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smdl
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Baby "gift". What would you do?
One of DH's friend told us she would buy the bassinet since it was in her price range. We did not ask any gifts from her. So we told her what was in her price range.
The mistake I made (I think!!!).... I found the bassinet on sale at Sears, I ORDERED IT and we picked it up so she would not be charged for shipping charges. Well, DH told her about it, she said OK, that was great, etc... check is in the mail!!!
Yeah right. The check NEVER made it. I purchased the bassinet over 1 month ago.
I HATE begging. At this point, I feel it's crazy to ask her AGAIN about the money. I don't care how much it is, it's just the principle. Since this is DH's friend, I don't want an argument (although totally out of my nature to let it go normally!!!). I just will know NEVER to do that again.
What would you do???
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Posted 5/9/07 12:43 PM  |
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
Why are people like this???? I would just have to let it go I guess....nothing much you can do now. Maybe this friend is just absentminded and thinks she has time?
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| Posted 5/9/07 12:45 PM |
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saraH
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
maybe have DH mention it to her? if still nothing, as annoyed as i'd be, i'd let it go.
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| Posted 5/9/07 12:46 PM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
Me....this is what I would do...
I would eat the cost of the "gift" If it's for my child then it's something I needed and knowing how I am I wouldn't say anything (not to say that that is the right thing to do - just what I would do)
I would have DH mention to the friend that the check didn't make it's way - more as an FYI - probably have him follow up with a "don't worry about the check - we bought the bassinet because we needed it anyway" but thanks for the offer - we do appreciate it."
At that point it's up to them how they react. But I don't think I could make anyone give me a gift - even if they said the would. I would file this one in the lesson learned and not be too generous when it was for them.
Like I said -this is what I would do. It's not right or wrong - just my take. I've been disappointed too many times in the past.
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| Posted 5/9/07 12:51 PM |
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DanaRenee
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
I might call her up and say (or have DH say):
"guess what we got today?!...the bassinet you wanted to buy us!!! Wait until you see how beautiful it is, we absolutely love it!!"
and see what she says/does!! If nothing, I wouldn't push it any further.
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| Posted 5/9/07 12:54 PM |
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
If she said the check is in the mail, I would call her, maybe it got lost. I mean, sometimes it DOES happen and it would be a shame if she thinks you didn't cash the check or someone else did (although I can't imagine that happening, but sometimes I guess it does)
Well, but "I would call her" I mean, have DH call her
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| Posted 5/9/07 12:56 PM |
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smdl
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
Posted by Ang-Rich
Me....this is what I would do...
I would eat the cost of the "gift" If it's for my child then it's something I needed and knowing how I am I wouldn't say anything (not to say that that is the right thing to do - just what I would do)
I would have DH mention to the friend that the check didn't make it's way - more as an FYI - probably have him follow up with a "don't worry about the check - we bought the bassinet because we needed it anyway" but thanks for the offer - we do appreciate it."
At that point it's up to them how they react. But I don't think I could make anyone give me a gift - even if they said the would. I would file this one in the lesson learned and not be too generous when it was for them.
Like I said -this is what I would do. It's not right or wrong - just my take. I've been disappointed too many times in the past.
Yes, I don't want to force someone to buy me the present. That's was supposed to be just that... a present! Now if I have to beg and act like a collection agency, that's not going to work.
What really annoys me is that I removed it from the registry as a "favor" for her so NOBODY ELSE would give it to us!
Yes, another lesson learned!!!
Message edited 5/9/2007 12:57:47 PM.
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
Posted by Ang-Rich
Me....this is what I would do...
I would eat the cost of the "gift" If it's for my child then it's something I needed and knowing how I am I wouldn't say anything (not to say that that is the right thing to do - just what I would do)
I would have DH mention to the friend that the check didn't make it's way - more as an FYI - probably have him follow up with a "don't worry about the check - we bought the bassinet because we needed it anyway" but thanks for the offer - we do appreciate it."
At that point it's up to them how they react. But I don't think I could make anyone give me a gift - even if they said the would. I would file this one in the lesson learned and not be too generous when it was for them.
Like I said -this is what I would do. It's not right or wrong - just my take. I've been disappointed too many times in the past.
I agree....this is what I would do too.
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| Posted 5/9/07 1:14 PM |
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Lillykat
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
I would just eat the gift - the friend will either realize her check never cleared IF it was sent or she might ask and then you can say something but I would just keep quiet. - But that is just me.
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| Posted 5/9/07 1:35 PM |
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MrsBlueSash
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
Forget about it. Lost cause most likely. Maybe next time I actually saw the person I'd bring it up, but I wouldn't bother calling.
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| Posted 5/9/07 1:49 PM |
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2PreciousBlessings
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Re: Baby "gift". What would you do?
Posted by Lillykat
I would just eat the gift - the friend will either realize her check never cleared IF it was sent or she might ask and then you can say something but I would just keep quiet. - But that is just me.
Same here!!! I just hate to bother people.
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