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BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
I know everyone says you can't spoil them until they are 6 mts old... well, he is almost 6 mts old, and I'm sorry... the kid is spoiled!!!
He screams and cries now alll the time, just for me...
In daycare, he had a great day. after screaming all morning for me.
I picked him up from daycare this evening - he was sitting up, looking in the mirror, smiling and happy. He saw me, and smiled. Then began HOWLING. His teacher said she never heard him do that. Then he threw himself back on the boppy and had a full fledged tantrum. Kicking feet and everything!!!
An older woman then proceeds to pick him up and coddle him - I told her to put him down, that I'm not pcking him up for that...
So now I have this little tantrum monster... What am I gonna do????
Message edited 9/14/2007 6:58:02 PM.
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Re: Oh my God this kid....
I think the same thing would happen with my friend's daughter. She thought it was b/c her daughter had forgotten that mommy wasn't there all day, then when she saw her, was reminded and got freaked out.  I don't understand it, but maybe that's what's going on?
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| Posted 9/14/07 6:00 PM |
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Posted by MsG
I think the same thing would happen with my friend's daughter. She thought it was b/c her daughter had forgotten that mommy wasn't there all day, then when she saw her, was reminded and got freaked out. I don't understand it, but maybe that's what's going on?
Is he going thru that allll day though??? He gets so upset when he sees me, but its because he wants me!!! Weird!!!
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| Posted 9/14/07 6:58 PM |
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
bumping for advice....
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| Posted 9/14/07 9:17 PM |
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BaroqueMama
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
My advice is that you need to train him to play independently. Just like you need to sleep train some babies, you need to train them for this, as well. I should know because my daugther was one of them I would set her up in the pack n play with tons of toys and started by leaving her for 5 minutes. She screamed the whole time, but gradually, I was able to stretch that time out. It really was the only thing that worked for us, and even now I have to remind myself when she gets fussy not to run to her. HTH!
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Are you sure it's a "tantrum"?? He seems a bit young for that - he has NO other way to express himself, and it seems to me that his emotions just got the best of him when he saw you. I think I'd just hug and cuddle him when I came in to pick him up - regardless of how he "behaved".
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Posted by prncss
My advice is that you need to train him to play independently. Just like you need to sleep train some babies, you need to train them for this, as well. I should know because my daugther was one of them I would set her up in the pack n play with tons of toys and started by leaving her for 5 minutes. She screamed the whole time, but gradually, I was able to stretch that time out. It really was the only thing that worked for us, and even now I have to remind myself when she gets fussy not to run to her. HTH!
Uh, I'm an idiot. I read your original post and I totally misunderstood it
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
I am in the same boat with my 8 month old. I told everyone, you can't spoil a newborn. I held mine non-stop. He never wanted a swing, stroller, bouncer...nothing. Then combined with nursing, he is seriously attached at the hip.
Its almost sad, we try and roll the ball back and forth to each other...he gets up, sits on my lap, and we have to roll the ball against the wall so it rolls back to us. he's a nut.
I still don't know if I call him spoiled. Clingy yes. When he drives me crazy I sing to myself "All he needs is love...love." 
So, I guess I really have no advice. I think when they are ready to, they will go out on their own. Josh started finally napping in his crib yesterday. For 8 months, he only napped in my arms...now out of nowhere, we are 2 days in his crib.
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| Posted 9/14/07 9:47 PM |
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Posted by prncss
Posted by prncss
My advice is that you need to train him to play independently. Just like you need to sleep train some babies, you need to train them for this, as well. I should know because my daugther was one of them I would set her up in the pack n play with tons of toys and started by leaving her for 5 minutes. She screamed the whole time, but gradually, I was able to stretch that time out. It really was the only thing that worked for us, and even now I have to remind myself when she gets fussy not to run to her. HTH!
Uh, I'm an idiot. I read your original post and I totally misunderstood it
Not at all - you are right on with this - I did this all night...
This is part of the problem - he just wants me and doesnt know how to play by himself - so I had him do tummy time and continued to talk to him, coming up to him and then leaving briefly. Same thing with exersaucer and jumperoo... In between, LOTS of cuddle and together time, but then moments where I'd briefly leave him alone - even if he cried for a bit, he would stop and check out a toy or a part of his exersaucer, then I'd praise him and kiss him to reward playing with the toy - pairing me with other things so he knows it doesnt mean I'm leaving him.....
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Posted by Janice
I am in the same boat with my 8 month old. I told everyone, you can't spoil a newborn. I held mine non-stop. He never wanted a swing, stroller, bouncer...nothing. Then combined with nursing, he is seriously attached at the hip.
Its almost sad, we try and roll the ball back and forth to each other...he gets up, sits on my lap, and we have to roll the ball against the wall so it rolls back to us. he's a nut.
I still don't know if I call him spoiled. Clingy yes. When he drives me crazy I sing to myself "All he needs is love...love."
So, I guess I really have no advice. I think when they are ready to, they will go out on their own. Josh started finally napping in his crib yesterday. For 8 months, he only napped in my arms...now out of nowhere, we are 2 days in his crib.
I dont mind him wanting to be with me... I LOVE that he wants to be with me... what I dont love is how miserable he gets when I cant hold him - I have to get ready for work, and I have to do things around the house sometimes where I have to put him down, and he is so miserable it breaks my heart. Its not his reaction at daycare, i understand that because I missed him but its how upset he gets at home when I cant carry him....
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Posted by lipglossjunky73
but its how upset he gets at home when I cant carry him....
that's the story of my life its unreal how many things I get done with one arm. I don't believe in letting josh cry. Its not in me. I shower at night after he's asleep, I am cooking dinner now...I do almost everything at night. ironing, cleaning. I tell myself this won't be forever, just right now. I don't know if I created the monster or gave birth to a monster
he is really okay with anyone who is holding him. He only reaches for me when he sees me. I think he is such a cuddle monkey that he needs someone in his arm's reach at all times. When I have stuff to do in the morning, I throw him in bed with DH. He climbs all over leo but that buys me time.
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Re: BTDT moms of 5-6 mt olds - help!!!
Posted by Janice
Posted by lipglossjunky73
but its how upset he gets at home when I cant carry him....
that's the story of my life its unreal how many things I get done with one arm. I don't believe in letting josh cry. Its not in me. I shower at night after he's asleep, I am cooking dinner now...I do almost everything at night. ironing, cleaning. I tell myself this won't be forever, just right now. I don't know if I created the monster or gave birth to a monster
he is really okay with anyone who is holding him. He only reaches for me when he sees me. I think he is such a cuddle monkey that he needs someone in his arm's reach at all times. When I have stuff to do in the morning, I throw him in bed with DH. He climbs all over leo but that buys me time.
Thats Cailen....
There are nights when I go to kickboxing that I shower at night - but then theres getting dressed, and putting on makeup!!! I cant do wither with one hand - and I've tried!!!
Plus loading the car - there are a hundred cement steps, I dont like doing it with anything else in my arms when I carry him....
I dont think its ever in a mom to let her baby cry, but theres just no getting around it at times... I have so much going on between my stepdaughters (who thankfully will also entertain him,) work, and trying to keep the house somewhat together (its still a total disaster) that there are times when he must be put down...
I discovered if I put him down on a mat though, he is better than when he is in the bouncy seat waiting for me to come to him....
ETA - DH leaves at 4 in the morning, so there goes any help in the morning!! and he comes home 8 at night, sometimes 9. So its me again....
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