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BabyAvocado
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Being Mean to Daddy...
So Jake is deep into a "mommy only" phase and I'm feeling terrible for DH because he is just being downright mean to him. 
Daddy will ask for hugs or just a simple good night kiss and he gets "Noooo Daddy!! Go AWAY Daddy!! ONLY Mommy" And so on...
Sometimes he'll kick him out of the room (if I'm changing him or bathing him or whatever). Other times he'll flat out say "I don't love you Daddy!"
Oh and of course - if I'm not around, everything is fine and he loves Daddy again.
They had exclusive father & son time almost all weekend last weekend but as soon as I'm back in the picture and it's time for the usual routine... he wants no part of Daddy again.
I feel so bad for DH. It definitely bothers him. I know it's a phase and it'll pass but is there anything I can do? I'm starting to dread the bed time routine because I know what's coming.
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Posted 4/9/08 12:34 PM  |
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Re: Being Mean to Daddy...
Wow! I can totally relate. I have to say I thought my DD was the only one like this who could be so mean about it. Unfortuantly her mommy only phase has lasted quite a while. It got a little better when DD#2 was born and I was busier so she began to 'like' DH again. In our house I still hear those same comments like 'I love you a little, but I love mommmy a lot' or 'only mommy can help me' , 'go away' ect.......
I wish I had a solution. The same senario is by us where if I am not around all is good with DH. It is only when we are both there that she is all about mommy. The funny thing is that if DH is not home she is alll about missing him and when is he coming home! LOL. I know it has hurt DHs feelings but he seems to have adjusted to it and doesnt take her too serious
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| Posted 4/9/08 1:19 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Being Mean to Daddy...
Not that I'm glad it's happening to your DH too, but I'm glad someone can relate. 
And you have 2 ... I was hoping that having the 2nd (whenever that happens) would be the answer...but I guess even that's not foolproof! But I'm glad to hear it helped a little.
Also, people keep telling me get used to it due to the fact that he's a boy - but you have a girl and she's doing it too! 
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| Posted 4/9/08 1:54 PM |
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nferrandi
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Re: Being Mean to Daddy...
Luca deinitely has those moments. i feel so bad for Dh when he does. I know it makes him feel like cr@p. And like both of you, if I'm not around Ds is fine, but he will always choose me over DH.
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| Posted 4/9/08 2:04 PM |
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JennasMom
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Re: Being Mean to Daddy...
Jenna is doing this too, except she is being mean to Mommy
Message edited 4/9/2008 2:22:44 PM.
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| Posted 4/9/08 2:22 PM |
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BabyAvocado
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Re: Being Mean to Daddy...
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Jenna is doing this too, except she is being mean to Mommy
Awwww!! 
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| Posted 4/9/08 2:23 PM |
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Bxgell2
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Re: Being Mean to Daddy...
Alex does this a lot, and it's really hurtful to DH. He takes it WAY personally.
Honestly, I don't feed into it. I see Dh and I as a united front against the crankmonster, and she has to understand that she can't be mean to a person that mommy loves. So, when she does it, I immediately place her on the floor (because she usually does it when I'm holding her), tell her that she's not being nice to Daddy and that I don't like that, and I'll go over and give him a hug.
She learned that if she does that kind of stuff to daddy, mommy won't play or cuddle with her, so it has stopped, to some degree.
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| Posted 4/9/08 2:34 PM |
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