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julz33
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Big Decisions
I feel so overwhelmed right now. I have some big decisions to make.
A month ago I was depressed that I had nothing and now there are TOO MANY choices.
I got advice from my mom, DH, & friend but no progress. I feel like they are pulling me in all different directions.
How do you go about making a big decision?
I am about to go write out my pros and cons
And I bet I will be up all night too
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lvdolphins
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Re: Big Decisions
Make out a list like you said. Everything will work out. Good Luck!
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:12 PM |
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CowgirlChick97
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by julz33
I feel so overwhelmed right now. I have some big decisions to make.
A month ago I was depressed that I had nothing and now there are TOO MANY choices.
I got advice from my mom, DH, & friend but no progress. I feel like they are pulling me in all different directions.
How do you go about making a big decision?
I am about to go write out my pros and cons
And I bet I will be up all night too
make a list!!!!!!!!!!
u know wahts funny-you were actually on my PRO list when i was picking my photographers- lmao! (ur pics)
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:12 PM |
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NewYawkah
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Re: Big Decisions
A pros and cons list always makes things easier for me!!!
Good luck!!!
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:13 PM |
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VirginiaDeb
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Re: Big Decisions
I know how you feel! I went from having no jobs, to many, and it was so stressful. Def write the pro and con list... It's the best way to help you sort though and help decide what's best for you!
Good luck!
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:15 PM |
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MrsPornStar
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Re: Big Decisions
I always make a pro and con list. Then I think really hard and try to make the best decision.
Good luck!
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:16 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Big Decisions
Pro and con lists are good, but I often think about how the quality of my life will be affected by the choice.
For example, I changed careers and knew it would be tough to go back to school, but knew it was a temporary thing, even though it took 6 years to get my second bachelors degree. It was a tough choice, but I knew either way, I would be 6 years older. I also knew that if it didn't work out, I could go back tot he work I did before, just in a new location. The job I had wasn't making me entirely happy, so I needed a change, but just had to think about what kind of change would be best.
And when in doubt, I lean more towards what will bring me (and DH by association) more happiness.
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:23 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Big Decisions
You know, all of my options are SO DIFFERENT! I mean very very very different!
I wish I could post everything here to get more opinions but I don't think that would be the smart thing to do.
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:24 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Big Decisions
Julz, I think something to consider too is if you will be starting a family soon, and how that fits into your plans with each choice.
I am struggling with this a bit right now. If I knew for sure I was having a child, I would probably stay forever at my current job. But, if I knew we weren't having kids, I might be more adventurous and look for something a little more challenging (but less secure). We are also looking to buy a house soon and if I knew we weren't having kids I wouldn't be worrying as much about school districts in the areas we are looking at.
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:28 PM |
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randella
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Re: Big Decisions
definitely make a list-- but in the end, you need to go with your gut.
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:28 PM |
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My2Boys
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Re: Big Decisions
I agree w/ the other ladies. Have you made a list of pros v. cons? You could always flip a coin.
Good luck!!
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:28 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Big Decisions
Does anyone want to give me an opinion?
FM me, and I will FM you my list
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:48 PM |
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randella
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by julz33
Does anyone want to give me an opinion?
FM me, and I will FM you my list
I'll help you out!
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:49 PM |
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julz33
i run for bacon
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by randella
Posted by julz33
Does anyone want to give me an opinion?
FM me, and I will FM you my list
I'll help you out!
Thanks!
You always come through for me
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| Posted 9/14/06 10:57 PM |
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evenedan
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Re: Big Decisions
I agonize and analyze until I'm sick of thinking about it, then I go with what's been in my gut all along.
Good luck!!
Message edited 9/14/2006 11:26:26 PM.
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| Posted 9/14/06 11:26 PM |
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julz33
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by evenedan
I agonize and analyze until I'm sick of thinking about it, then I go with what's been in my gut all along.
Good luck!!
My gut is telling me one thing, but that one is also the biggest risk
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| Posted 9/14/06 11:33 PM |
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peabody
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by julz33
Posted by evenedan
I agonize and analyze until I'm sick of thinking about it, then I go with what's been in my gut all along.
Good luck!!
My gut is telling me one thing, but that one is also the biggest risk
Julie, go with your gut! It is usually right!
Life is about taking risks and you only live once! I say go with your gut!
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| Posted 9/14/06 11:35 PM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Big Decisions
You've been given great advice already, so I'm just left with for you.
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| Posted 9/14/06 11:45 PM |
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evenedan
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by julz33
Posted by evenedan
I agonize and analyze until I'm sick of thinking about it, then I go with what's been in my gut all along.
Good luck!!
My gut is telling me one thing, but that one is also the biggest risk
You seem to make wise decisions for yourself. Trust your gut. Sometimes you have to take a risk. Sorry, I kind of feel like I'm talking out my butt since I don't know what specifically you are dealing with here. But what I'm trying to say is you're a smart girl who has made great decisions for herself up to this point, you've earned the right to trust your gut and take a risk.
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| Posted 9/15/06 12:03 AM |
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Beth
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Re: Big Decisions
follow your gut and heart
you can FM me also- I am at a crossroads myself- go with the safe bet- or follow my heart and what will make me happy- even if it's risky
your young- and you only live once
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| Posted 9/15/06 12:24 AM |
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Re: Big Decisions
I was in a similar boat- a big decision had to be made and it was a struggle. I couldn't post about it here either.
But I know I made the right decision- I went with my gut and reading this thread reinforces it. 
Good luck to you!!!!
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| Posted 9/15/06 8:15 AM |
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LaurenExp
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Re: Big Decisions
You know, it's funny. I know I should make a list, a physical list of pros and cons, but I never do that. I'm so not that organized!
I usually just go with my gut.
Good luck to you! You'll make the right decision that is best for you!
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| Posted 9/15/06 8:17 AM |
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GenLCSW
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| Posted 9/15/06 8:47 AM |
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Re: Big Decisions
FM!
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| Posted 9/15/06 8:57 AM |
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itsbabytime
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Re: Big Decisions
Posted by julz33
I feel so overwhelmed right now. I have some big decisions to make.
A month ago I was depressed that I had nothing and now there are TOO MANY choices.
I got advice from my mom, DH, & friend but no progress. I feel like they are pulling me in all different directions.
How do you go about making a big decision?
I am about to go write out my pros and cons
And I bet I will be up all night too
I have a VERY hard time with big decisions as well! My biggest one right now relating to my career vs. having a baby. Thinking out the pros and the cons helps but what really makes the decision for me is thinking what I could absolutely not live without - since I don't know your situation I will apply it to mine - in a VERY oversimplified way ofcourse...
Although my career is important to me but I am also getting older as is my family and I want a big family of my own. Could I forgive myself if I ended up without achieving everything I wanted career wise or not achieving it as soon as I wanted it to...yes. But, if i put off having a baby and it became difficult to have one or more children like I want and my family wasn't all in good health to meet my baby...that I would NEVER get over. So despite there being more cons then pros of that decision...decision made!
Hope this makes sense and helps 
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