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WhatNow
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Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
My 2 BFs threw a major dozy our way: 3rd B'day party for my friend’s daughter is the same day and the same time as my other friend's son bris. Of course, both of them said that they will understand if I chose one over another. Yeah, right! I know there will be no scenes or anything but there will be some hurt feelings...
B'day party is from 11:30 to 1pm and Bris is at from 11 till 3pm, or so my friend said. Of course, the actual ceremony will only go till 12 but I guess the place is reserved till 3 so people can eat and socialize afterwards.
The only solution I came up with was to go to the party and than drop by the bris party to congratulate the parents and give the gift. Of course, that would make us miss the most important part, the actual ceremony.
I just can't believe this happened!!! The new mom of twins is just so out of it right now that she has no idea what's going on around her and she completely ignored, although unintentionally, the previously made plans for the 3 year old B'day party.
Of course, the only person put into this super awcward position are me and DH!
What would you do???
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Posted 4/17/06 12:07 PM  |
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Ambersmom
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
I have the same dilemma this weekend. I have the first birthday party of a very special little girl starting at 2:00 (in Suffolk). I also have the birthday of my niece starting at 4:00 (in Nassau). So I guess I'll stay at one party for an hour and a half or so and then take off for the other party. Not the best solution but I want everyone to know I'm there for them Sometimes you have to bite the bullet and manage your time the best way possible.
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| Posted 4/17/06 12:11 PM |
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HillandRon
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
That's a hard stuation to be in but remember a Bris only happen once in a baby's life and can only happen 8 days after the baby's is born ( you have no control) and birthdays happen every year...
I would go to the b-day party for an hour and then go to the bris.... If you miss the ceremony it is ok at least you will be able to go to the festivities after the bris.
If it was me, I would just be happy that you could make it at all..
When it was my son's bris it fell on the day that school started and it was also in the morning. Alot of people couldn't make it since they were teachers and I understood, I am sure your friend will understand. Trust me she won't even know you missed the ceremony.. I was so out of it the day of the Bris... (still recovering)
Message edited 4/17/2006 12:43:32 PM.
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| Posted 4/17/06 12:40 PM |
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michele31
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
That is a hard situation but I would most likely attend the religious event. It is a one in a lifetime event. I would make sure I saw the birthday girl/boy during the week.
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| Posted 4/17/06 12:46 PM |
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Boobobunny
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
Posted by HillandRon
That's a hard stuation to be in but remember a Bris only happen once in a baby's life and can only happen 8 days after the baby's is born ( you have no control) and birthdays happen every year...
I would go to the b-day party for an hour and then go to the bris.... If you miss the ceremony it is ok at least you will be able to go to the festivities after the bris.
If it was me, I would just be happy that you could make it at all..
When it was my son's bris it fell on the day that school started and it was also in the morning. Alot of people couldn't make it since they were teachers and I understood, I am sure your friend will understand. Trust me she won't even know you missed the ceremony.. I was so out of it the day of the Bris... (still recovering)
I couldn't agree more...a Bris will only happen one...and a birthday will happen every year.
I would go to the Bris and send a gift to the birthday party.
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| Posted 4/17/06 1:33 PM |
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rose825
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
I would go to the party and then (maybe leave a little early) but head over to the Bris. I think it would be nice to show support to both. I am sure both of your friends would appreciate it.
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| Posted 4/17/06 7:45 PM |
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Freddie
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
maybe send DH and son to the bday party and you go to the bris? Then leave a bit early to make it for the end of the party?
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| Posted 4/18/06 8:23 AM |
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Elizabeth
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
Posted by michele31
That is a hard situation but I would most likely attend the religious event. It is a one in a lifetime event. I would make sure I saw the birthday girl/boy during the week.
I'd do this too. I have learned my lesson about trying to fit too many things into one day, especially with a child of your own in tow. It's OK to have to decline an invitation sometimes. Hopefully the friend truly understands. I know I would if someone couldn't make it to my child's bday party, be it their 1st, 3rd, 8th etc. for whatever reason. I like Michele's solution to see the bday child during the week. What 3 year old wouldnt love to feel special and receive yet another present after their big day is all over with? (I wouldnt mind it either and Im a bit older than 3 myself LOL)
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| Posted 4/18/06 9:38 AM |
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Big Dilemma: 2 parties in 1 day!
Since your son is still young, I would do the birthday party first & then the bris (if they were near by).
If he was a toddler, I'd do the bris & then the party because it's harder to get older kids to leave a birthday party.
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| Posted 4/18/06 10:11 AM |
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