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Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

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KAS
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Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Hi there -

My daughter is 6 days old now and I'm overwhelmed. I love her sooooooo much and we're living with my mother - however, she was out of work and I thought she'd be able to help out a lot - however, due to financial difficulties she had to start a new job the day I got out of the hospital - she's a wreck b/c she wants to be home and I don't dare tell her I want her here b/c she's already upset. Dad is helping out but he has to go back to work soon.

Anyone recommend a baby nurse or doula - and do you think we should have him/her at nighttime or during the day?

I'm just overwhelmed - emotional - no one tells you how difficult and intense it is in the beginning. I found myself crying thinking I can't do this and was projecting into the future like when she's 2 or 3 years old. Tell my mind to stop!

Thank you guys for your support!!!!!

Posted 5/2/06 11:01 AM
 
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Where are you located?
You can opt for a post partum doula if you want (they'll even help you with the laundry...). My mom isn't certified but has been doing it for years for a family of 4.

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eta. I would think it would be difficult to find someone at night though.Chat Icon

Message edited 5/2/2006 11:12:36 AM.

Posted 5/2/06 11:11 AM
 

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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon - I don't have help w/a nurse - I just wanted to say that it does get better & easier!

Posted 5/2/06 11:27 AM
 

KAS
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

thank you for the hugs - I NEED IT BADLY!!!!!!! am I normal feeling like this??? thanks everyone...........

Posted 5/2/06 11:32 AM
 

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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Posted by KAS

thank you for the hugs - I NEED IT BADLY!!!!!!! am I normal feeling like this??? thanks everyone...........



Yes it's completely normal to feel VERY overwhelmed the first weeks - even months.Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/2/06 11:35 AM
 

sunny
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Posted by KAS

thank you for the hugs - I NEED IT BADLY!!!!!!! am I normal feeling like this??? thanks everyone...........



SO normal. Chat Icon

Posted 5/2/06 11:41 AM
 

michele31
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

This is VERY normal. Is your husband home to help a bit? These women can probably help you a lot.

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Posted 5/2/06 11:42 AM
 

michele31
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

I did want to add that it is okay to be overwhelmed..not just on day 6 but on day 66 and day 600+.
Loving our children does not mean that it is always easy to handle to challenges we are faced with or like in my case, I had PPD.
Hugs to you!!!!

Posted 5/2/06 11:51 AM
 

Calla
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It is sooo hard in the beginning. I remember asking my doctor if anyone ever dropped dead purely of exhaustion from having a newborn. This is as bad as it gets in my opinion. Older babies have their own tough challenges, but nothing was as bad as the shock of those first few weeks.

I don't have recommendations for baby nurses or doulas since I'm out of state now, but I'm sure your hospital, ob/gyn or pediatrician would have some names.

Posted 5/2/06 1:33 PM
 

My2Boys
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Posted by michele31

I did want to add that it is okay to be overwhelmed..not just on day 6 but on day 66 and day 600+.
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Hugs to you!!!!



Or on day 1022! Chat Icon Well said, Michele.

Feeling overwhelmed, especially in the very beginning, is completely normal. I hope you are able to find someone to help.Chat Icon

Posted 5/2/06 1:43 PM
 

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Many hugs to you!
It is incredibly difficult in the beginning!
You may cry every day & wonder how you will make it through-but you will!Chat Icon
I had absolutely NO help after DH went back to work, and somehow I survived!Chat Icon
I don't have any recommendations for you, but this is a great place to come to for support if you need it!Chat Icon

Posted 5/2/06 1:53 PM
 

KAS
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

yes- that's what I feel like - like "how am I going to make it through this - can I really do this - am I going to be a good mom - can I do this for the rest of my life?"

man - no one really talks about this stuff when you are preggo!

Posted 5/2/06 2:36 PM
 

nrthshgrl
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Posted by KAS

yes- that's what I feel like - like "how am I going to make it through this - can I really do this - am I going to be a good mom - can I do this for the rest of my life?"

man - no one really talks about this stuff when you are preggo!



That's because we don't want to scare you. We moms need to ease each other into this. If anyone knew how truly raw & emotional motherhood would leave you, there would be a lot less of us.Chat Icon

We all feel that way...even the ones that seemingly have their act together. You've just brought home a little person without an instruction manual. It's a tough adjustment all around, but it does get better...Chat Icon Chat Icon Chat Icon

Posted 5/2/06 2:45 PM
 

yankinmanc
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

Posted by KAS
man - no one really talks about this stuff when you are preggo!



I think a million people can tell you how hard it is having a baby, but until you have one of your own, you can never really know!

And people think pregnancy is hard....

Keep your pecker up! It will get better!!!
I made it to 16 weeks this week and I never thought we would get here!

Posted 5/2/06 3:32 PM
 

ExpectingJoy
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

FM with a baby nurse recommendation...

Posted 5/2/06 3:39 PM
 

bean
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Re: Baby nurse - can anyone help? 1st week home

I saw your post and could not help but relate--I think we all can. I gave birth on March 11 and I swear I thought I could not do this the first week--between crying for no apparent reason and trying to breast feed--I thought I was a terrible mom and that it would never get better. My son is now 7 weeks and I feel sooo much better and it does get better.

Hang in there--it is tough, but it WILL get better.Chat Icon

Posted 5/2/06 7:19 PM
 
 

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