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Stefanie
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Birthday advice needed...
Thanks everyone..
Message edited 2/6/2006 12:17:03 AM.
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MrsJ
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
I would remind DH that his mother's birthday is coming up and he needs to decide what he wants to get her...maybe even ask him to go get it. Its kind of a situation where you have to do something for her to keep the peace. I guess you could give her a gift only from Jared but DH probably wouldnt like that.
When I get fed up with my inlaws I tell DH he has to go get the gift.
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| Posted 2/2/06 1:57 PM |
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
get her a gift....its so much easier to just get her a gift and keep the peace......she will always be your babys Grandma and your DH's Mom ya know so I would just get her something
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| Posted 2/2/06 1:58 PM |
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Redhead
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Unfortunately i think i would just get her the group gift and call it a day...
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
get her a gift
perpetuating pettiness leads nowhere
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| Posted 2/2/06 1:59 PM |
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Stefanie
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Yeah...I kinda thought you all would say that....
Damn, I wanted to be petty...
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Shorty
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
I'd be petty.
I'd send the card, leave a message, and if anything is ever said, just say, "Oh, I thought we weren't doing gifts anymore?!"
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CookiePuss
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Posted by Stefanie
Yeah...I kinda thought you all would say that....
Damn, I wanted to be petty...
You can be petty - just give a gift from DH and the baby. She'll get the message.
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
and then DH will have to deal with his mother
trust me, no man likes being placed in the middle of his wife and his mother
do him a favor and send the gift to keep the peace
tit for tat stuff is petty and silly
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
my MIL will be petty sometimes ....its so much easier to just do the mature thing so I try to
she sent her oldest grandson his own special invitation to MY rehersal dinner but didnt send one to my daughter
THAT TOTALLY ****** ME OFF SO I CALLED HER OUT ON IT
then she invited people to my house to sleep here while I was at a hotel for my wedding night without asking me.....she said DH said it was ok but she never even asked him
after that I just feel like she is so petty and immature I just do the right thing .....ITS EASIER
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| Posted 2/2/06 2:06 PM |
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dpli
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
I would let DH choose a gift and card for her, and sign it from all of you. What problem could she possibly have with that?
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QuoteTheRaven424
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
i got the perfect solution
sign the card as "The (Last Name) Family"
this way, you are accounted for, but your name isn't there
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Stefanie
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
That's exactly what he'll do and then that defeats the purpose of my post.
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nrthshgrl
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Posted by Shorty
I'd be petty.
I'd send the card, leave a message, and if anything is ever said, just say, "Oh, I thought we weren't doing gifts anymore?!"
I would probably do this because I'm spiteful.
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DonnaJoe708
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Stefanie, I go through the same thing with my MIL. My 30th was last May and I still haven't received a card or gift for it. Her 50th was back in October, and as much as I would have loved to snub her, DH and I did get her a nice gift. DH did go out and buy it as I refused to go out of my way for her. 
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Kate
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
I don't see the need to get her a gift at all. Jared is the only one who should be getting birthday gifts. This woman is not a child and doesn't need presents from you. Send her a card to acknowledge the day, and that's it. 
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Shelly
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
I would go with a group gift from all of you. This is the kind of situation where you need to be the bigger person.
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Posted by CaptainCharisma424
i got the perfect solution
sign the card as "The (Last Name) Family"
this way, you are accounted for, but your name isn't there
I'd do this, too.
Think of it this way- if you buy separate gifts from Dh , you and the baby, it will probably be more $ than one "family" gift.
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MrsJ
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
You could get her a group gift - perhaps a book on Etiquette
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Kate
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Posted by MrsJ
You could get her a group gift - perhaps a book on Etiquette
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mskimmy98
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Posted by nrthshgrl
Posted by Shorty
I'd be petty.
I'd send the card, leave a message, and if anything is ever said, just say, "Oh, I thought we weren't doing gifts anymore?!"
I would probably do this because I'm spiteful.
Me too!!!!
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| Posted 2/2/06 2:59 PM |
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BCK1029
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
I have this problem all the time.
My b-day is right after Christmas/New Year's and a lot of friends/family forget or never give a gift.
It bothers me a lot, but I still usually get them gifts because they get my DH gifts, etc.
It is often difficult to fight the urge to be petty!!
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Janice
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Re: Birthday advice needed...
Posted by MrsJ
You could get her a group gift - perhaps a book on Etiquette
I am in same boat. In the 11 years I have been with Leo, his mother has never done a thing for my b-day. Leo always got her something(off the list she would give) and I would sign the card. She would only call in Spanish to thank Leo....so when we got married I stopped signing the card.
F her...you don't owe her a thing.
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