calling to wake adult children.

my bil lives at home with his parents. he is currently in the police academy and needs to be up early, like 4 am early. so my mil calls him to make sure he is up.

he is 24 and knows how to use an alarm clock. i told my mil this yesterday b/c the topic came up. she says its b/c he doesn't want to be late. oh well, i said. then that's his mistake, not yours.

i've never had a parent call me to wake me up. and i've never had to call dh to wake hime up.

thoughts on this?

Message edited 1/12/2008 9:34:16 AM.

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i don't get it. He lives at home with his parents and his mom calls him?

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yeah, on his cell.

that or she meant that she yells downstairs. either way, she's waking him up.

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Oh this mans poor future wife

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As long as he and his mom are ok with it, I don't see the big deal at all.

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I used to do that in college when I had to be at a final at 8 Am, which I was not used to back then. I would have ny dad call me and make sure I was awake.

Now that I'm married, I would never do that.

ETA- my sister is 22 and just started her first professional job out of collee. SHe lives at home, and my parents will knock on the door to wake her up. I dont think its a big deal when you live home.

Message edited 1/12/2008 9:51:42 AM.

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When I first moved to NY my dad used to call me to wake me up. The difference is he wanted to do it and I was 500 miles away. I told him I had an alarm clock but that didn't stop him.

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My GF does this with her BF. He is 32. I find it weird, but it works for the both of them.

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i don't see anything wrong with it, it seems like he is using his mom as a back up just in case. i would do the same if i were still at home.

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I find it bizarre b/c he has an alarm clock.

i think its more my mil's need to be needed, then my bil's need to be woken up.

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I think it's a bit ridiculous

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I call my DH all the time to make sure he is up. He can sleep through the alarm or hits the sleep instead of snooze button, so I am back-up. I don't think it is a big deal.

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I would have my mom do it if it was really super important that I got up and I was paranoid that the power would go out (ie, finals week) but otherwise, that is what alarm clocks are for.

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ya know, I call DH every now and then when I know he's dead sleeping or when he's sick, but I do find that odd a bit.

He does live at home, so I would appreciate the help of getting up especially at 4am!

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my thoughts on this are, what is he going to tell his capt or lt or whomever when he fails to report on time one day. "my MOM forgot to wake me up." would you want to tell someone that?

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i have some experience with this (not first hand, but you catch what i'm saying...)... you're 100% right. She likes mothering him. It's bothering her that he's almost a grownup.

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well.. it depends. is he also setting his alarm clock, and just using her call as a backup?? i know some people who just can't wake up to alarms! who have will just keep hitting the snooze button and go back to sleep.... especially at 4 AM i could see why he might want a back up.

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To this day, if I have an important appointment earlier than I am used to, I set my alarm and tell my mom to call me as well. Shes always up early and since I am not a good morning person, she is my backup. I honestly dont see the big deal at all.

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Maybe she likes doing it and he likes having her do it. There isn't anything wrong with it...if she wants to do it, why not!

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enabling and needs to stop

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If I lived at home, my Mom would probably do the same thing. She's probably just worried that he will mess up this opportunity. My Mom is also a big worrier.

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Its stupid but my mom does the same thing for my brother. He is the baby and always will be.

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So does BIL ask his mom to wake him, or does MIL just do it because she's neurotic about her son being late? I think if BIL is asking mom to do this, he needs to be shown how to use an alarm clock and grow up. If mom is just doing this becuase she wants to, well, it just makes it easier for him.

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What is wrong with this? IMHO, nothing. First of all, I think he IS being responsible. He has a back-up plan. Perhaps alarm clocks work for him, but not at 4am and he wants to make sure he doesn't get up late. Or maybe he is using the alarm and again mom is a back up plan. He lives home. I think it is one of the benefits of being home.