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donegal419
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Bereavement gift?
My best friend's husband just lost his brother...very suddenly and unexpected. i have since sympathized, but wanted to send something down to the house so he could enjoy himself.... i am looking for something a little more original than flowers or those edible arrangements.
anyone know of a catalog or company that would have something.... fun to send... maybe like popcorn, beers...
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Posted 4/7/08 10:04 PM  |
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dooodles
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Re: Bereavement gift?
Not really sure if popcorn or beers would be an appropriate gift to send if he just unexpectedly lost his brother. Maybe wait a little while until he's actually ready for fun again? He may need sometime to mourn his brothers death
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| Posted 4/7/08 10:07 PM |
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jax1023
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Re: Bereavement gift?
My parents got my DH a beer thing from Flying noodle, I believe they have a ton of other products too.
You could also try like Omaha steaks or popcorn company.
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| Posted 4/7/08 10:08 PM |
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Holly
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Re: Bereavement gift?
Popcorn Factory!
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| Posted 4/7/08 10:23 PM |
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rojerono
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Re: Bereavement gift?
I think you need to be very cautious when choosing something to send to anyone who has lost someone close to them.
When I lost my mother, someone sent me a Margarita kit. I love margarita's and I know her heart was in the right place.. but I was unnaturally agitated and upset by the gift. I couldn't believe someone was sending me a GIFT because my mother died. It upset and stressed me greatly, even though I KNOW that wasn't the intention. She wanted to send me something 'different' that might cheer me up. But at a time like that 'different' and 'cheerful' didn't really work.
Now - I also got mass cards, flowers, sympathy baskets with fruit and nuts, Baked goods and my mother's neighbors actually arranged to have dinner catered for us the night of her wake. Those kinds of gifts speak 'comfort' rather than celebration. No matter how large or small the gesture - the knowledge that we were being thought of brought the greatest comfort.
I would consider having some food delivered or brought from a favorite restaurant, sending over a tray of cookies or brownies or just offering to be there.
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| Posted 4/8/08 7:14 AM |
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donegal419
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Re: Bereavement gift?
Posted by rojerono
I think you need to be very cautious when choosing something to send to anyone who has lost someone close to them.
When I lost my mother, someone sent me a Margarita kit. I love margarita's and I know her heart was in the right place.. but I was unnaturally agitated and upset by the gift. I couldn't believe someone was sending me a GIFT because my mother died. It upset and stressed me greatly, even though I KNOW that wasn't the intention. She wanted to send me something 'different' that might cheer me up. But at a time like that 'different' and 'cheerful' didn't really work.
Now - I also got mass cards, flowers, sympathy baskets with fruit and nuts, Baked goods and my mother's neighbors actually arranged to have dinner catered for us the night of her wake. Those kinds of gifts speak 'comfort' rather than celebration. No matter how large or small the gesture - the knowledge that we were being thought of brought the greatest comfort.
I would consider having some food delivered or brought from a favorite restaurant, sending over a tray of cookies or brownies or just offering to be there.
i hear what you mean.... but i've sent the Mass card, went to the wake, etc. i was thinking on something different to show that i was thinking of him, not that i am expecting him to celebrate. do you have any suggestions? Also, they live in VA, so going down there with a meal or what have you is unfortunately not an option.
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NinaLemon
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Re: Bereavement gift?
While going down with a meal isn't feasible, I agree with the other poster that a "different" type gift may not be received well. I think the gift of comfort, like a meal, would be ideal. Often grocery stores will cater meals, or a local resturant.
We had a close friend die recently of a terminal illness and although his wife and family had a year to prepare for his death, it was a long time before they were ready for fun or cheerful sentiments.
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| Posted 4/8/08 12:51 PM |
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Re: Bereavement gift?
Posted by NinaLemon
While going down with a meal isn't feasible, I agree with the other poster that a "different" type gift may not be received well. I think the gift of comfort, like a meal, would be ideal. Often grocery stores will cater meals, or a local resturant.
We had a close friend die recently of a terminal illness and although his wife and family had a year to prepare for his death, it was a long time before they were ready for fun or cheerful sentiments.
ITA
I would really wait on the cheery gifts.
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| Posted 4/8/08 1:19 PM |
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Kierasmom
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Re: Bereavement gift?
You could have meals sent to their house. Find a place nearby and have a dinner or 2 sent over. It should be easy enough to find on google and you can pay for everything, including the tip by credit card. IMO that is very thoughtful and helpful at a difficult time.
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| Posted 4/8/08 6:37 PM |
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