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JenBenMen
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Best Friend's DH is Cheating
I am distraught for her. I know this post will probably get moved but i love you ladies.
What do I say to her? They have a 2 year old!! she is divorcing him...I feel so sad for her
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Stefanie
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
She is divorcing him because of his cheating? Does she even know this?
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:43 AM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
She found out about the cheating, confronted him --he admits it and she kicked him out. She already changed all the bank accounts and is talking to lawyers
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:46 AM |
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OMG, just be there for her. Not much you can do but listen to her and try and help her out with her DC. How awful.
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:47 AM |
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hbugal
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
Just be there for her and hate him as much as she does...but keep in mind the whole time how much she loves him. Ive been in both places.
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:48 AM |
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bicosi
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
Just be there for her. There's never the right thing to say to anyone during such a difficult time. I do commend her for her strength! Hang in there! I'm sorry for your friend!
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:48 AM |
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Shelly
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Posted by Mrs. Patticakes
OMG, just be there for her. Not much you can do but listen to her and try and help her out with her DC. How awful.
I agree. Nothing you can do can change the situation. Just be there for her. Let her talk. Don't offer advice unless she asks about it, and just be a good friend- help her with the baby, take her out once in a while and support her in whatever she decides.
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:49 AM |
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Ang-Rich
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
Posted by Shelly
Posted by Mrs. Patticakes
OMG, just be there for her. Not much you can do but listen to her and try and help her out with her DC. How awful.
I agree. Nothing you can do can change the situation. Just be there for her. Let her talk. Don't offer advice unless she asks about it, and just be a good friend- help her with the baby, take her out once in a while and support her in whatever she decides.
ITA - with both these comments. Just be there for her...however she needs you.
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| Posted 2/13/08 9:53 AM |
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Bklyngrl
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
Posted by Ang-Rich
Posted by Shelly
Posted by Mrs. Patticakes
OMG, just be there for her. Not much you can do but listen to her and try and help her out with her DC. How awful.
I agree. Nothing you can do can change the situation. Just be there for her. Let her talk. Don't offer advice unless she asks about it, and just be a good friend- help her with the baby, take her out once in a while and support her in whatever she decides.
ITA - with both these comments. Just be there for her...however she needs you.
I agree with all above too. Poor girl thank GOD she found out
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| Posted 2/13/08 10:04 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
My best friend went through a divorce (not cheating thought). I agree the best thing you can do is listen AND especially help out with the daughter.
I set up a regular weekend night/day for her to have drop off babysitting. During the week, we would pick her daughter up from daycare when we picked up Maddie, just so she could go shopping during the week, and when the time came go out on dates. She didn't want her daughter or her parents to be involved in her love life.
After this is all said & done, go out with her so she can feel social again. Head to the gym with her, etc. I'm not saying jumping into a new relationship is the answer but I'm sure her self-esteem is hurting.
The only suggestion I would make to her is counseling. From what I've seen divorces can be nasty - and the baggage she has from her last relationship will carry on to the new one if she doesn't deal with it.
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| Posted 2/13/08 10:09 AM |
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JenBenMen
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
This is all very helpful...Thank you
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| Posted 2/13/08 11:15 AM |
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Janice
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
ughhhhh...my heart goes out to her
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| Posted 2/13/08 11:27 AM |
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pmpkn087
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Re: Best Friend's DH is Cheating
I say good for her!!!!!!
As far as what you can do, I think just being there to support her and listen when she needs to vent. The one thing you don't want to do is bad mouth the STBX. she will have enough bad feelings for him and doesn't have to hear it from everyone else. So, I think just listening is the best thing!
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