't stop pounding you with opinions.
Ladies, she's made the decision not to bring the baby for Pete's sake!
It's no big! But thanks
But I had no idea how controversial this topic was
I wanted to say the same thing but was afraid that would keep it at the top of the page and continue getting responses!!
And controversial, oh yea!! This topic is discussed at least once a month on LIW.
Yeah, but you know how those brides can be 
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luckystars3
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
It really depends on how close the bride is to you. For my sister bridal shower my DD was there and for my cousins too but my other cousins no babies or kids were allowed.
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GenLCSW
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
I personally wouldnt have a problem with it
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Could this be the 2008 version of pets in restaurants?
Personally, it depends on the invitation, the conversation with the bride, the baby, and the type of family (e.g. some are more gushy over babies than others)
there is no right or wrong - case by case
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| Posted 2/8/08 4:16 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by QuoteTheRaven424
Could this be the 2008 version of pets in restaurants?
Personally, it depends on the invitation, the conversation with the bride, the baby, and the type of family (e.g. some are more gushy over babies than others)
there is no right or wrong - case by case
Don't get this moved to the pets board.
I see more that there are people that would never bring a child to a shower, and those that may depending on the situation.
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mrswask
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
opps! meant this for the other thread!
Message edited 2/8/2008 8:04:46 PM.
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| Posted 2/8/08 8:01 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Babies at bridal showers?
Posted by mrswask
Just as some posters on here don't "get" the big deal about bringing babies to adult functions, I don't get why these same posters cannot see the other side - babies are not always wanted at events.
It does not mean the bride to be is a bridezilla. It is one day that is set aside to honor and shower her with attention and if the invitation did not specifically include a child or baby's name, there shouldn't even be a question about bringing the child (Sara - this isn't directed to you, but in general on the topic).
Not everyone wants a baby at an event and to those who say that a baby or child is ALWAYS wanted or always brings happiness to the event, again, not if they were not invited.
I get what you are saying. Babies don'e belong everywhere, but I don't think it's a cardinal sin to bring a baby to a shower.
I had it in my head I wasn'' going to bring DD with me, but I wanted to see what others thought. I never even thought to bring her until my MIL bought it up.
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